I've been married once and it was to a single mom. She left me and I struggled with missing her but overall I am less depressed than the latter stages of our relationship. I took a break from women and focused on me. I lost weight, am working on my degree, and have regained my confidence.Good morning,
I messaged a member earlier asking their insight on this, so I decided to make this an open discussion.
I'm recently divorced. This is my third failed marriage. I can make up all the excuses and do the blame game all I want, but the fact of the matter is the marriage failed. This last divorce re-opened old wounds that I thought were healed. Since the divorce, I've been suffering from PTSD, depression, and a feeling of "being lost". I believe I may have traits of BPD. It's the same pattern with me: Meet a female, strong frame, fall in love fast, relationship, drama, weak frame, relationship ends, begging them to take me back, regrets, depression, and so on...
I'm extremely jaded.
I'm tired of the same pattern of when a relationship ends I run to dating apps to try to get over the last chick. I'm of tired of thinking "She's the one." I'm tired of things going so well in the beginning, but then things go horribly wrong towards the end. These failures have taken a huge toll on my mind frame. I've been studying Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant more and more over the past few months to really study their mind frame. Yeah, it's basketball. However, it's the mind frame of winning they have. I'm trying to have that same mind frame in my life: winning. The problem is, I was trying to win in those marriages and the end result was failing. I hate failing. I hate losing. I'm at the point where I have no desire to even approach a female, talk to a female, "swipe right" on a female, and lost all desire to ever get married again. I'm done man.
Have any of you ever went through a horrible breakup/divorce and you took a break or just went Monk Mode for a while?
Taking a break is great. It lets you reassess your priorities. It gives you time to better yourself. It gives your heart time to heal. It helps keep you from making the same mistakes.
Hit the gym. Never marry again. Stay away from single moms for an ltr but they're fine to lay if you don't catch feelings.