This famous quote is from Winston Churchill, but experts say it came from Victor Hugo.
Anyhow, I think some of us (including myself) don't go after what we want in life enough because we want everyone to like us.
Or.....
You have a nice guy/good guy image that you want to protect at all costs. Going after what you want in life, speaking up for yourself, rocking the boat or being assertive will go against that image.
This is no way to go through life as you will miss out on job opportunities and dating opportunities.
This is also unrealistic since you can be an all around great guy and fun to be around, but not everyone is going to like you, period!
Some people will dislike you simply because they don't like your face or they made a pre-judgement about you before getting to know you. I am guilty of this and so are all of you.
For example, let's say you are in your 20's-30's and you work in the restaurant industry. I am using this as an example because a lot of attractive young women work in this industry and it is usually a hook up fest.
So, you work in the restaurant industry and there are a few hotties that work there, but the men outnumber the women.
Perhaps you are fairly new and you get along well with your male colleagues.
Then you meet Amber. Amber is one of the hottest girls that works there and you think you are getting positive IOI's from her. However, a few of your male colleagues have expressed interest in her or commented on how attractive she is.
What do you do??
1.) Make a move on this girl and go after what you want. Hey, if she has a boyfriend, at least you know you tried. No regrets either way.
2.) Don't make a move since you know it will make your male colleagues envious and possibly dislike you for it. You are a nice guy and you want to keep that way, you don't want to piss anybody off.
I hope your answer is number 1 and not number 2. "Anything worthwhile doing is always going to piss somebody off"
I have been guilty of this in the past and I am sure a lot of you are too!
Another good example is; you have an attractive female 15+ years younger that is into you. You know if you go out with her, plenty of your male friends and/or male relatives will hate you for it. What male wouldn't want a much younger woman?
I used attractive women here as an example, since I believe that is the main trigger for male jealousy/envy.
However, this can be applied to other things such as going for that promotion, starting a business or traveling!
So........go out there and make some enemies!
Anyhow, I think some of us (including myself) don't go after what we want in life enough because we want everyone to like us.
Or.....
You have a nice guy/good guy image that you want to protect at all costs. Going after what you want in life, speaking up for yourself, rocking the boat or being assertive will go against that image.
This is no way to go through life as you will miss out on job opportunities and dating opportunities.
This is also unrealistic since you can be an all around great guy and fun to be around, but not everyone is going to like you, period!
Some people will dislike you simply because they don't like your face or they made a pre-judgement about you before getting to know you. I am guilty of this and so are all of you.
For example, let's say you are in your 20's-30's and you work in the restaurant industry. I am using this as an example because a lot of attractive young women work in this industry and it is usually a hook up fest.
So, you work in the restaurant industry and there are a few hotties that work there, but the men outnumber the women.
Perhaps you are fairly new and you get along well with your male colleagues.
Then you meet Amber. Amber is one of the hottest girls that works there and you think you are getting positive IOI's from her. However, a few of your male colleagues have expressed interest in her or commented on how attractive she is.
What do you do??
1.) Make a move on this girl and go after what you want. Hey, if she has a boyfriend, at least you know you tried. No regrets either way.
2.) Don't make a move since you know it will make your male colleagues envious and possibly dislike you for it. You are a nice guy and you want to keep that way, you don't want to piss anybody off.
I hope your answer is number 1 and not number 2. "Anything worthwhile doing is always going to piss somebody off"
I have been guilty of this in the past and I am sure a lot of you are too!
Another good example is; you have an attractive female 15+ years younger that is into you. You know if you go out with her, plenty of your male friends and/or male relatives will hate you for it. What male wouldn't want a much younger woman?
I used attractive women here as an example, since I believe that is the main trigger for male jealousy/envy.
However, this can be applied to other things such as going for that promotion, starting a business or traveling!
So........go out there and make some enemies!
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