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Why do women go back to an ex who beat them?

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Serious question. I’ve known a few over the years who end up getting back with an ex who beat them. It can’t be alpha to beat women so what’s the story?
 

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The bad boy syndrome too; they think they will be able to change them (to better versions), and on the same time they attracted the whole thing that causes the issues in the first place.
 

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Simple honest answer? They enjoy it. It’s taboo to say but that’s the honest truth. Has nothing to do with daddy issues, it’s just that they enjoy being treated that way.
 

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Simple honest answer? They enjoy it. It’s taboo to say but that’s the honest truth. Has nothing to do with daddy issues, it’s just that they enjoy being treated that way.
I'm currently keeping tabs on a girl who use to be this type of woman but she has now settled down with a beta provider who has a wealthy family [wealthy enough anyway]. He is the opposite of all the men she use to hook up with. So far she is enduring but I am waiting for her inevitable affair post marriage.
 

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I'm currently keeping tabs on a girl who use to be this type of woman but she has now settled down with a beta provider who has a wealthy family [wealthy enough anyway]. He is the opposite of all the men she use to hook up with. So far she is enduring but I am waiting for her inevitable affair post marriage.
Oh I can see how this story will play out a mile away. She never grew out of it, she probably misses it. But she knows those types of guys usually can’t provide a can of cat food much less a decent roof over her head. She is constantly thinking of how can she keep her current lifestyle while having the bad boy Chad too.
 

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Serious question. I’ve known a few over the years who end up getting back with an ex who beat them. It can’t be alpha to beat women so what’s the story?
Happens in Vietnam all the time. I know 2 incidents specifically. Im not going to comment much on this but its primal and Roissey had a tweet about this that was hitting to the core.
It comes down to respect if she really did something stupid.
My first wife was a drinker. She punched me in the chin one time long ago when I called her a kunt. By the the time my head swung back around I swung a jab and just nicked her head. Im sure if I would have connected I would have done some time. She left that night. Fcking kunt.
I fcked her for a couple years after breakup. Sex was good. Lol.
And we get along now.but i wanted to kick her azz bad that night. **** happens OP. This was mid 90s
 

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Battered Women Syndrome

The syndrome develops in response to a three-stage cycle found in intimate partner violence situations.[3] First, tension builds in the relationship. Second, the abusive partner releases tension via violence while blaming the victim for having caused the violence. Third, the violent partner makes gestures of contrition. However, the partner does not find solutions to avoid another phase of tension building and release so the cycle repeats. The repetition of the violence, despite the abuser's attempts to "make nice", results in the abused partner feeling at fault for not preventing a repeat cycle of violence

 

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If you do a first posting search on half the male forum members here, you'll find something similar:

A good majority wanted to get back together with a girlfriend that treated them badly, or they want another dating chance with someone that treated them badly.

Speaking of "daddy issues"... let's look at the other side of the coin. Previous postings have indicated that a lot of us didn't exactly grow up with the mom/dad white picket fence lifestyle (self included).
 

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If you do a first posting search on half the male forum members here, you'll find something similar:

A good majority wanted to get back together with a girlfriend that treated them badly, or they want another dating chance with someone that treated them badly.

Speaking of "daddy issues"... let's look at the other side of the coin. Previous postings have indicated that a lot of us didn't exactly grow up with the mom/dad white picket fence lifestyle (self included).
Hmm, while I was indeed raised by a single mother after my 8th birthday, I didn’t come here trying to get an ex back :) luckily I had read enough pick up before I was ever in a relationship to know a few things at least
 

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Because friends of hers intervene on the situation thinking they are helping when in reality she is just being enabled to seek out a new guy to do the same thing to her, if she has to get herself out then she wouldn't enter those situations in the first place, but she believes shell be saved
 

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Remember what I always say; life takes care of itself.
Those couple minutes of happiness and intense feelings from sex get taken over by constant misery and self hatred in a vicious cycle.
Basically, they deserve what they're getting themselves into and that's what they're always gonna get because they go after it and manifest it. Sit back and be happy that you don't have to be a part of the life of someone that sees themselves so low. Never raise a woman higher than the lowest she's accepted.
 
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