Why do women get angry when they find you attractive but you don’t make a move?

[DonBig]

Why do women get angry when they find you attractive but you don’t make a move? One Girl got angry at me today because I didn’t ask her out and called me a tease lol

 

[StacksHitEmUp]

Why do women get angry when they find you attractive but you don’t make a move? One Girl got angry at me today because I didn’t ask her out and called me a tease lol

Because you're a man and they want you to take action and lead. However, holding out is not always bad in some cases as it can raise your value in her eyes, overplay your hand and she will lose interest though.

 

[Robert28]

Because as a man you’re supposed to have secret mind reading powers AND be able to tell without a shadow of a doubt when she’s flirting and when she’s being friendly. Oh and you’re supposed to accept hundreds of rejections and have no feelings but have all the confidence in the world even though you were rejected 100 times in a row. Sometimes harshly. As for what she said I would have responded “your mouth broken? No? Then you can ask me out if you want to”

 

[Who Dares Win]

Because they take for granted that they are good enough not only to attract most men but even to have them make a move.

When you dont make an attempt, they almost see it as a rejection...

 

[Dr.Suave]

Because they are used to having it their way

 

[Kotaix]

She wants you and isn't used to not being asked out. This is exactly how you maintain frame. She's going to continue to want you until she gets her way.

 

[2Rocky]

This reminded me of an occasion in my past when I was married. (4 years pre divorce)

A woman who joined our weekly running group (Red) for the first time showed up as we were discussing the route. The leader said "Follow Two here if you are going 5 miles" to which she replies "are you Two ROCKY?" as if she was meeting a movie star for the first time...

Turns out she is friends with my second cousin going back to high school. I decided I would wing for my CE buddy and introduce them to each other. We three chat on the run and he brings up dumb/creepy topics, which I try to divert. At the end of the run my CE buddy invites everyone to his house for beers (BYOB). Good move on his part. Red is specifically invited and she looks to me and I told her I would be going too.

So we all converge at CE buddy's house and Red has obviously gone home and changed after the run. I introduce her to people in the group but I notice she is making sure to stay in my view...Especially bending over to expose the lace thong underwear while I am looking. I'm still hoping my buddy can salvage this but he is clueless. (Dumb ****, We are at his house and he has a hot tub. He is set)

Pretty soon, I'm hanging out in the kitchen and RED comes to the door and say's "Hey I'm gonna get going." So I wave and say "Bye"

To which she gets a frustrated look on her face and says "Would you walk me out please!..."

So being the gentleman I AM I walked her out and I don't remember if I TOLD her I was married or not, but she was definitely waiting for me to make a move. Well I didn't. Looking back I could have....I probably could have taken her home that night, but I didn't.

The next time I saw her she wasn't so friendly and she never came back to the running group. By the time I'd initiated my divorce she was pregnant with another man's child who stayed out of the picture. We have never reconnected....

 

[SW15]

They expect you to make the first move. They seem capable of saying "hi" on Bumble.

 

[spred]

This reminded me of an occasion in my past when I was married. (4 years pre divorce)

A woman who joined our weekly running group (Red) for the first time showed up as we were discussing the route. The leader said "Follow Two here if you are going 5 miles" to which she replies "are you Two ROCKY?" as if she was meeting a movie star for the first time...

Turns out she is friends with my second cousin going back to high school. I decided I would wing for my CE buddy and introduce them to each other. We three chat on the run and he brings up dumb/creepy topics, which I try to divert. At the end of the run my CE buddy invites everyone to his house for beers (BYOB). Good move on his part. Red is specifically invited and she looks to me and I told her I would be going too.

So we all converge at CE buddy's house and Red has obviously gone home and changed after the run. I introduce her to people in the group but I notice she is making sure to stay in my view...Especially bending over to expose the lace thong underwear while I am looking. I'm still hoping my buddy can salvage this but he is clueless. (Dumb ****, We are at his house and he has a hot tub. He is set)

Pretty soon, I'm hanging out in the kitchen and RED comes to the door and say's "Hey I'm gonna get going." So I wave and say "Bye"

To which she gets a frustrated look on her face and says "Would you walk me out please!..."

So being the gentleman I AM I walked her out and I don't remember if I TOLD her I was married or not, but she was definitely waiting for me to make a move. Well I didn't. Looking back I could have....I probably could have taken her home that night, but I didn't.

The next time I saw her she wasn't so friendly and she never came back to the running group. By the time I'd initiated my divorce she was pregnant with another man's child who stayed out of the picture. We have never reconnected....

You did the right thing. Probably she was used to get men to ask her out by being agresive. In this way you dented her a little in her attitude by showing not all men are poosies thirsty for poosy.

 

[DonJuanjr]

and he brings up dumb/creepy topics,

Can you elaborate?

 

[2Rocky]

Can you elaborate?

Let's just say stuff that dries their panties up...Like potential of running into a deranged homeless guy on the path we were running on, or sweat and BO, I forget, it was some years ago.

You did the right thing. Probably she was used to get men to ask her out by being agresive. In this way you dented her a little in her attitude by showing not all men are poosies thirsty for poosy.

Well it helped the next guy in line. It did make me realize I was desired by women, which helped my mindset in the future. Maybe if I went home with her and nailed her I would have gotten out of my marriage sooner...

 

[devilkingx2]

Can you elaborate?

Read the opening post of this topic:

I thought if she likes you, you cannot do wrong?

I am just reflecting on my past experiences, trying to learn from them. 4 years ago I met this milf. she was 15 years older than me. very attractive after a bunch of plastic surgery. But the surgeon had done a great job and I could not tell until I looked her up online and looked at her old...

www.sosuave.net

Something like that probably.

Turns out she is friends with my second cousin going back to high school. I decided I would wing for my CE buddy and introduce them to each other. We three chat on the run and he brings up dumb/creepy topics, which I try to divert. At the end of the run my CE buddy invites everyone to his house for beers (BYOB). Good move on his part. Red is specifically invited and she looks to me and I told her I would be going too.

Trying to set your friend up with a girl who already has a thing for someone else doesn't sound like a good idea.

 

[Barrister]

Because as a man you’re supposed to have secret mind reading powers AND be able to tell without a shadow of a doubt when she’s flirting and when she’s being friendly. Oh and you’re supposed to accept hundreds of rejections and have no feelings but have all the confidence in the world even though you were rejected 100 times in a row. Sometimes harshly. As for what she said I would have responded “your mouth broken? No? Then you can ask me out if you want to”

I don't think you could sound more bitter if you tried. Good grief.

Anger is an emotion felt and sometimes expressed when there's sexual tension that needs to be released but for whatever reason it's not happening.

Women who don't care and aren't sexually attracted don't get mad, they're indifferent to your lack of escalation.

You should feel flattered when a woman gets mad - it means she's attracted and wants to have sex with you!

I think you are principally correct -- although I wouldn't classify this as "anger." More just frustration when they want the man but the man has no reciprocal interest. When OP gets called a "tease" I am guessing he is sending some signs of interest to the woman but never follows through with asking out on the date, etc. Whether that is by design by OP is unknown. But a woman will only sit around waiting for so long before she starts placing herself in the proximity of another man.

 

[Robert28]

I don't think you could sound more bitter if you tried. Good grief.



I think you are principally correct -- although I wouldn't classify this as "anger." More just frustration when they want the man but the man has no reciprocal interest. When OP gets called a "tease" I am guessing he is sending some signs of interest to the woman but never follows through with asking out on the date, etc. Whether that is by design by OP is unknown. But a woman will only sit around waiting for so long before she starts placing herself in the proximity of another man.

Is anything I said wrong, though? You call me butter but yet you didn’t bother to disprove anything I said.

 

[Barrister]

Is anything I said wrong, though? You call me butter but yet you didn’t bother to disprove anything I said.

Women have a tendency to be unreasonable. They don't follow logic like you or I. They operate off of emotion and how things make them feel. I will agree with that. What you posted though is very extreme and sounds like a guy who has gotten burned over and over and now has sour grapes and wants to classify every woman as the "worst of the worst." No - I don't think its accurate. You have to not care about the outcome of an interaction with a woman to truly enjoy it. I don't think you are capable of that -- you care a lot.

But let's be honest, I am not going to be able to say anything to change your mind. It would be a futile exercise to even attempt it. This mindset is basically etched into you - we have already discussed this at length in the past.

 

[Robert28]

Women have a tendency to be unreasonable. They don't follow logic like you or I. They operate off of emotion and how things make them feel. I will agree with that. What you posted though is very extreme and sounds like a guy who has gotten burned over and over and now has sour grapes and wants to classify every woman as the "worst of the worst." No - I don't think its accurate. You have to not care about the outcome of an interaction with a woman to truly enjoy it. I don't think you are capable of that -- you care a lot.

But let's be honest, I am not going to be able to say anything to change your mind. It would be a futile exercise to even attempt it. This mindset is basically etched into you - we have already discussed this at length in the past.

If you only knew what some guys have been out through from women you’d understand. You can say all the PUA stuff and act like it’s no big deal but over time rejection wears on you. And I don’t mean cold approach rejection. I mean women with low interest who continue to go on multiple dates with you for just something to do while they plan on getting back with an ex the whole time. I can handle a cold approach rejection or even first or second date rejection just fine. In fact, I’ve had women that rejected me after a first date reach out later on because I “handled the rejection so well”. Wtf? Needless to say I passed on that second chance. My point is don’t be so quick to label people, you don’t know what they’ve been through and I bet if you’d gone through the same you would feel differently instead of saying “your bitter dude, you care too much, just act like this and everything will be ok”. The funny thing is whenever I pass by women many of them lock eyes with me and say hello, I return the greeting but I keep on walking. If I was waking around like some bitter guy do you think they wouldn’t notice?

 

[BadBoy89]

One Girl got angry at me today because I didn’t ask her out and called me a tease lol

Why didn’t you ask her out?

 

[MatureDJ]

Why do women get angry when they find you attractive but you don’t make a move? One Girl got angry at me today because I didn’t ask her out and called me a tease lol

If she's fat, ugly, and/or a single mommy, she should be angry at herself. If she's not this, then she needs to learn how to give an unmistakable signal - e.g., "hey, I'm in cooking school, and I need someone to critique my cooking".

 

[Striker_93]

The funny thing is whenever I pass by women many of them lock eyes with me and say hello

So why are you such a bitter incel ?

You kno how many guys would love to get this type of attention and they don't complain as much as you.

Count you're blessing brotha

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Why do women get angry when they find you attractive but you don’t make a move? One Girl got angry at me today because I didn’t ask her out and called me a tease lol

Umm...they don't always? Something that happened once or twice to you is simply small sample size...in fact most of what people come up with that is off the wall about women can be explained by small sample size.