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Why did your ex girlfriend move on so quickly?

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If this is true (I'm sure it is, I'm just trying to understand how it works), then why are things like "don't be needy", "Be on your purpose" or even something I read recently in the DJ bible "You seek a lady for YOURSELF, you don't seek a lady for her" (Link:https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/what-is-a-don-juan.30862/ )? If what you're saying is true, wouldn't the best "deal" for a woman be a man who will devote everything to her and her offspring?
A good "deal" for a woman, when it comes to hypergamy, is a man who is better than her. So, she needs to be chasing and devoting herself to you, and you must calibrate a relationship where she is working hard to please you and keep you. She must always have a sense of dread that you could leave and find someone better than her.
 

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A good "deal" for a woman, when it comes to hypergamy, is a man who is better than her. So, she needs to be chasing and devoting herself to you, and you must calibrate a relationship where she is working hard to please you and keep you. She must always have a sense of dread that you could leave and find someone better than her.
This is cool. How do you do that?
 

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This is cool. How do you do that?
When you first meet a girl, you are displaying your value. She has to choose you. If she doesn't choose you, or she doesn't have burning desire for you, then you can't calibrate a relationship that's a good "deal" for her. When a woman chooses you then she starts pursuing you. Then you start implementing golden ratios where she is exerting more effort than you. You can then start conditioning her.

You can only do this if a woman chooses you as her man.
 

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When you first meet a girl, you are displaying your value. She has to choose you. If she doesn't choose you, or she doesn't have burning desire for you, then you can't calibrate a relationship that's a good "deal" for her. When a woman chooses you then she starts pursuing you. Then you start implementing golden ratios where she is exerting more effort than you. You can then start conditioning her.

You can only do this if a woman chooses you as her man.
Is that different than a hookup? I thought all girls are looking for a relationship tho. Like if she chooses to sleep with you she is deep down hoping you will be “her man”

oh and any good reading for how to implement golden ratios? Thanks
 

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Is that different than a hookup? I thought all girls are looking for a relationship tho. Like if she chooses to sleep with you she is deep down hoping you will be “her man”

oh and any good reading for how to implement golden ratios? Thanks
Depends on a girl's ability to pair-bond. I meet plenty of girls that I bang who don't want me for a relationship, but just want adventure sex. Basically, if a girl has already experienced deep love for a guy in her past then she's been alpha widowed and it's harder to imprint her mind. She's already been imprinted.

For a girl to really choose you and start simping for you then you have to be better than all of her previous sexual experiences. This can be difficult because nothing can really beat the first time she was blown away by a guy. If she starts to fall for you, then it will be a familiar feeling that she's experienced before and she will immediately go into comparisons, rather than losing herself in the experience. You want a girl who is going to lose herself in you.

Golden Ratios are easy. You get her doing 3 to 1. She initiates meeting 3 times, you initiate meeting 1 time. She initiates sex 3 times, you initiate 1 time. Apply it to everything. It conditions her to chase you and see you as higher value than her. Women who choose you have no issues with this golden ratio, and they actually love it. Women love being with a guy they have to chase.
 

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Depends on a girl's ability to pair-bond. I meet plenty of girls that I bang who don't want me for a relationship, but just want adventure sex. Basically, if a girl has already experienced deep love for a guy in her past then she's been alpha widowed and it's harder to imprint her mind. She's already been imprinted.

For a girl to really choose you and start simping for you then you have to be better than all of her previous sexual experiences. This can be difficult because nothing can really beat the first time she was blown away by a guy. If she starts to fall for you, then it will be a familiar feeling that she's experienced before and she will immediately go into comparisons, rather than losing herself in the experience. You want a girl who is going to lose herself in you.

Golden Ratios are easy. You get her doing 3 to 1. She initiates meeting 3 times, you initiate meeting 1 time. She initiates sex 3 times, you initiate 1 time. Apply it to everything. It conditions her to chase you and see you as higher value than her. Women who choose you have no issues with this golden ratio, and they actually love it. Women love being with a guy they have to chase.
Ok cool thank you
 

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Women move on quickly because they have no emotional attachment to men, the way men do to women.

Remember men, women commit to DEALS. They don't commit to other individuals. They commit to what's best for them. Look at Jennifer Lopez, 4 years with Alex Rodriguez, got engaged, families loved each other. Then in 24 hours with Ben Affleck. Why? Because he was a better DEAL for her.

If you want women, be the best deal for them. Not the best person.
I disagree with this. How is Ben Affleck a better deal when Alex is worth more money and equally as famous as Ben? Also theres tons of women that go for guys straight outta prison that have little to offer. You should know this is you are really a Bad Boy.
 

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I disagree with this. How is Ben Affleck a better deal when Alex is worth more money and equally as famous as Ben? Also theres tons of women that go for guys straight outta prison that have little to offer. You should know this is you are really a Bad Boy.
Ben has Game and he's a badboy. Girls like a guy with spikes. Also, Ben was with Jennifer first (when she was in her prime, too) so he'll always have that edge over any future guy.

Check them out in Jennifer's music video and tell me that you'd be comfortable dating Lopez knowing that Affleck was her dreamboat at one point.

 

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I disagree with this. How is Ben Affleck a better deal when Alex is worth more money and equally as famous as Ben? Also theres tons of women that go for guys straight outta prison that have little to offer. You should know this is you are really a Bad Boy.
I wouldn't read too much into celebrity hookups. Ben and Alex can each have women younger and hotter than Lopez. She probably was jilted by A-Rod and made herself available to her ex with the highest Q-score - publicly, as an ego massager. The real world is basically high school.

It should tell you all you need to know about why a girl "moves on" so quickly.
 
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