Originally posted by clifford
So, things are going great as my last couple of 2 month relationships, then all of a sudden they just turn on you and become ice queens. I know you guys know what I am talking about. The other ones I could really give 2 squats about, but this one I was really starting to get into. How should I proceed here. Obiviously the constant emailing and calling is out of the question. Should I just wait her out and keep her wondering?
once an ice queen, always an ice queen. don't assume this "problem" is yours, although some introspection is always valuable.
just another take...
women have the same congruency problem with men, that men have with women.
for the AFC, he holds himself out to be something that he is not. he appears to be a DJ, calm, cool, collected, personable, engaging, attached disinterest, etc. eventually, his true colors surface and what attracted her to him in the first place was a lie. she says, buh bye.
for the ice queen, she too holds herself out to be something that she is not. she appears to be so sweet, funny, sexy, reliable, potential LTR, or whatever. eventually her true colors surface. he says, buh bye (hopefully, for god's sake).
so, i would say that they perhaps didn't "turn" flakey, but rather, they were already flakey to begin with. consider yourself blessed.
my remedy is to always assume they are flakes to begin with, until proven otherwise. yet at the same time being your own charming self, when you are with her.
again, attached disinterest, until she has proven herself worthy. this could take months, even years! this is exactly what women do to men, right? men fall for it, hook, line, and sinker.