Man , instead of choding around the bar , you should have approached the very FIRST set that you saw. Read what i posted earlier on this post and try it.Im talking from experience not from what "I THINK IT WILL WORK".Zircon916 said:Update!!
Ok, I'm suprised I had the courage to actually go through with this but I went and let me tell you it didn't feel anywhere as weird as I thought it would feel. I actually felt alright being at the bar by myself. However...
I really do think I need a complete change in strategy for me to actually get anything useful out of my new venture. First of all, the bar was fvcking packed. It didn't look that much different from a saturday night. Needless to say all the bartenders were ping ponging around the bar the whole time so actually starting up a conversation with them was impossible. As soon as I walked in the bar I knew I was going to be flying this completely solo.
Some first time observations about the bar scene from the perspective of someone who isn't with their friends. For one, EVERYBODY ELSE IS with their friends. I never realized how much people go to bars in packs until i was not in one myself. When I hit up the bars on the weekends I usually roll with about 10-15 people, and it looks like so does everybody else! As I was sitting at the bar drinking my beer just observing, I seriously didn't really see a group of people less than 6. In fact most are 10+ deep huddled within their own groups. I sat there and realized as long as I have been going to bars (years), I have never had some random dude approach our group and start talking to us. I see why.
Anyway I need to rethink my strategy. My goal is to pick up women, or at least talk to women to pratice my conversation skills, and that definately aint happening in that kind of environment. The bars could be packed on a tuesday because its the holidays, who knows, but I think the first thing I need to do is start going way earlier, maybe around 8 or 9, what do you guys think?
Also, I was thinking about picking up a few "bar skills" to kill time and to look busy instead of just sitting at the bar watching TV or whatever. Maybe learn how to play darts or something? Or start only going to bars with pool tables? Can you guys think of anything else that would help me out?