I think you're confused about what 'actual value' means, at least from where I'm sitting.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:"actual" value is repugnant to the modern woman. Do you think Jesus would be attractive to a chick today? Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, and goodness? No, even the "actual" value you are thinking of is nothing more than a more substantive perceived value. Self confidence(as observed), money, status, etc.
The value of something is determined by what someone ELSE is willing to pay for it (in time, money, effort, sex, etc). Basic supply and demand. So if women don't care about your patience, it's not worth anything. You can of course spin religion, morality, and so on into this, but at the end of the day you're either getting laid or you're not. You're not going to change what women value so unless you want to remain celibate, you might as well accept it and improve in the metrics THEY find attractive. Yes, we do it all for the nookie.