Using ROMANCE to win her heart??? That's as ridiculous as being a nice guy.

[blayde]

Guys, you were told to "be a nice guy"(well, you DO want to be nice but not ONLY that),,,

and now(even on this blog)youre being told to be romantic.


Forget all that.

See, 24 hours a day the media is telling you that women want romance. You've probably bought into it.

Women wnat romance AFTER approximately 50 other things have happened. If you give it to them before then, youre history pal.

Women are not romantic. Get it?? The idea that getting flowers and tokens of love to win their hearts is not romantic in itself. This is an idea of proof, not romance.

Men ARE romantic. But see, we have to fight that emotion off constantly right?? You doubt ?

Let me prove it to you.

See, guys fall fast and hard for the woman he loves.

Women dont. They want all kinds of time and demonstrations of your love. Is this romantic?

The idea of all this is the same thing as being a nice guy ONLY. Women dont want any part of it.

So this is what you want. Forget the nice guy and romantic thing. Keep it hidden for the first ten dates.

What youre showing her first is that youre intelligent, challenging, mysterious, and cannot be controlled.

Bring romance as a weapon only after achieving these other items my pal.

 

[mikel]

I think romance is less about long-term tactics but more of certain event.

 

[Hanuman]

Yeah I see what you're meaning blayde, but...

Romance is good even early on - IF - you didn't initiate it, or at least she thinks you didn't...

Like - do NOT suggest a stroll on the beach holding hands. Instead, when walking home from the date be the one that chooses the route and be sure to walk by the beach (if it isn't out of the way).

When at your place do NOT play that phat music you just can't stop headbanging to (unless you know she is really into it) and do NOT play any **** like "lady in red" - instead play something neutral and say something like "I need some fresh air" and go out on the balcony, you got her and you on the balcony a bottle of wine and a starbright night. You wasn't a romantic jerk, things just happened to be that way (yeah right ;-))

Look her deep in the eyes and smile - she will sense the romance. Don't say any **** about her eyes or something similar, even if you think her eyes are the most beautifull you ever seen that is just so AFC!

Let the situations be romantic, but don't be yourself to early on...

 

[squirrels]

Look at it this way...how many times have you seen a boxer win a match by throwing all his effort into the first round?

When you find a woman who's a match for you, feel her out first. Don't show her all your moves. Dance around a little bit, watch how she responds to you. Don't sell out all your energy...save it until you have a better feel for her style. Then in the later rounds you can REALLY open up.

But stay in control. You can't just throw romance (or anything else short of a punch) at a woman and have her fall in the first round.