top 5 places to meet women

[coolness]

hi everybody,

I have a question. After having done my time concerning cold street approaches, what are the top five places to meet women without having to be overly tough or bold or whatever? I just want to have a fun time, conversation and one or the other neghit should be enough to get me as far as I want to. Any ideas?

 

[NewMan]

Your dreams....

Nothing worth while comes for free.

 

[WestCoaster]

Top 5?

Well, not sure the top five for everyone, but here are some of my faves ...

Working out at a gym: Shows the woman cares about her body and physical health.

Library and bookstore: Meet attractive and quirky bookworms. Shows they care about their brain.

Grad school: OK, this is an investment, but I met the best women of my life here. Intelligent, pretty, and nice. I wish it would've gone on forever ... that is without the big bills, no paychecks, and lots of school work. Gee, you mean I can't just have the women?

Parks and Rec activities: Joined some tennis groups in the past and it's a great way to meet women. They usually pair you up in mixed doubles. It's good.

Record/CD stores: OK, this is a reach, but a woman's musical taste says a lot about her. I don't have to completely agree with her taste, but if it's this negative goth, punk, slasher rock, people-hating, loud metal B.S., I want no part. The ol' line: "Have you heard this CD" is a good convo starter.

Everyone has their top five. You still have to do a little work. A silly neg-hit won't do the trick.

 

[elvis aint dead yet]

Most of the guys on this website are "internet hero's."

So u are not gonna get that many responses to this topic.


I agree, but I'd say a decent sized fitness club would be a better place to meet women then a gym. Fitness clubs are built for women and guys looking for women. Yes, fitness is the idea, but just go to most fitness clubs and you'll see what I Mean.

A gym on the otherhand, will mostly have lots of weights, lots of sweaty bodies and mostly guys or girls you'd rather not hook up with.


Library, well where i'm at, nobody goes to them anymore, so i can't say thats a place to meet chics.

Bookstores, coffee shops, cafes, places like that can be interesting.

Colllege, any type of educational type of activity. (be it grad school or just some class u take to learn something).

In some major cities, taking ur dog for a walk in a nice sized major park can be adventurous. As long as its during daylight hours.

obviously clubs are where many hot chics go in their twenties.

Some bars can be cool, but i've found many bars aren't really the place to meet good looking women.

joining clubs, doing some activities. Do something you like, but if one of the reasons u want to join an activity is to pick up women, dont join something that u love but most chics dont.

it's all about numbers. If you go to someplace or join somethng that has 10 guys and 2 girls, do u really want to do that and pick up chicks or try something you might like but theres 10 chics and 10 guys and so on.


Yoga is popular these days and there are always good looking women who do that, even teach that these days.

 

[sustainable007]

There is no such thing as a best place

IMO: Any place is a good place to meet women...Its AFC to search for the best place...(If you are looking for places, that hints at desperation..., and the odds are stacked against you) When you realize that anyplace is a pickupzone, then you are more relaxed, and more importantly you are more aware of your surroundings and able to see when an oppourtunity presents itself...I guess the real issue is that you cant force things to happen...You just have to be prepared for when things happen, and know how to be a venture capitalist and seize an oppourtunity:

Example:

Today I was walking out in the parking lot and i heard two girls call another girl a ***** as i was walking behind them. When I passed them the one said Hi!...I responded Hey whats up...Then i said its interesting what you can hear in passing conversations...The one girl responded we are *****s...I said how much do you charge? They said 300.00 a night...I said I can afford that why dont you let me pimp you in the back of my VW Beetle...They said that they only do women. I said thats no problem because my other Ho's wouldnt like it if I pimped them anyway...THEY HAD NO RESPONSE!!!LMFAO!!!

Bottomline: Oppourtunities will present themself. You dont have to make them...As a DJ you have to be prepared to take advantage of them when they are on your door step.

 

[sustainable007]

I rest my case

http://www.sosuave.com/rondavid/succeed22.htm

 

[Ricky]

Parties are number one in my book.

The idea of sports events like if you play tennis in a league or volleyball works well and way better than picking up a girl who is working out.

 

[Ricky]

Bars with a DJ that is loud can be kind of bad for picking up chicks. There are tons of hotties there, but it's like prison because it's extra difficult to pick them up since it's too loud to talk.

For some reason it's so much easier with a band playing because they take breaks between songs.

This has been demonstrated to me time and time again. I went to see a band Saturday and a DJ on Wednesday. It's like night and day difference in the difficulty level sometimes.

 

[Austin Allegro]

Like someone said, cold approaches can be done anywhere, but 'warm' approaches should be done anywhere that promotes social interaction with like minded people, eg:

Trade/hobby/special interest fairs

Art gallery members-only previews (some even organise singles nights)

Charity fundraising events - get on the mailing list of a few charities and you'll get regular invites to all sorts of events.

Sports events - some sports can be male dominated but anything do with tennis, horse racing/riding, rowing, sailing usually attracts a good mixed crowd.

Professional bodies - join a professional institute/trade body related to the field you work in, these often have networking/socialising events

Political/religious/pressure groups etc. Probably best if you are genuinely interested in the subject, or you'll meet people you dislike.

 

[Genghis Juan]

Join a local running/hiking club. Fat pigs don't run or hike. By far the favorite activity of women in the 20's is running.

 

[Hot Ice]

Originally posted by Ricky
Bars with a DJ that is loud can be kind of bad for picking up chicks. There are tons of hotties there, but it's like prison because it's extra difficult to pick them up since it's too loud to talk.

For some reason it's so much easier with a band playing because they take breaks between songs.

This has been demonstrated to me time and time again. I went to see a band Saturday and a DJ on Wednesday. It's like night and day difference in the difficulty level sometimes.

My favourite place to pick up a girl is the club scene.
They are loud yes, but this is one place where many guys fail.
This is where you HAVE to have a good posture, act like a Man.

In clubs it's way more metal game:
Who is dominating, who has balls...

Come to think of it clubs where talking is difficult the game is more close to animals. You see who is above others mentally: leader of the crowd, you see who dares to look back, only sexual interest is visible there when eye contacts are made, at the dance floor we see who has some serious business going around and who is just a clown... without any words.

Dancing is really useful skill to have.
If you get lot of eye contact on the dance floor because you dance so good, half game is already played.

I've picked up girls without almost none words spoken in clubs.
If you just look who's looking at you, choose a girl from them, dance with her or/and get her to the more silent corner and verbalize what you just told her with your body language with few words it's a deal sealed easily.

My observation is to act Manly with capital M. I don't mean getting drunk and pass out under the table as some other guys do or go walk up in front of a chick and grab her boobs etc. I meant to act as the owner of the club dominately, not taking any shyt, have fun without giving a damn what other people think and get what you want.

Club are filled with c0ckless guys who have no guts to even dance dirty with a girl. Take advantage of this.


BTW. If you have a favourite club to go, go there in a silent night and chat up with bartenders and DJ's.
I know some bartenders and all DJ's at my favourite club. Great social proof.

 

[coolness]

thanks for all the response, I think I will go in different directions simultaniously, the gym sounds interesting, the library might be something, concerning clubs/bars - well - let´s just go for the heck of it...

two more questions:

My neghits work most of the time, but some girls outmanouver it by accually agreeing to it!! They would go like "No, I don´t have any friends" or "Yes, I´m shy, I don´t talk to people". What could possibly be a good response to her beeing negative about herself? Complimenting them is not a good idea, isn´t it?

Finally, after all the practice, I do get good conversation and hot moments concerning goodlooking women, but I don´t have the feeling that I have a lot of control over ****-closing them. It happens more or less randomly. Is there anybody with a lot of experience out there who can tell me about this?

 

[Ricky]

I am going to have to try that running club idea. I see tons of hot girls in the races I've ran (5-K, 10-K)

 

[WestCoaster]

Activities, not music clubs

Hot Ice has some good points -- for his age group, which is 18. (Not sure why you think the 18-year old stuff is good for this board.) Most guys are looking for something a little deeper in women on this board, than 18-year old clubbing bimbos. Clubbers most of the time smoke and you will not very often find a quality woman who smokes. They're usually white trash.

Running, tennis, hiking, etc., you will find a fit woman and usually an interesting woman. Also, libraries and bookstores, where you'll find intelligent women. I'm assuming you're looking for a quality woman, not some white trash crap, where you can find and pick up anywhere. Anyone can do that. Clubbing is for dancing and those who want to just pick up on sleaze and get STDs.

If you're looking for QUALITY, go for fitness or intellectual pursuits.

This isn't the high school or young college board.

 

[Hot Ice]

WestCoaster I really do respect your oh so great wisdom that comes with age.
You are surely as vintage cognac. No doubt.

I didn't say anything about quality of the women in the long run.
Just said my opinion about clubs when Ricky actually TALKED about clubs.
In his opinion, clubs are difficult places to pick up women since they are too loud.
I just wanted to comment what he said and give some points.
The most important one was that if you act right and you can dance, you can pick up women at clubs easily.

I did not start talking about clubs here.

Think before you post.

Why you always comment negatively in my posts is because you can read "18" there on the left.
I know some guys that are my age who post here who don't have anything said as their age.
Why won't you go and hunt them down too.
At least you had something to do you like.

EVERYONE CAN SEE THAT I'M 18 YEARS OLD.
They choose to read my post themselves.


All 25+ guys EVEN here are NOT looking for top quality happily-together-forever-women.

 

[WestCoaster]

If you're not looking for a quality woman ...

... you are a loser, plain and simple, with a capital 'L' and here's why.

What you practice in your social life becomes reality.

Just like athletics. Read up on Michael Jordan or Roger Clemens. Their practice habits were carried over to games. Jordan said when he was practicing by himself -- usually 500 to 1,000 shots a day -- he took good, on-balance, correct-form shots. He wanted to simulate what he should be taking in a game. He noted that bad practice habits equals bad game habits. Same with Clemens. He tries to spot pitch in practice, not be lazy and just soft toss or throw all outside the strike zone. It's not practice makes perfect but PERFECT PRACTICE makes perfect.

How does this sports analogy relate to your real life?

If you pick up sl-ts, wh-res, STDers, and so forth, you will end up with one of these tramps as your wife or girlfriend. What you aim for in the pick-up scene will eventually be your gf or life partner because that is what you have practiced.

I would say only about 1 percent of the population (perhaps Player Supreme, though it sounds like some of his women are more quality than we think) can do this act; most others can't.

Again, Mature Man site here, we've been through this crap. If you focus on tramps, you will end up with tramps. I know lots of people in this world and EVERY guy who was a pick-up artist ended up with a sl-t for a wife and became divorced.

What you practice is what you end up with. The guys here who aren't looking for quality women will end up in divorce court, period, case closed, end of story. And frankly, I'm tired of paying taxes for the f'n court system to support all these divorces.

There's a reason why I'm harping on you being 18 ... you don't understand the LIFE game yet. You have some good insights ... for the high school board.

People here are in a different mind-set, period.

Now go pick up your sl-t, keep working on that white trash life you're so fascinated with, while the up and coming future CEOs are passing you by and you're not even noticing it.

Hint: They're the guys dating the QUALITY women and working on their careers.

 

[Hot Ice]

I was just talking about clubbing.
Why can't you go for a chick from club for a once in a while.
I wan't a quality woman. I didn't say I'm going to spend my life in clubs with *****es.

So you are saying you simple can't find a quality woman in club...
Where are quality women at weekends?
They sit home reading romance novels, eh?

Please, do tell me your views on following things:
-where are these quality women?
-who are they?
-what is real LIFE to you?
-what do you mean with "life game"?
-how important being "classy" is to you?
-What money means to you personally?



I can be little sarcastic at some points.
Don't mind it. I see your points here.
Again, flaming isn't constructive.

 

[WestCoaster]

Some answers

Here are the answers (IMO):

* The quality women are just about everywhere but the clubs on weekends. They can be found at plays (where I saw a bunch last weekend), fine dining (usually sitting with a guy who is on his way towards success), at the movies, working out, or improving their lives. Yes, some of them are reading novels, too, but a smart woman isn't reading a romance novel. She's reading much deeper stuff. Hint: You want to be with this woman because she can actually carry a conversation.

* Who are they? They are black, white, Asian, mixed, rich, poor, employed and some unemployed. But no matter what their economic status is, they have dreams, goals, beliefs, and a moral compass.

* Real life to me is something you've experienced over the years. It's having success in jobs and also losing jobs. It's having relationships and having break-ups. It's seeing hardship and happiness at all levels. It's realizing that life doesn't begin at 18 and doesn't end at 30. It's about adjusting to life's ups and downs. And it's about challenging yourself on a daily basis, whether it's aspiring and applying for that job that sounds out of your reach; to asking out the woman you've been wanting to ask out.

* How important is classy? Classy is almost everything to me in a woman. Class isn't about wealth and riches because it can't be bought. But it can be developed. You're not born with it. Class is something that comes from character. Why are there so many low-class people? Because that's the easy way out. No one has to work at being low class. Anyone can be crass, crude, rude, be a cheater, a user and abuser. But it takes a rare person to transform themselves into a classy person, who walks through the world respecting themselves and other people. Seek class first in a woman and you'll end up a winner. If this isn't an important quality, you're in deep, deep trouble. Trust me, I know this all too well.

* What money means to me? It's not everything, but I like to have enough to live a quality life and eventually I'd like to make more, that's why I'm always looking to advance my career. Also, take care of your career first and women second. It's better to be alone and sustaining yourself than in love and living under a bridge. Plus, all the guys who have oneitis are low level guys not even making it to mid-management. All the managers and CEOs worked on their education and careers, which attracted those quality, classy women I'm talking about.

 

[dietzcoi]

Westcoaster, you are correct.

I went after trash when I was young. I got trash pregnant, I married trash, I divorced trash, I had a trashy 15 years of my life. My ex-wife is still trash, unemployed, living off the government and my alimony.

Hell, I only wanted to get laid and have fun... but she had another agenda, i.e. to find an AFC to support her for life.

She found me!

I do not have an opinion on where to best meet women, but don't go with trashy women. You may wind up paying for a little fun... paying a lot and ruining your life.

It happens daily all over the world. Be a DJ, don't let this happen to you!

Dietzcoi

 

[WestCoaster]

Good post dietzcoi. The only difference between me and you in your situation is I didn't take the bait. I was still an AFC. I had the benefit of being the youngest child and watching older siblings build their lives around whom they were dating, and they were dating losers. I told myself I didn't want to be like that and so I wasn't.

It's really tough to find class out there since there is so much trash, and like dietcoi's story, a lot of them are willing to get pregnant to try and get themselves out of their trashy lives.

I can preach until the cows come home, but AFC after AFC will go down the same path that dietcoi took. We're not taught the right things by our elders. We're not taught how to be DJs.

Seek class first and good things will happen. (Actually seek your career and own life first, then look for a classy woman.)