mikedee
Master Don Juan
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Hi guys,
We all know how difficult meeting a quality woman has become, I've met tons of women in the last 5 years (online and cold approach), got some good lays but in general I can say it was a complete waste of time (and money). During the last 2-3 months, I've accepted the fact that dating has changed and I might stay single/no sex for a while. I try to be in peace with that, life goes on. I still approach women (when they are worth approaching) and browse OLD here and there, I meet some but it almost never works. I had lost hope.
Three weeks ago I sent a random message to a girl on Instagram, I thought she would never reply but she did. We've been talking everyday since and we have met twice. First date was amazing, second date was even better. We kissed each other on the second date. We still communicate everyday, everything goes well. I don't know her that much but so so far she ticks all the boxes:
-She 10 years younger (27)
-She doesn't care about my situation (I'm in my mid-30s, I decided to back to school and I live in a dorm)
-She works and she is independent, she lives alone, etc.
-She's generous
-She doesn't have children
-She is gorgeous, 100% my type (tall, skinny, blonde, blue eyes - model type), I'd rate her 8.5. Almost no makeup, natural.
-She doesn't expect me to pay for everything (sometimes I pay, sometimes she does). She can open the door by herself.
-She always texts back. I don't feel she is playing games.
-She has 4-5 little tattoos here and there, it's cute. I'm not a tattoo guy but I can live with that.
-I don't think she has had many boyfriends or high body count, but I'm not sure about this.
-She doesn't go out, but see her friends on weekend.
*The only minuses is that I think she uses Instagram too much, in a perfect world, the girl I would date wouldn't use instagram at ALL (good luck finding a girl who doesn't use instagram), and she smokes sometimes, I can't disqualify her for that. I try not to put her on a pedestal, but man, she is something.
The most important thing is that I realize that not only I'm attracted to her physically, but I like her personality and I have a crazy good time when I'm with her. She's fun, she has a great sense of humour, she's real, etc. We get along pretty well. I admit it, I like her, and I feel she likes me too. Nice.
The problem is that I can't help but to feel insecure, I control it well because I'm aware that I am, it doesn't show but the feeling is there and it's not pleasant, it grows as we move forward in the "relation". The insecurity is not about myself but about the fact that she can ghost me for no particular reason, or loose interest, or decide to go back to her ex. etc, at any time. I feel skeptical about her, I'm always thinking that it's too good to be true, like it's about to blow in my face and then I'll go back to case 1, and again I will have lost my time and I will be pissed off. With time I have become suspicious with women, I don't trust them. Since we have met, I feel like I'm always in a defensive position mentally, it's draining. My friend told me that only thing I can do is trust and go forward and see what happen without having any expectations, that's what I try to do but I find it difficult. So far no oneitis, (I've never had one really) but I think that if I let myself go, I can catch feeling for her and I would put myself in "precarious" situation emotionally and loose my precious balance.
From what I remember, when you start seeing a girl it's exciting and enjoyable, it makes you feel good, it gives you energy and confidence. But right now the feeling of uncertainty is ruining everything and I can't live in the present, I can't just sit back, relax and enjoy. I can't remember last I felt this way for a girl, it was a long time ago.
Some of us are going to bash me and drag me down I know: you're blue pilled, you're weak, you're this or that. I'm just a human, I like her and I feel good with her, just be happy for me. If you have nothing constructive to say, don't bother replying.
Any advice? How do you deal with that?
Cheers
We all know how difficult meeting a quality woman has become, I've met tons of women in the last 5 years (online and cold approach), got some good lays but in general I can say it was a complete waste of time (and money). During the last 2-3 months, I've accepted the fact that dating has changed and I might stay single/no sex for a while. I try to be in peace with that, life goes on. I still approach women (when they are worth approaching) and browse OLD here and there, I meet some but it almost never works. I had lost hope.
Three weeks ago I sent a random message to a girl on Instagram, I thought she would never reply but she did. We've been talking everyday since and we have met twice. First date was amazing, second date was even better. We kissed each other on the second date. We still communicate everyday, everything goes well. I don't know her that much but so so far she ticks all the boxes:
-She 10 years younger (27)
-She doesn't care about my situation (I'm in my mid-30s, I decided to back to school and I live in a dorm)
-She works and she is independent, she lives alone, etc.
-She's generous
-She doesn't have children
-She is gorgeous, 100% my type (tall, skinny, blonde, blue eyes - model type), I'd rate her 8.5. Almost no makeup, natural.
-She doesn't expect me to pay for everything (sometimes I pay, sometimes she does). She can open the door by herself.
-She always texts back. I don't feel she is playing games.
-She has 4-5 little tattoos here and there, it's cute. I'm not a tattoo guy but I can live with that.
-I don't think she has had many boyfriends or high body count, but I'm not sure about this.
-She doesn't go out, but see her friends on weekend.
*The only minuses is that I think she uses Instagram too much, in a perfect world, the girl I would date wouldn't use instagram at ALL (good luck finding a girl who doesn't use instagram), and she smokes sometimes, I can't disqualify her for that. I try not to put her on a pedestal, but man, she is something.
The most important thing is that I realize that not only I'm attracted to her physically, but I like her personality and I have a crazy good time when I'm with her. She's fun, she has a great sense of humour, she's real, etc. We get along pretty well. I admit it, I like her, and I feel she likes me too. Nice.
The problem is that I can't help but to feel insecure, I control it well because I'm aware that I am, it doesn't show but the feeling is there and it's not pleasant, it grows as we move forward in the "relation". The insecurity is not about myself but about the fact that she can ghost me for no particular reason, or loose interest, or decide to go back to her ex. etc, at any time. I feel skeptical about her, I'm always thinking that it's too good to be true, like it's about to blow in my face and then I'll go back to case 1, and again I will have lost my time and I will be pissed off. With time I have become suspicious with women, I don't trust them. Since we have met, I feel like I'm always in a defensive position mentally, it's draining. My friend told me that only thing I can do is trust and go forward and see what happen without having any expectations, that's what I try to do but I find it difficult. So far no oneitis, (I've never had one really) but I think that if I let myself go, I can catch feeling for her and I would put myself in "precarious" situation emotionally and loose my precious balance.
From what I remember, when you start seeing a girl it's exciting and enjoyable, it makes you feel good, it gives you energy and confidence. But right now the feeling of uncertainty is ruining everything and I can't live in the present, I can't just sit back, relax and enjoy. I can't remember last I felt this way for a girl, it was a long time ago.
Some of us are going to bash me and drag me down I know: you're blue pilled, you're weak, you're this or that. I'm just a human, I like her and I feel good with her, just be happy for me. If you have nothing constructive to say, don't bother replying.
Any advice? How do you deal with that?
Cheers
