Thoughts on Vibrators for LTR/Wives

[Money & Muscle]

There's some conversation about women who use vibrators effectively desensitizing themselves from intercourse. To be honest, it makes sense that if she's using the 9" Triple-Action Ribbed Spinning Cervix Destroyer 9000 - she will probably find even above average **** to be boring. I don't think it's unreasonable to suspect desensitizing to happen, I mean we know it happens with men who frequently use porn.

I've recently discussed this with the wife (she only uses a Rabbit) because it seems like it's going to make sex less satisfying for her... I mean, my **** doesn't vibrate and it doesn't have speed setting, ya know? Anyways, I told her my concerns about it negatively impacting our sex life and she's since stopped using it (I didn't ask or tell her to stop, she just did this on her own). I still actually want to use toys with her in bed, but only when it's me using it on her, or her using it while servicing/blowing me. I don't mind if she masturbates without me, but I'd be kind of mad if she's there flicking the bean and not wanting to put out (hasn't happened, hypothetical).

What do you all think about letting your LTR use vibrators?

 

[stringpuller]

There's some conversation about women who use vibrators effectively desensitizing themselves from intercourse. To be honest, it makes sense that if she's using the 9" Triple-Action Ribbed Spinning Cervix Destroyer 9000 - she will probably find even above average **** to be boring. I don't think it's unreasonable to suspect desensitizing to happen, I mean we know it happens with men who frequently use porn.

I've recently discussed this with the wife (she only uses a Rabbit) because it seems like it's going to make sex less satisfying for her... I mean, my **** doesn't vibrate and it doesn't have speed setting, ya know? Anyways, I told her my concerns about it negatively impacting our sex life and she's since stopped using it (I didn't ask or tell her to stop, she just did this on her own). I still actually want to use toys with her in bed, but only when it's me using it on her, or her using it while servicing/blowing me. I don't mind if she masturbates without me, but I'd be kind of mad if she's there flicking the bean and not wanting to put out (hasn't happened, hypothetical).

What do you all think about letting your LTR use vibrators?

My wife is not into the toys. She orgasms by pentetration though. I have straps anchored to the floor. In our room. I really like to hate fck her sometimes.
I dont mind the toys she is just not into them. I wouldnt sweat it but I think naturally people just get bored. You gotta keep it spicey.

 

[HaleyBaron]

They're just holdovers between lack of sex. Who knew that even women have dry spells [but voluntarily unlike men]. But women are funny that way. They want sex but they will refuse it until they can get the right guy. So they use vibrators in the meantime and they are constantly wishing a guy ****s and creams them.

Toys are support but that is it.

 

[Gamisch]

Think broad. Perhaps 1 of her kinks is getting tied up/ handcuffed . Or blindfolded. Soft bdms. Roleplay ect.Could be a minor change for you but huge for her.

I just said something similar; a sex shop will be 10% male,90 female products. And Male products will be mostly porn. Meanwhile there are tons of nipple clamps, vibos , and less straight forward things like clothes, candles ect for women and new things being invented everyday simply because manufacturers realize the market is huge, and more and more women worldwide are "sexually liberated ".

Imo its next level when a man REALLY starts to study female sexuality. Look at this picture. Is there ANY product om there that a man needs to get off? ( except the hot blonde girl) nope . I bet most men cant even name ten things on this picture. Lets make it 5. Oke 3? Oke name just ONE product on there ...

 

[Money & Muscle]

Think broad. Perhaps 1 of her kinks is getting tied up/ handcuffed . Or blindfolded. Soft bdms. Roleplay ect.Could be a minor change for you but huge for her.

I just said something similar; a sex shop will be 10% male,90 female products. And Male products will be mostly porn. Meanwhile there are tons of nipple clamps, vibos , and less straight forward things like clothes, candles ect for women and new things being invented everyday simply because manufacturers realize the market is huge, and more and more women worldwide are "sexually liberated ".

Imo its next level when a man REALLY starts to study female sexuality. Look at this picture. Is there ANY product om there that a man needs to get off? ( except the hot blonde girl) nope . I bet most men cant even name ten things on this picture. Lets make it 5. Oke 3? Oke name just ONE product on there ...

I have no problem with ME using vibrators/toys on my wife, or my wife using them on herself while with me, but I don't really want her using them by herself. Not for a lack of fulfilment for her, not as a punishment or anything, simply that I don't want her to get desensitized to my ****... my **** don't vibrate lol.

 

[Gamisch]

I have no problem with ME using vibrators/toys on my wife, or my wife using them on herself while with me, but I don't really want her using them by herself. Not for a lack of fulfilment for her, not as a punishment or anything, simply that I don't want her to get desensitized to my ****... my **** don't vibrate lol.

Man, dont worry bout that shyte. A vagina is made to poop out a freaking child. That approximately one and a half basketball.... Auch. And i can tell you even after that it will recover and be tight.

No vibo will ever replace your D. Remember that sex for women is more mental than anything. Like i show with this really simple picture;there are TONS of products that can enhance your sexlife. Your wife might even appreciate your effort/knowledge.

Side note;women that mastrubate tend to be less slvtty. Because nowadays a woman can be horny at 2 o'clock, and be fecking a stranger at 5 o'clock...

 

[soulforge]

My wife is not into the toys. She orgasms by pentetration though. 8 have straps anchored to the floor. In our room. I really like to hate fck her sometimes.
I dont mind the toys she just not into them. I wouldnt sweat it bit I think naturally people just get bored. You gotta keep it spicey.

What exactly is hate fuk her?

 

[stringpuller]

What exactly is hate fuk her?

Agressive. Bit of pain. Rough her up.
Dont you ever feal that carnal urge to punch something when you are ramping up?

 

[Money & Muscle]

Man, dont worry bout that shyte. A vagina is made to poop out a freaking child. That approximately one and a half basketball.... Auch. And i can tell you even after that it will recover and be tight.

I'm aware, I have a child of my own.

It's not about her getting used to something bigger than me, it's that my **** doesn't vibrate and it doesn't hit exactly where she wants to, when she wants it to - unlike a vibrator. If you watch too much porn, it can desensitize you to normal sex and normally attractive women, this is proven. Is it that crazy to think that vibrating the **** out of a specific nerve bundle wouldn't do the same?

We already have toys, I'm just saying not to use them without me.
Did you read my whole OP? I covered this...

 

[Murk]

Dont you ever feal that carnal urge to punch something when you are ramping up?

Never, hard and rough yes but never transferred to violence for me.

None of my LTRs ever had or used toys, I think I'd be against it but never had to have that convo.

Only 1 girl I used to see had a wand, she used it twice while we banged and it was very off-putting, she had it on max setting and wanted me to ram it into her, I even told her straight up, this has desensitised your vag, I didn't care that much as she was just a bang.

I wouldn't have an LTR using toys, just my personal stance.

 

[Bingo-Player]

One of my plates last year was an avid porn watcher and toy user

She was only 23 and I would have to fvck her for a good 45 mins - an hour to get her properly off so yes I think it definitely does effect their orgasms

to orgasm women usually need psychological AND physical stimulation

Obviously a real man properly dominating and fvcking her can only really really provide the psychological part so then when a man isn't available they have to use extreme amounts of physical stimulation (toys)

Most chicks wether they will admit it or not fantasise over stuff like being tied up or used .....if you watch some of the more realistic porno's most girls are actually enjoying it which took me a long time to understand

 

[stringpuller]

Never, hard and rough yes but never transferred to violence for me.

None of my LTRs ever had or used toys, I think I'd be against it but never had to have that convo.

Only 1 girl I used to see had a wand, she used it twice while we banged and it was very off-putting, she had it on max setting and wanted me to ram it into her, I even told her straight up, this has desensitised your vag, I didn't care that much as she was just a bang.

I wouldn't have an LTR using toys, just my personal stance.

The punch thing was a figure of speech. I dont suggest doing it. Haha

 

[corsica]

No vibo will ever replace your D. Remember that sex for women is more mental than anything.

This.


Just like thinking a perfect-body sex-doll with a tight vagina will be better than an actual average woman. A dildo is just something to kill the urge for sex but in no comparison will be as satisfying.

It's not easy to "spice things up" after a LTR. A good way is to change scenery. Even a nearby hotel can make a difference.

 

[soulforge]

I was seeing a chick some years ago, who like to watch porn with me, when was fuked.

It's would be an occasional thing, however as time went by, I noticed how she wanted the porn more and more often.

At this point I kinda dropped the porn thing with her for a while.

I know first hand how addictive porn can be, and how it can distort the reality of actual sex with a normal chick. I am guessing a similar effect can happen to chicks.

 

[Murk]

I was seeing a chick some years ago, who like to watch porn with me, when was fuked.

I only tried this once years ago on her request and it was weird as fvck lasted 2 minutes I couldn't do it

Dunno how people can watch porn with a partner

 

[Rainman4707]

No good. Desensitises cli*oros. Advise your woman not to use them.

 

[Stuffnu]

Some of your insecurities are leaking through.
Nothing wrong with using the toys as it will help prevent stagnation, especially in a LTR. And if she’s a freak, don’t be afraid young Padawans.
For those that are worried about boring out her hole with the Ron Jeremy, steer her towards a womanizer. Stimulates the fun button, and you can still go to town.
Win Win.

 

[Chowdah]

My wife is not into the toys. She orgasms by pentetration though. I have straps anchored to the floor. In our room. I really like to hate fck her sometimes.
I dont mind the toys she is just not into them. I wouldnt sweat it but I think naturally people just get bored. You gotta keep it spicey.

Agreed on keeping things spicy. I’m a kinky dude so I establish it very early on in the relationship that my bedroom is behind closed doors. I have straps, tie downs, a production camera setup, various lighting effects…you name it. I have them put on different costumes, some of them go and get their own outfit to surprise me.

Women that are worth your time understands how to please their man, in return, he might offer his commitment and resources…or give that perception

 

[Money & Muscle]

Most chicks wether they will admit it or not fantasise over stuff like being tied up or used

I already do this - we have cuffs, clamps, outfits, etc. We don't have any furniture yet, but it's on the short list of items to order.

 

[Money & Muscle]

Some of your insecurities are leaking through.

Probably. We all want to be the best she's ever had, right? Not a huge deal for pickup or dating games, but marriage? Yeah, I've got insecurities I'm working through.

Still, point stands that I sincerely want her to have her best orgasms with me. More than that, I don't want her vibrator use to diminish her ability to orgasm with me. She currently finishes through penetration ****oral stimulation, and I've almost got her nipples sensitive enough to finish her off that way too (have been working on it)... What I'm getting at, is I want her orgasms to be just as strong (or stronger) with me, and not lessened due to vibrator use. I don't actually think that part is an insecurity, I think that's common sense - but feel free to disagree, I'm open to discussion.

I'm 100% on board with ME using toys on her, or her using them on herself when I'm with her - just not without me there... they're great tools to improve a relationship if used together.