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Most Dj's when they come up to a group, make a small shudder, this is teh DJ call of distress.
Infact for most DJ's nothing is more distressing then approaching a group.
The Key that has been touted so obviously for this situation has been "SINGLE HER OUT"
But right now "I CHALLENGE THIS".
Through my experience i have learned the power of a group. You hear the teachers of school say...
"Peer Pressure"
As if this word alone, kills all of the hard effort they have put into teaching you.[if i may add most of what they taught you was BS
]
but why single a girl out of this wonderful enviroment, you will have to enentualy of course, by why rush?
You see, people belong to a group because humans need to belong, it provides security.
So if you, instead of crying over it, take pickings of its advantages you infact not only have the girl rooting for you but the whole community surrounding the girl. Creating a force around her, that for her to fit in to her group, she must like you. It is expected of her.
I'm not saying spend the whole night with the group. But if you first ween them over you create a NEED for her to be with you, better yet, all her friends will be asking her about YOU, which will inforce the ATTRACTION in the long run, because she will have more reinforced day-dreams of you.
HOW. The Group is a very unstable enviroment. The best way to lead it is to stay subtle for the first few moments. It is like anything or anyone, if you burst in and cause a explosion you break calm, and your kicked out. So first settle down and LISTEN. Yes LISTEN. LISTEN. If you feel a need, do some slight eye contact with the girl... but LISTEN. Then. Figure out thier mood, figure out what they are talking about and WHY. THEN.. LISTEN. Then WHAT.WHY. SO.. LISTEN Think WHAT then WHY. Finally RELATE. If they are talking about thier trip to the moon, and you have never been to the moon and are stumped on how to relate you didn't LISTEN. They are talking about the moon? WHAT is a trip to the moon? A trip. What do you experience on trips. Excitement, Joy, Thrill, Tribulations. Focus on the first three the last is negative. So WHY? if you LISTENED you would have heard before they were talking about how excited they are to be going to Mexico next month. So WHY is because it's a relation and a memory recall of another fun trip and they are hoping to relive it... now pull up soething you've been through that is similar and RELATE. tell your own story. They Key to Telling a Story is to ENJOY it and LIVE it.
The Wait. While you are LISTENing. You must wait. The important thing during this is to hold eye contact and smile WITH YOUR EYES and MOUTH and CHEECK.. Eye contact should be kept at about 2/3 of the convo with the speakers. Laugh Chuckle enjoy. BLEND in. BECOME one of them. Make them LIKE you FEEL somfortable with you...
ENJOY IT.
LEt it be known that you have a slight "crush" on your target.
HERE is THE KEY.
Crushes are cute with groups. Because you don't have to **** them, they think it is innocent. Lust turns on a ***** Shield
Lust is hot with your target. Because you have to **** her, you don't want her to think your all innocent[though a little does help, she doesn't want to feel like a ****buddy unless she is into that] You want her to feel the LUST.
Hope that helps. Remember Peer Pressure is a powerful tool for you to use.
Listen.What?Why?.Relate.
Infact for most DJ's nothing is more distressing then approaching a group.
The Key that has been touted so obviously for this situation has been "SINGLE HER OUT"
But right now "I CHALLENGE THIS".
Through my experience i have learned the power of a group. You hear the teachers of school say...
"Peer Pressure"
As if this word alone, kills all of the hard effort they have put into teaching you.[if i may add most of what they taught you was BS
]but why single a girl out of this wonderful enviroment, you will have to enentualy of course, by why rush?
You see, people belong to a group because humans need to belong, it provides security.
So if you, instead of crying over it, take pickings of its advantages you infact not only have the girl rooting for you but the whole community surrounding the girl. Creating a force around her, that for her to fit in to her group, she must like you. It is expected of her.
I'm not saying spend the whole night with the group. But if you first ween them over you create a NEED for her to be with you, better yet, all her friends will be asking her about YOU, which will inforce the ATTRACTION in the long run, because she will have more reinforced day-dreams of you.
HOW. The Group is a very unstable enviroment. The best way to lead it is to stay subtle for the first few moments. It is like anything or anyone, if you burst in and cause a explosion you break calm, and your kicked out. So first settle down and LISTEN. Yes LISTEN. LISTEN. If you feel a need, do some slight eye contact with the girl... but LISTEN. Then. Figure out thier mood, figure out what they are talking about and WHY. THEN.. LISTEN. Then WHAT.WHY. SO.. LISTEN Think WHAT then WHY. Finally RELATE. If they are talking about thier trip to the moon, and you have never been to the moon and are stumped on how to relate you didn't LISTEN. They are talking about the moon? WHAT is a trip to the moon? A trip. What do you experience on trips. Excitement, Joy, Thrill, Tribulations. Focus on the first three the last is negative. So WHY? if you LISTENED you would have heard before they were talking about how excited they are to be going to Mexico next month. So WHY is because it's a relation and a memory recall of another fun trip and they are hoping to relive it... now pull up soething you've been through that is similar and RELATE. tell your own story. They Key to Telling a Story is to ENJOY it and LIVE it.
The Wait. While you are LISTENing. You must wait. The important thing during this is to hold eye contact and smile WITH YOUR EYES and MOUTH and CHEECK.. Eye contact should be kept at about 2/3 of the convo with the speakers. Laugh Chuckle enjoy. BLEND in. BECOME one of them. Make them LIKE you FEEL somfortable with you...
ENJOY IT.
LEt it be known that you have a slight "crush" on your target.
HERE is THE KEY.
Crushes are cute with groups. Because you don't have to **** them, they think it is innocent. Lust turns on a ***** Shield
Lust is hot with your target. Because you have to **** her, you don't want her to think your all innocent[though a little does help, she doesn't want to feel like a ****buddy unless she is into that] You want her to feel the LUST.
Hope that helps. Remember Peer Pressure is a powerful tool for you to use.
Listen.What?Why?.Relate.