Fruitbat
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Contentious post, but I’ve known a couple of successful - very successful Casanovas in my life. Self-admittedly far more successful than me.
I estimate prior to getting married for the 2nd time, perhaps 30-40 in my life. I knew a few guys doing that in a year. Not just having the looks, career etc, but also the drive, the game and getting a real achievement buzz from it .
Sad fact is, I found myself never wanting to hang with them. Men of this ilk are never the type to see things as “off limits” nor meet you as an equal. They tend to want you there as another admirer and will turn on you if there’s a chance it will put them up the status hierarchy when a woman’s present.
Now, I never wanted my life to be a lone wolf scenario. I don’t want “friends” who stab you that easily.
In the end, I find myself and others drifting away from them. Especially if you have a GF.
Note: this isn’t just a guy with his shyt together. It’s a Casanova. There is a difference. I know some solid guys who can pull tons, but they aren’t motivated in the same way.
In my view, you need to make a choice if you play life this way. You’re going to lose a lot of friends and never really get trusted by those close to you if you choose this route.
Some may view this as player hatred. I’d say there is a distinct dark triad element with these guys and nobody ever gets anything out of an interaction with dark triad - it’s a pointless friendship with no benefits.
I estimate prior to getting married for the 2nd time, perhaps 30-40 in my life. I knew a few guys doing that in a year. Not just having the looks, career etc, but also the drive, the game and getting a real achievement buzz from it .
Sad fact is, I found myself never wanting to hang with them. Men of this ilk are never the type to see things as “off limits” nor meet you as an equal. They tend to want you there as another admirer and will turn on you if there’s a chance it will put them up the status hierarchy when a woman’s present.
Now, I never wanted my life to be a lone wolf scenario. I don’t want “friends” who stab you that easily.
In the end, I find myself and others drifting away from them. Especially if you have a GF.
Note: this isn’t just a guy with his shyt together. It’s a Casanova. There is a difference. I know some solid guys who can pull tons, but they aren’t motivated in the same way.
In my view, you need to make a choice if you play life this way. You’re going to lose a lot of friends and never really get trusted by those close to you if you choose this route.
Some may view this as player hatred. I’d say there is a distinct dark triad element with these guys and nobody ever gets anything out of an interaction with dark triad - it’s a pointless friendship with no benefits.