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The only thing worse than a dry spell...

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...Is too much abundance and women literally hounding you for attention like meth addicts. They message you all day. You're glued to your phone and you realize you're addicted. The bi+ches keep messaging, all begging to be fvcked. Only so many hours in the day. My penis is sore. Cumming is just a drug. What about accomplishing other things in life? What about spending some time with my friends and family?

Nope. All takes a backseat to the God of Vagina.
 

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A "dry spell" is only bad if you frame it as "bad".

Reminds of Joe Rogan talking about smoking weed on one of his podcasts with that bloke from CNN who admitted he
smoked weed one time but he didn't like the paranoia that became him.

Joe in my opinion was quite astute "the paranoia is not bad at all if it reveals to you a hole in your personality which needs fixing, go fix it come back and smoke and see if it's gone"

Why is the "dry spell" happening? fix it and come back.



But yeah, too much of something in your life will lead to an imbalance in other areas of your life, there is no doubt.

Balance is key.
The Dry Spell part was not meant to seem negative. I was reframing it. Dry Spells are great because you're by yourself with nature, reflective and mindful. I welcome Dry Spells greatly. It's a chance to reset and process life's experiences.

Agreed with your point about weed. I used to smoke a lot of weed, and it made me very anxious initially. But as I became more comfortable and secure in who I am I actually began to enjoy the paranoia. And then the paranoia disappeared and weed just made me feel very relaxed. Eventually I had to stop smoking weed because it made me too lazy and i started skipping things like sports practice and so on, so I could get high instead.
 

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Up to 1 year dry spell is just about manageable depending how old you are , i've seen some guys start to go a little bit loopy around the year mark

1 year plus and you start heading into dangerous territory

In an idea world i would like to be alternating between 2 women a month 3 max ,

i don't think i could cope with anymore the rest of my life / business would suffer too much

at the moment my rotation is poor so i am lucky if its one a month which isn't really enough but does allow me time to get on with other stuff
 

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Reminds of Joe Rogan talking about smoking weed on one of his podcasts with that bloke from CNN who admitted he smoked weed one time but he didn't like the paranoia that became him.

Joe in my opinion was quite astute "the paranoia is not bad at all if it reveals to you a hole in your personality which needs fixing, go fix it come back and smoke and see if it's gone"

Why is the "dry spell" happening? fix it and come back.
Some good points here.
 

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Up to 1 year dry spell is just about manageable depending how old you are , i've seen some guys start to go a little bit loopy around the year mark

1 year plus and you start heading into dangerous territory

In an idea world i would like to be alternating between 2 women a month 3 max ,

i don't think i could cope with anymore the rest of my life / business would suffer too much

at the moment my rotation is poor so i am lucky if its one a month which isn't really enough but does allow me time to get on with other stuff
Idk how a man can stay Celibate for a whole year, I'm at 4 months and I've already turned into a starving coyote.
 

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Idk how a man can stay Celibate for a whole year, I'm at 4 months and I've already turned into a starving coyote.
It's easy when you know how. I'm at 2 years and 5 months currently....
 

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Idk how a man can stay Celibate for a whole year, I'm at 4 months and I've already turned into a starving coyote.
Longest i think i have done is around 10 months but was going through a very difficult and depressing period in my life and wasn't really interested in women

But i've bedded enough women now to know there are women out there that want to put out as quickly as you want to give it

The problem men have getting sex is nearly always circumstantial , you need the right girl , in the right place at the right time

There's billions of single women on the planet so your odds of finding one that wants sex is actually pretty high even if you are a bit fussy

The place is always the biggest problem , getting out of your own head and actually going out to find them that is where a mans desire to hunt must take prevalence

PORN absolutely ruins this. ( i am on a porn ban )

Timing is again everything but most women enjoy sex and want to be screwed just as much as you want to screw so it usually doesn't take much convincing if you know what you are doing

If you get those 3 right you can only screw it up for yourself
 

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PORN absolutely ruins this.
Ruin is a subjective term. Personally, porn keeps pursuit of actual women out of my head at all times.
I'm grateful that such a thing exists.
 

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Ruin is a subjective term. Personally, porn keeps pursuit of actual women out of my head at all times.
I'm grateful that such a thing exists.
Yea but I've read a couple of your posts and you sound like you have been burnt badly , you think all women are bad based on your past experiences , yea there's a lot of trash out there but there's a lot of trashy people in the world full stop you shouldn't become a sexual recluse because you cant be bothered too sort through the trash

There are diamonds and unicorns out there but if they were easily found they wouldn't be diamonds and unicorns .....

Porn Its a form of escapism just like gambling , drinking , drugs ..... it feeds into instant gratification which does exactly what it says on the tin but a healthy sexual relationship with a real female is 10X better for both your physical and mental health even if you don't want to accept it
 

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I'm pretty much a social recluse period, I'm not so good with people. Maybe I'm reading this wrong but
shouldn't blowing a load when necessary be an instant gratification? It doesn't physically feel any different
when a female is involved. Porn removes the need for the flirting and to and fro interactions. Less of my
time is wasted. My life is pretty dismal compared to what it once was, I don't see how some temporary
escapism from that is so bad. I've also become quite a heavy drinker since my marriage ended.
 

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Having sex is not the same as blowing a load, that is an absurd assertion.

If you don't enjoy the journey, you don't get it, it's easy to see for most here, you have to enjoy being around women, you can't have resentment held deep, so your right, going with or without sex isn't the point ultimately, as your behavior should be a constant regardless and if it isn't, that's where your ****in up
 

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Having sex is not the same as blowing a load, that is an absurd assertion.

If you don't enjoy the journey, you don't get it, it's easy to see for most here, you have to enjoy being around women, you can't have resentment held deep, so your right, going with or without sex isn't the point ultimately, as your behavior should be a constant regardless and if it isn't, that's where your ****in up
I don’t really enjoy being around other people at all, but especially women. Since my breakup I have all but become a recluse. I go to work, do my job and come home again. I don’t really spend any time doing things with other people anymore. I’m friendly enough with the people at work and they have no idea that I’m a hermit outside of the workplace. I tidy my home, make it comfortable for myself, wash my car and shop for supplies. That’s all I do now. Today I assembled a couple of bedside cabinets to occupy myself before I went to work, which is where I am as I type this. When I get home at about midnight I will watch TV for a while and then go to bed. I have depressive periods quite regularly and have been going through quite a long lasting one for the past few weeks. I have no family in the city I live in, everyone I know here is connected to my wife, I married into this area. Through circumstance I am stuck here for another year or so before I can leave this godforsaken place forever. It has only brought me sadness and grief which has changed me from what I once was to what I am now. I can’t see much point in fighting an inevitability, I am supposed to be alone. If that wasn’t the case I’d have someone. I only post here so that I can feel like someone is listening.
 

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...Is too much abundance and women literally hounding you for attention like meth addicts. They message you all day. You're glued to your phone and you realize you're addicted. The bi+ches keep messaging, all begging to be fvcked. Only so many hours in the day. My penis is sore. Cumming is just a drug. What about accomplishing other things in life? What about spending some time with my friends and family?

Nope. All takes a backseat to the God of Vagina.
Then you need to enforce your standards. This is worse than ONE itis, it's Mult-itis.
 

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...Is too much abundance and women literally hounding you for attention like meth addicts. They message you all day. You're glued to your phone and you realize you're addicted. The bi+ches keep messaging, all begging to be fvcked. Only so many hours in the day. My penis is sore. Cumming is just a drug. What about accomplishing other things in life? What about spending some time with my friends and family?
LOL, oh come on!!!! :rolleyes: Seriously? Where are all these women messaging you all day begging to be fvcked? Is this for real?

This is not my world nor the world of anyone I know and I live in one of the biggest cities in North America.

That said you fully admit you are a sex addict and that you've lost jobs etc.

It IS a true addiction and there is treatment for it, if it interferes with your life in such a negative dramatic way, have you ever considered seeking professional help?

Would that not be the logical solution?
 
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