No offense but I have no idea where guys on this forum are coming from who expect a woman is going to put a guy in front of their kids priority wise or make decisions based on him versus their kids needs.Thanks for more background, you said a magic sentence in there that told me everything i needed to know.
"I was the lowest priority."
This tells me the relationship meant nothing to her. So when someone makes you their lowest priority, they become your lowest priority.
You are now too busy for her. She blew her chance. If you entertain her breadcrumbing now you will be teaching her, it is ok to do it to you again and again.
Stop going the extra mile for people who won't cross the street for you.
IMHO, this would be a humongous red flag in terms of her not only being a garbage Mom, but also a garbage human being.
I have no earthly idea how guys complain about not finding quality women but then expect a woman to do the thing that would make her about the lowest quality woman they could be. It's in direct opposition to each other and it's makes absolutely no sense to me.
Clearly most guys here are not parents or don't have kids so they have no comprehension of how this actually works in real life. Only explanation I got, because if you have kids and you are expecting this, I feel bad for both you and your kids. And if you don't have kids and actually think like this...please don't have kids. There are enough deadbeat Dads as there are, no need to add another to the list.