She texted me again, this time about the castration of our youngest cat... Idk if there is a deeper meaning behind and tbh I don't really care.
But I thought about how to proceed in general and I see 2 paths. 1) Keep the cats, close all administrational stuff around the break up (she owes me also something around 2,5k-5k EUR) at the price of a minimum of contact with her and the pain attached to it.
2) Let go of everything and hopefully cut all ties for good. But even then she could simply walk over to my place ring and say whatever...
I want to try 1) because of the cats (let's not go too deep here, I might be just a bit crazy about them and I'm willing to take some pain if it works in the end) and even with 2) she can find a way to contact me anytime, be it just a letter that she drops in my mailbox.
For me the damage was done, once I received her messages, not replying was good and I'm still in no contact, but the damage is done once she reaches out to me and I cannot do much about it. So I'm thinking about having her come over, tell her again (...) in a friendly manner that I do not want to hear from her ever again, that she shall please respect it, pay my money back etc. We are in good terms and she paid pack around 8k EUR already. So chances are that it might work out... she also seems to think, that me wanting no contact is some kind of phase that will end at some point, so I could try to clarify that it is not. In the long-term the only contact I want to have is "hey, picking up the cats on date X, bringing them back on date Y, bye".
I'm not decided yet, for now still no contact, it's been around 30 days now I think.
Here is my advice and i am sure most here will agree with me.
Get your own cat. Ignore her message. Delete her message. Block her number and go meet new women.
You are prolonging your own healing trying to hang in there for a cat.