I remember giving advice to a user named Roober here on how to deal with the BPD ex.To be honest i didn't count the days i'm not talking to my Ex anymore but i'm not talking to her since last summer. She constantly disrespected me and used the kids as a weapon so i decided to stop talking to her. I went to a lawyer and now i'm in a custody battle with her.
She's a toxic ****, her mom has bpd and 3 kids from 3 men. My Ex has chosen the same path. I would say that i'm pretty much over her.
Yesterday i was checking my blocked contacts on IG and WhatsApp. I unblocked my Ex because she doesn't care that i have her blocked anyway.
I saw that she has her new bf's name linked on her IG profile. I felt bad for a moment but then just closed it. This girl is damaged and when i was chasing her when i was a blue pill simp, she already had sex with other guys. Now she's playing the good girl role and pretends to be religious.
However i have a lot of work to do on myself and i feel like i made some progress. I don't really feel the urge to contact her but i still think about her and the past sometimes.
She hates me and wants to take all my parental rights that's what she's trying to get through her lawyer. I still don't see her as my enemy somehow even though she treated me like trash and doesn't even regret it and will never. I mean i still didn't fully accept this fact.
I would espescially like to get some advice from @dude99 and @derby1
Here is some of what i told him
1. Any issues in the past, just refuse to discuss. Simply answer "that topic is history and i will never discuss that with you again.." stick to that. Stick to your guns. They like to pick fights even about stuff that was over with 2 years ago. Do not defend your self. Just tell them that topic is closed.
2. If she is BPD Cut as much of her out of your life as possible. Discuss your kids and if she attempts any other topic just say no.
3. Get a lawyer for your childs sake. Let anything else that needs to be discussed, let the lawyer tell her. Not you..she will only attempt to pick a fight with you.
Stick to your guns. Ignore..delete and under no circumstances entertain taking her back.
I.will see if i can find the original message to T
Roober because i had some excellent points that i do not recall them all but ill post the link