Master Don Juan
- Oct 1, 2013
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It's amazing how the world is, and how much alike humanity is.Jariel said:This is the part that fvcks with my head. It does feel like it will happen soon. She wanted to meet last week originally, but I was away and couldn't make it, so now she says next weekend. Even though it's not a date and she's rejected the idea of us getting together, I know that if/when we meet in person it's going to stir her feelings up again. She's never been able to look me in the eyes without melting (her words). And unlike those situations where the ex has simply lost interest or fallen out of love, we broke up due to a harsh argument and those feelings haven't changed.
By writing that, I'm not trying to justify chasing her or clinging, but I just want to illustrate why it's difficult for me to give up and let go.
Even though I've never met you before, we speak completely different languages, and we live in countries with very distinguished cultures, this above quote of yours could have been easily mistaken as the exact description of myself and my ex throughout the months of august and september.
Listen to me man. She will reschedule it. She will postpone. She will set new dates. She will flake on them without even considering warning you. It is the same situation. I also got together with her if you remember. I saw it in her eyes. I could have easily made out with her at the spot. She was dazzled.
The next day she become the Ice Queen of Narnia... And then she will reschedulle again³
I fooled myself for those 2 months. Do not fool yourself man. If it was only resentment, you guys would have been together long ago. The feelings have changed indeed. She did experienced "new meat", the same you did.
You can never know what is in anybody's mind. But you can at least guess what is going on inside it by judging their actions. Hot and Cold, flakiness, indifference... you are way more experienced than me. You know exactly what those actions means.
Be a grown man, and deal with it. We are all here for you, the same way I know that you guys are here from me in my days of weakness. And glory as well. Deal with it, and glory shall come along.
Oh, you know you will.Jariel said:I do mate. Thanks. I really appreciate the support I've been getting from this forum and hope in my stronger moments I've been able to return the favour...or at least offer people the wisdom of my mistakes.
I am still hurting and griefing, but I can already see all the wisdom my own stupidit gave me.
But in order to protect thy heart, as renagade said, don't go counting that you might have a chance to show that you've become the master of relationships to you ex. Ever. It only feeds false hopes, and keep you in this limbo of doubt. Be indifferent of the outcome of this lesson you've learned.
You've learned the lesson. Now you use it in a next relationship.
Have a good one!