the Engaged girl that happened to me...

[rakish rake]

been lurking here for a couple yrs. but first post.

i am taken with an engaged girl. i met her in one of my classes at college. i noticed the big rock on her finger the first time i started talking to her. for the last couple months i've been talking to her more and getting to know her better. all the while throwing out subtle- but unmistakable hints, that i am into her. she's naturally gorgeous, but with a sort of quirky and weird personality that i find cute but may be off-putting to most generic dudes. she's also 20. and i'm not sure how long she has been engaged.

i recently had a study date with her (and got her number) and we really just ended up talking for 2 hours. it was great. she mentioned she was having a hard time finding good vampire fangs, so i showed up next class with some really nice fangs. ..at this point she seemed sort of shocked. she was nice and everything but i think she was surprised. ....to get to the end of my story, today after i got out of school i texted her to see if she wanted to go get a bite to eat. ........~nothing. i've really been wary of moving to fast or crossing any line. but hell, the semester is over halfway over and i have to start making strides sometime.

SO, i'm looking for any pointers here. i've generally got the vibe she was into me up until i gave her the little gift. (and don't let the context of what i gave her throw you off cos she is totally into fantasy and loves vampires, though not 'goth in any way..) i just feel like now i've sort of 'made it clear that i really like her', which sucks cos i know women like to think they are figuring things out for themselves. but... i am running out of time. what approach should i take? thanks in advance to any ideas!

 

[I'm Charming]

She has been playing you as a nice guy friend, has now realised that you have reached the point of over infatuation, the point at which an AFC realises a year down the line that he better start making advances or else he'll never get in there and comes off as creepy, and she is retracting until you calm down that raging boner.

You made your strides too late, she's already engaged, if your hitting on a chick that you know is involved with someone else thats desperation, she knows your desperate otherwise you wouldnt be knowingly doing it and is not interested in any way in you sexually.

I doubt she is off putting to the generic dudes, girls that come across as quirky are quite often seen as fairly kinky, in any case you're trying to make out that there is no other male interest when you quite clearly state she is engaged.

Forget this girl, move on before you damage your pride - or you could learn the hard way and have her painfully reject you, the choice is yours.

You need to see more women my friend, get out more.

 

[PectoralisMajor]

mistake 1) going after engaged chick when you have little experience of handling women.

mistake 2) buying the present

mistake 3) not seeing enough different chicks

mistake 4) liking her more than she likes you

go practice practice practice and the magic will come.

positive 1) your making the effort.

 

[reset]

It's better when they bring you gifts instead.

 

[KontrollerX]

*What reset said*

Also if she cheated on her man to run away with you she would just do the same to you eventually.

See its not wrong for a DJ or a player to knock it out with an involved chick be she married or engaged but it is wrong for a DJ to invest emotions and love into such a person.

Such a person is only good for taking c0ck and thats it.

You are falling deep into oneitis for vampire girl and it needs to stop and you need to move on to new prospects.

Now if your heart was cold to her and had only one thing in mind for her we'd tell you to go ahead and persue her for her new role as your fvck buddy but it isn't you are all emotional over this girl and even if you got her the very decision on her part to go for you and cheat on her man would reveal her low character and ultimately turn out to be a pyrrhic victory for you.

Meaning you've won the battle but in the long run you've lost the war.

 

[MascaraSnake]

There's a cute engaged girl in one of my classes, and we're buddies...that's it. I'd never get between a man and his woman, and you shouldn't either.

 

[Rex Man]

You think you're moving too fast? It's been months, if you moved any slower you'd be going in reverse.

That said, I've mulled over your piteous inquiry and I present to you the pros and cons of numerous fixes to your dilemma. (Please go easy with the compliments, it only embarrasses me.)

1 - Murder Her Fiance

+ No more engagement, that should definitely score you some 'bad boy' points

- You could potentially be looking at some jail time, You may walk with a limp after leaving said jail

2 - Buy Her Diamonds

+ Diamonds are a woman's best friend (outside of divorce decrees) and while she's occupied with her new best friend you have a small chance to sneak out of the friend zone and get to fvck buddy status

- Diamonds tend to be on the pricey side, the rock she's wearing may result in diminishing returns for your gem unless your diamond is bigger. (lol, I said bigger)

3 - Rape

+ Try before you buy, this will give you the (momentary) upper-hand in your relationship with her

- This route may be counterproductive to your 'not going too fast' mantra, there's always a good chance that she may contact the local authorities (in which case, refer to the cons of option 1)

4 - Spin Other Plates

+ More confidence, she'll take up less of your thoughts, more sex, more experience, should ease your oneitis.

- You'll have to buy more vampire teeth?

Ok, like I said before, please stop with the flattery.

 

[Warrior74]

leave that ho alone man. she's taken. go get some hoes of your own. stop being a buster.

 

[hondo928]

Seriously there's one thing for a girl to have a boyfriend, but I think it's a whole other issue when she's engaged, and if she does cheat on him she'll 1) most likely obbsesivley stalk you, because she's guilty about cheating, and the only way to justify it is make something with you (I've had this happen, but didn't know she was engaged till after we hooked up) 2) She's going to leave you, or 3) Go back to the hubby anyway.

Also I got an ex who's engaged at 20, she's also once divorced and not all there in the head, as I would think most chicks married by 20 are.