Most people don't trust themselves implicitly, which is perhaps due to some degree of insecurity in their own abilities to make decisions. For many years I sought out and accepted the guidance of people because I didn't trust my own analysis of the situation. In other words, I was constantly looking for a second opinion out of fear of making a mistake. Similarly, I would often tell people what I was doing, with the secret hope that they would give me positive reinforcement. Although I didn't realize it at the time, the message I was sending to others was that I was both insecure and didn't know what I was doing -- even though I did.Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Keeping in mind that there are exceptions to most rules, but that in general they are best followed, here are a few guidelines for DJs.
Deep down, you know what you need to do in order to be successful. If you trust your intuition, you'll usually see when a girl is bad news. You don't NEED a website filled with other guys in the same situation as you... it's helpful, but it isn't NECESSARY. You have the answers you're looking for.
There are times that you seek out the advice of other people, but those are usually restricted to situations where you are totally out of your element. Most of the time you should analyze your situation, and trust both the results of your analysis and your instincts. Each provides a counterbalance to the other. If your analysis is faulty, your instincts will tell you so. Likewise, if your instincts are telling you one thing, your rational side will temper your enthusiasm with logic.