Suggestions for the approach

[RedHerring]

I've been getting mixed signals from people whom I've tried 'the system' on. I'm feeling I'm doing something wrong.

Therefore, I made up exactly what I'd do in an approach, and put it into steps.

I would appreciate it if you would critique it, and give me suggestions.

-Go to a crowded, public location, i.e. the beach
-make and hold eye contact

-wait for a bit, circle around and approach her from the rear when she is alone or not engage in conversation
or
-approach from the front, being swift, strong and confident. Use non touching kino

-touch the back of her upper arm to get her attention and say "Hello, I'm Brian, how are you?".
-Extend arm (palm on an upward angle) for a handshake
-Wait for a response (I'm fine, i'm good, etc) then ask "What's your name?"
-Stand up straight, arms at sides, and periodically moving them while listening to different parts of my body
-While speaking, gesticulate and get in some kino
-Ask where she is from, and then ask her where she grew up
-Tease her about something, for instance, if she's wearing huge sunglasses I'd say "Oh, can I have some sun please, your huge sunglasses are blocking it all. After all, I do need my Vitamin D"
-I don't smile at first, and if she doesn't get it, then break out a ****y smile
-If she responds coldly, then I'd say "I gotta go, bye"
-If she accepts it, then I push on and tease her about something else
-All the while, keeping eye contact
-I say "well I gotta go, my friends are waiting" Turn around and start to walk, and then turn back and ask "Do you have email?", which most people do, so when she responds, I say, "great, write it down"
-Walk away towards friends

Next meetings:
-Be chivalrous
-Don't complement her
-Keep up the ****y and funny/teasing
-Remain mysterious, if asked a question I do not want to answer, tell her what she wants to hear and throw in some slapstick comedy line
-Say that we would be good friends, and once I feel she accepts that, I start flirting like hell and throw in some sexual innuendos
-If I feel like kissing her, I will. If not, then I won't.

And, during everything, act like a MAN.


Thanks for the help.

 

[DJoneday]

get her number instead...setting up dates over e-mail isn't nearly as good IMHO...

 

[Eternal]

Originally posted by RedHerring
-Be chivalrous

On this board, that tends to be ACFish...Just look at "Trying to Grow a Chin"'s signature...

 

[REDblueOI]

approaching from behind isn't hearly as good as making your presence known and talkin to her soon after the eyecontact... always # close, and just offer your name, she should reciprocate... but most of all, check outmy post:

From non don to don juan part III its all about appraoching... its in the approaching section of the HS bible.

 

[RedHerring]

By chivalrous, I mean opening doors, walking a little bit infront of her and walking inside of her (closest to traffic)

I dunno, that's what David D said.

 

[sonick182]

Bein a DJ doesnt mean you cant be a Gentleman as well. You dont have to go as far as sticking your jacket in the puddle so she doesnt get her shoes wet, but opening a door for her etc i think is fine.

 

[RedHerring]

And also, I'll be sweet to her when I want and on my own terms, i.e. leaving a card at her house or something like that.

 

[REDblueOI]

David D sux, don't listen to him.

 

[oreo_renegade]

Originally posted by RedHerring
"Oh, can I have some sun please, your huge sunglasses are blocking it all. After all, I do need my Vitamin D"
-

hehe whaaaaaaat?


Man, no ofense but you would get laughed at if you said something like this to the chicks I know. And not lauhged at in a good way.

How about a neghit on her, something like telling her shes hiding behind her sunglasses, then she must be ugly. (except reworded)

I would prolly say something like "I dont like people who are insecure with their bodies, your sunglasses make me think you are hiding behind them... *pull off her sunglasses and apply small kino to her face* "

this at least sets you up as more dominant, and sends the messege that you wont take any sh1t from her.

 

[oreo_renegade]

okay i just read the rest, no, do NOT walk away and then turn back around.

you are a man, you make decisions and you stick by them dammit!

You dont run around her! if you are walking away then you are walking away, you arent wondering and questioning about whether or not you should have asked her something. In fact you are thinking about your other 150 girls, not her.

"Listen, i have to go with my friends, but let me get you number and ill call you up when im free."

you are important! you have places to go! people to see! You dont want her email! you dont have time to type up ****! you barely have time to call her up and tell her to meet you some place, not email her and wait a week for a response .



next- "say that we would be good friends"

well thats nice, why dont you just tell her that you owuld make a stunning lap dog for her as well?

hell how about an invitation to go shopping for a leash and collar, so you can try it on?

screw TELLING HER that you would be her good friend. make her want to you to be her friend.

its already accepted she is your friend, but make her do things so you stay her friend. (or make her earn a place higher up then just "friend")


"once I feel she accepts that" whaaaaaaaaaaat!?


you arent picking up a friend man, you are picking up a ho that best prove herself worthy of your time. you have enough friends already without her.

Now, i have chick "friends" that I do stuff with, and i dont mean shopping and painting toe-nails. ad if you use the term "friend" in my sor of way, then its fine to have chick friends (not that i TELL THEM they are my friends, some obvious things just dont need saying)

But fr the most part the term "friend" on this board means a chick you wont do anything with. a chick like your sister. and its for that definition of the word friend that I tped up this post

 

[sonick182]

leaving a card at her house or something like that

Yeah, no... thats too afc, dont do that...

 

[RedHerring]

Originally posted by REDblueOI
David D sux, don't listen to him.

BS. Tell me how.



Anyways, what you guys are saying is making sense in the DJ style. But I originally encountered David DeAngelo's stuff first, and I can't find a reason to not agree with what he preaches. I've tried it first hand, it works, I can just never follow through (or wanted to). Most of that stuff is from him, with bits and pieces from the bibles here.

The reason I chose email over phone# is because it is less 'menacing' and a lot more lighter than a phone number. Then, when she's writing down the email, say "write down your number too, I'll only call you 200 times a day "


Then "let's be friends" comment is supposed to make her question if I really do like her or not and to keep her uneasy. It then becomes easier to flirt or whatnot. (I didn't really understand it either, but it was from David D again)

 

[RedHerring]

Re: Re: Suggestions for the approach

Originally posted by oreo_renegade
Man, no ofense but you would get laughed at if you said something like this to the chicks I know. And not lauhged at in a good way.

Yes, I know it's not the best, but it was late when I was typing this

I would prolly say something like "I dont like people who are insecure with their bodies, your sunglasses make me think you are hiding behind them... *pull off her sunglasses and apply small kino to her face* "

However, that's really good.

 

[REDblueOI]

Red, IM me, I've already gotten into it on the forums, no need to reiterate to those who've heard me rant about it already.

 

[RedHerring]

Yeah, I added your s/n right after you said that lol. I'm interested in what you have to say.