BGC
Master Don Juan
Guys,
Some of us are acquainted here, some of you are new. I've been having some good success lately, and I wanted to kind of offer some of the things I've been doing that work for me, and maybe they can work for you.
Last night I met the sister and friends of a chick I've been seeing for about four months. She'd asked me three times previous to meet her sister and friends, but I'd denied her because I wasn't super into her and because I wanted to be a challenge.
Well, the first half of the evening went smashing. Her sister really liked me. Maybe a little too much for my chick's liking! But although I was playful with my chick's sister, I tried not to cross a line, you know?
Some things that really work when you are the only guy with two or more chicks.
1. You've got to be an entertainer. You've got to entertain. And speak a lot. And not talk about any one chick personally. Like don't ask her about herself. The conversation has got to be neutral. Funny and impressive stories work very well. Even made-up ones. It doesn't really matter, because a chick's fantasy image of you is more important than the real you.
2. You've got to keep talking. It's hard, but you've got to do it. Don't babble, but if you can keep talking and keep being interesting, you'll succeed in your chick's eyes.
3. Be very friendly with her friends and sister. Now's not a time to try to maintain a tough posture.
4. Say no a few times. If they propose something, say no just to assert yourself.
5. But their balls a little. My chick's sister asked me how tall I was while we were waiting for my chick, and I said 6'7" with a straight face. Then maybe ten seconds later I laughed and teased her on how gullible she was for believing me.
6. If you're at a party, be sure you're very sociable. Strike up a conversation with someone you don't know. For instance, last night it was just me and the three chicks as we went into a party at a swanky bar, and they said they had to go to the ladies room, and my chick asked me if this was fine with me. I said sure, and she said, where will you be, and I said, at the bar. Well I went up to the bar and immediately struck up a conversation with a girl there. And she got into me in a hurry, touching me and the rest. And then when my chick and her sister and her friend came back, I was talking to this girl. This is much better than if they'd found me standing alone at the bar, I assure! Well, so what happened when they saw me talking to her: Well, my chick's sister came over and positioned herself BETWEEN me and the girl, and asked me what I was drinking. Then the girl at the bar answered for me! Then my chick's sister turned her back on this girl and started talking to me. A few seconds later, my chick came over and I made room for her against the bar. Well, you see how the girl I was talking to -- she surely thought, what the hell, she was talking to a guy and some other girls come over and kick her away. So my stock in this girl's eyes just went up. AND also when my chick SEES THAT OTHER CHICKS WANT ME, that makes her interest level in me go up. I think you can do this sort of thing, chatting with other chicks, as long as you don't cross the line of becoming heavily seductive with her or getting her number.
OK, now some other things apart from last night.
These things have helped get maybe forty numbers in the last four months. And I've dated five different women -- two of them I got nutplay from, one I dropped 'cause she was frigid, and the other two I've seen once each (one of them is a very hot and successful 43-year-old). Plus I've got a meeting scheduled for next Sunday with this chick I met in a library (second chick I've dated that I've met in a library!) and who has enormous tiits.
Here are some of the things that work for me.
1. Don't compliment. Not on anything, at any time. Never. Doing so makes you look weak in her eyes, I guarantee you.
2. Don't come on heavy. Don't make sexual allusions. Just ask the chick if she'd maybe like to meet up for coffee some time.
3. Expand beyond your comfort zone. Make a rule to yourself regarding in what situations you will approach a chick, and in what situations you won't. Otherwise you rationalize not approaching chicks.
4. Say at least ONE clause to every chick you'd like to have a date with. You never know whether chicks are into you unless you initiate a conversation. BECAUSE ALMOST ALL CHICKS WILL NOT INITIATE A CONVERSATION WITH YOU EVEN IF THEY FELL IN LOVE WITH YOU AT FIRST SIGHT. They might walk up to you and pretend to be doing something in your presence, or they might "accidentally" bump into you, but almost all chicks will not initiate a conversation with you. So you must be the one to inititate it.
5. Make yourself as physically attractive as possible. Perhaps this should have come first. Because how you look to a chick is very important. Get in shape physically, then get a good wardrobe.
6. Embrace popular culture. This might induce a few "what?"s. But hear me out. Popular culture is the one thing that most people hold in common. It's the biggest common ground out there, in other words. Think about it. If you see someone you've never met, what can you be sure that you too have in common? How about movies? What's the chance that both of you have seen a recent big movie? Probably better than the odds that both of you happen to like gardening, or biking, or hiking. You get the picture. Plus popular culture is hip and cool, and knowing it will make you hip and cool. Plus much of popular culture is about sex and dating, and so it will put you in a good mindset to meet, date, and bone chicks.
7. Try as hard as you can to become friends with guys who get a lot of ass. This is so key. If you're going to enter college, JOIN A FRATERNITY! If you're out of college, just look around for guys you think get some ass. They're pretty easy to spot. They'll tend to be louder, exuberant, a lot of smiling, a lot of busting of balls, etc.
8. When you get a chick's number, wait 6 to 9 days before calling. Trust me on this one, alright?
9. Never let a chick pull a "call to confirm" move on you. Always set a solid date that requires no one to call anyone in order for it to go ahead. This is very important, AS CHICKS WILL ALMOST ALWAYS TRY TO PULL THE "CALL TO CONFIRM" MOVE AT LEAST ONCE. They really will. You can't let them do it. Because then the meeting might not go through and also because even if it does go through, your stock will fall in her eyes because she will think you're a pusssy for letting her push you around, which the "call to confirm" move does indeed do -- it pushs you around.
10. Meet for coffee as a first meeting. Be there fifteen minutes early. Already be sitting down with your coffee when she arrives. Don't offer to buy her one. If she asks you to, which she probably won't, refuse in a humorous way.
11. Don't talk about sex, directly or indirectly, during your first meeting. Don't let her talk about if she wants to.
12. Don't say anything negative about anything, especially her or yourself. Radiate positivity. Chicks find this a big turn-on.
13. Cut the first meeting after an hour. Don't say, "I'll call you." Every guy says that. Say, "We'll talk soon." Then call her in seven to nine days. Again, trust me on this timeline.
14. Don't bring up past boyfriends or girlfriends. There's no reason to.
15. Don't spend more than like $30 for dinner in the beginning, including drinks.
16. Never ever ever set a date for a Friday or Saturday night until you've been going out for a few months. Trust me on this.
17. Don't pick up the phone on Friday night (if you're home) or all day Saturday and Saturday night. You want to create the impression that you have a very busy and active and fun life. You want her to think that there are ten women you're dating who all clamor to spend time with you and twenty guys who always want to hang out with you. Thus, YOU'RE NEVER HOME ON WEEKENDS. So don't answer the phone. Make sense?
18. Don't call on Sunday night unless you've been intimate with her. That's an intimate night, if you think about it. It's when people relax.
Some more things I've thought of and added:
19. Don't listen to her problems. Really. Even though it seems like that might be a good thing to do, if you become her therapist she won't like you as much. She'll associate her problems with you.
20. I neglected to note this the first time through. DON'T TALK ABOUT YOURSELF. NEVER ever ever volunteer something personal about yourself, and MAKE HER SWEAT TO FIND OUT EVEN THE SMALLEST DETAIL ABOUT YOU. When a chick I just met asks me where I went to college, I say Compton College. What does this do? First, it makes her laugh. Second, it says, "You're not going to get information out of me very easily." And when she realizes this, believe me, your stock will rise very fast and very far. This is the idea of mystery, and it's very important.
21. Related to the idea of being mysterious, is never talk longer than five minutes on the phone with a chick before you're intimate. Seriously. Just make some good conversation, then ask her out. Once you're intimate, then I think you can talk for ten minutes. Seriously. Time on the phone is strikes against you. 'Cause it's what chicks want, but it's not what you want. You can't bone her over the phone. So in short, if you spend a half hour or, God forfend!, an hour on the phone with some chick you've just met, you're finished. See, I used to do the same thing, and I used to say to myself, "Well, hell! She talked to me for a half hour, she must be into me!" It just doesn't work that way -- because when you talk for an hour on the phone with a chick you've just met, you're saying, "My time is so invaluable that'll I'll spend an hour of it on the phone with someone I've just met. I've got nothing better to do." So, bottom line: use the phone only to set up meetings.
New tips:
22. One other thing. Once you start having sex, make sure she gets off every time -- especially in the beginning. Because a lot of chicks don't get off with guys, and if you are one of the new who can get them off, your stock will rise in an amazing way. She'll tell all her friends (and her sister) about you and your fine touch. But so how do you do this? Well from my experience and from what I've read about other guys' experiences and from what I've read of chicks talking about what they like, I think the best thing to do is cunnilingus. Really. Because through actual intercourse you're a lot less likely to get her to come. And try in the beginning getting her to come before you do. This will amaze her. So go down on her. Take the initiative. And go slow. One thing I've learned from experience is that you just can't go to slow. Because if in a chick's mind you ARE going to slow, she will ASK YOU TO GIVE IT TO HER. And that's an enormous victory. Think about it. She's asking you to get her off. And also, unlike guys, chicks LIKE to be teased. Strange, right? I think the hottest I've seen this brawd I'm boning now is when I teased my finger around her pusss, around her panties, for like three minutes, before actually dipping a finger in. Then when you do finally take the panties off and get your face down to the trough. Try this. LICK THE ALPHABET. Literally. Because that way you are guaranteed of giving her variety and not going exclusively to the cliit, which is painful for a chick unless she's really aroused. Once you get to the like X or Y or Z, then in my experience she's usually aroused enough to start sucking directly on the cliit. And one other thing about cunnilingus. Don't just lie her on the bed. Do this. Turn her sideways on the bed, so her legs are over the edge at the knee. Then KNEEL ON THE FLOOR and pull her pusss so it's right at the edge of the bed, with her feet hanging down toward the floor. This position works amazingly well because you have so much more freedom of movement than if you are lying on the bed on your stomach.
23. If during the throes of passion a chick whispers in your ear that she's not going to sleep with you tonight, STOP THE INTIMACY IMMEDIATELY. Seriously. This might sound f'ed up, but listen to this logic. When a chick says that, she's really pulling a power move. BECAUSE THE SEX ISN'T WHAT DEEP DOWN DRIVES A CHICK, IT'S THE INTIMACY. And when you're teasing her snacktrays and kissing her and getting worked up over her and she tells you she's going to stop this before it comes to consummation, that's a serious offense to a guy. Because guys what the sex, not the intimacy. So the best thing to do is this, check this out: STOP KISSING HER IMMEDIATELY AND PULL AWAY AND THROW YOUR BOXERS ON AND SAY BRIGHTLY, "Hey, let's play checkers!" This will boggle her mind. Because every other guy she's ever been with has let her have it both ways: they've let her dictate no intercourse, but yet they've still given her the intimacy she so desired. Don't let this happen to you. Stick up for yourself. If she doesn't want to have sex, fine. BUT THEN SHE'S NOT GETTING ANY INTIMACY EITHER!
Alright, so those are some things that have been working for me.
Now I actually need your guys' thoughts.
I've got a minor difficulty, or challenge.
I've got an issue with dancing.
For as long as I can remember (back to seventh grade dances), I've felt very insecure about dancing, very self-conscious.
In college, even if I were bombed out of my mind, I would get very insecure.
And I would get insecure because I think I wasn't dancing very well. I had a friend once say, "You've got to loosen up," and a girl once whispered in my ear, "Your rhythm is wrong."
Worse, and this might sound f'ed up, I have this unsettling conviction when I'm dancing that everyone is noticing that I'm not dancing well. When I see people smile, my mind suggests that it's me they are smiling about.
This might or might not be true.
But check this out.
Last night, with my chick's sister and her friend, we went to a swanky party at a bar, and there was dancing.
Well to cut the long story to a short, I went out on the dance floor and again I felt the same kind of bad conviction that people were noticing that I was dancing bad.
And I swear, I saw my chick and my chick's sister kind of chuckling, but also kind of looking at me in a pitiful way. It was like they were saying with their eyes, "God he's perfect in every other way -- but he's making a fool of himself here -- and a fool of me, too."
Well as we left the party, I kind of got confirmation that maybe this was the case because my chick's sister said, "So I didn't know you could cut a rug so good." But she's pretty ironic, so I think she meant it ironically.
Then I said I didn't know you could, etc., and then a few minutes later she repeated it again.
And then my chick asked what "cut a rug" meant, and her sister said to dance. (I knew what it meant.)
Well the thing is, after last night and meeting my chick's sister and friends, I'm starting to like her more.
But I really feel kind of devastated because I'm convinced my stock fell dramatically in her eyes when she saw me dance.
Now the thing is, if I'm alone in my room and listening to music, I'm very comfortable with dancing.
Possibly, but I don't know if probably, I AM a good dancer, but somehow I've got it in my head that I'm not. But then again, maybe not.
If anyone has ever been through this, I'd really appreciate hearing from you.
And if anyone has any suggestions, I'd really appreciate hearing them.
I felt both full of rage last night when I got home and I just kind of felt sad -- and a little humiliated.
I'm thinking of taking something like Salsa lessons because I'm thinking that possibly that could help for the popular nighclub kind of dance floor.
Any thoughts or suggestions or advice anyone could would be greatly appreciated.
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"A life spent making mistakes is not only more honourable but more useful than a life spent in doing nothing."
--George Bernard Shaw
[This message has been edited by BGC (edited 03-11-2001).]
Some of us are acquainted here, some of you are new. I've been having some good success lately, and I wanted to kind of offer some of the things I've been doing that work for me, and maybe they can work for you.
Last night I met the sister and friends of a chick I've been seeing for about four months. She'd asked me three times previous to meet her sister and friends, but I'd denied her because I wasn't super into her and because I wanted to be a challenge.
Well, the first half of the evening went smashing. Her sister really liked me. Maybe a little too much for my chick's liking! But although I was playful with my chick's sister, I tried not to cross a line, you know?
Some things that really work when you are the only guy with two or more chicks.
1. You've got to be an entertainer. You've got to entertain. And speak a lot. And not talk about any one chick personally. Like don't ask her about herself. The conversation has got to be neutral. Funny and impressive stories work very well. Even made-up ones. It doesn't really matter, because a chick's fantasy image of you is more important than the real you.
2. You've got to keep talking. It's hard, but you've got to do it. Don't babble, but if you can keep talking and keep being interesting, you'll succeed in your chick's eyes.
3. Be very friendly with her friends and sister. Now's not a time to try to maintain a tough posture.
4. Say no a few times. If they propose something, say no just to assert yourself.
5. But their balls a little. My chick's sister asked me how tall I was while we were waiting for my chick, and I said 6'7" with a straight face. Then maybe ten seconds later I laughed and teased her on how gullible she was for believing me.
6. If you're at a party, be sure you're very sociable. Strike up a conversation with someone you don't know. For instance, last night it was just me and the three chicks as we went into a party at a swanky bar, and they said they had to go to the ladies room, and my chick asked me if this was fine with me. I said sure, and she said, where will you be, and I said, at the bar. Well I went up to the bar and immediately struck up a conversation with a girl there. And she got into me in a hurry, touching me and the rest. And then when my chick and her sister and her friend came back, I was talking to this girl. This is much better than if they'd found me standing alone at the bar, I assure! Well, so what happened when they saw me talking to her: Well, my chick's sister came over and positioned herself BETWEEN me and the girl, and asked me what I was drinking. Then the girl at the bar answered for me! Then my chick's sister turned her back on this girl and started talking to me. A few seconds later, my chick came over and I made room for her against the bar. Well, you see how the girl I was talking to -- she surely thought, what the hell, she was talking to a guy and some other girls come over and kick her away. So my stock in this girl's eyes just went up. AND also when my chick SEES THAT OTHER CHICKS WANT ME, that makes her interest level in me go up. I think you can do this sort of thing, chatting with other chicks, as long as you don't cross the line of becoming heavily seductive with her or getting her number.
OK, now some other things apart from last night.
These things have helped get maybe forty numbers in the last four months. And I've dated five different women -- two of them I got nutplay from, one I dropped 'cause she was frigid, and the other two I've seen once each (one of them is a very hot and successful 43-year-old). Plus I've got a meeting scheduled for next Sunday with this chick I met in a library (second chick I've dated that I've met in a library!) and who has enormous tiits.
Here are some of the things that work for me.
1. Don't compliment. Not on anything, at any time. Never. Doing so makes you look weak in her eyes, I guarantee you.
2. Don't come on heavy. Don't make sexual allusions. Just ask the chick if she'd maybe like to meet up for coffee some time.
3. Expand beyond your comfort zone. Make a rule to yourself regarding in what situations you will approach a chick, and in what situations you won't. Otherwise you rationalize not approaching chicks.
4. Say at least ONE clause to every chick you'd like to have a date with. You never know whether chicks are into you unless you initiate a conversation. BECAUSE ALMOST ALL CHICKS WILL NOT INITIATE A CONVERSATION WITH YOU EVEN IF THEY FELL IN LOVE WITH YOU AT FIRST SIGHT. They might walk up to you and pretend to be doing something in your presence, or they might "accidentally" bump into you, but almost all chicks will not initiate a conversation with you. So you must be the one to inititate it.
5. Make yourself as physically attractive as possible. Perhaps this should have come first. Because how you look to a chick is very important. Get in shape physically, then get a good wardrobe.
6. Embrace popular culture. This might induce a few "what?"s. But hear me out. Popular culture is the one thing that most people hold in common. It's the biggest common ground out there, in other words. Think about it. If you see someone you've never met, what can you be sure that you too have in common? How about movies? What's the chance that both of you have seen a recent big movie? Probably better than the odds that both of you happen to like gardening, or biking, or hiking. You get the picture. Plus popular culture is hip and cool, and knowing it will make you hip and cool. Plus much of popular culture is about sex and dating, and so it will put you in a good mindset to meet, date, and bone chicks.
7. Try as hard as you can to become friends with guys who get a lot of ass. This is so key. If you're going to enter college, JOIN A FRATERNITY! If you're out of college, just look around for guys you think get some ass. They're pretty easy to spot. They'll tend to be louder, exuberant, a lot of smiling, a lot of busting of balls, etc.
8. When you get a chick's number, wait 6 to 9 days before calling. Trust me on this one, alright?
9. Never let a chick pull a "call to confirm" move on you. Always set a solid date that requires no one to call anyone in order for it to go ahead. This is very important, AS CHICKS WILL ALMOST ALWAYS TRY TO PULL THE "CALL TO CONFIRM" MOVE AT LEAST ONCE. They really will. You can't let them do it. Because then the meeting might not go through and also because even if it does go through, your stock will fall in her eyes because she will think you're a pusssy for letting her push you around, which the "call to confirm" move does indeed do -- it pushs you around.
10. Meet for coffee as a first meeting. Be there fifteen minutes early. Already be sitting down with your coffee when she arrives. Don't offer to buy her one. If she asks you to, which she probably won't, refuse in a humorous way.
11. Don't talk about sex, directly or indirectly, during your first meeting. Don't let her talk about if she wants to.
12. Don't say anything negative about anything, especially her or yourself. Radiate positivity. Chicks find this a big turn-on.
13. Cut the first meeting after an hour. Don't say, "I'll call you." Every guy says that. Say, "We'll talk soon." Then call her in seven to nine days. Again, trust me on this timeline.
14. Don't bring up past boyfriends or girlfriends. There's no reason to.
15. Don't spend more than like $30 for dinner in the beginning, including drinks.
16. Never ever ever set a date for a Friday or Saturday night until you've been going out for a few months. Trust me on this.
17. Don't pick up the phone on Friday night (if you're home) or all day Saturday and Saturday night. You want to create the impression that you have a very busy and active and fun life. You want her to think that there are ten women you're dating who all clamor to spend time with you and twenty guys who always want to hang out with you. Thus, YOU'RE NEVER HOME ON WEEKENDS. So don't answer the phone. Make sense?
18. Don't call on Sunday night unless you've been intimate with her. That's an intimate night, if you think about it. It's when people relax.
Some more things I've thought of and added:
19. Don't listen to her problems. Really. Even though it seems like that might be a good thing to do, if you become her therapist she won't like you as much. She'll associate her problems with you.
20. I neglected to note this the first time through. DON'T TALK ABOUT YOURSELF. NEVER ever ever volunteer something personal about yourself, and MAKE HER SWEAT TO FIND OUT EVEN THE SMALLEST DETAIL ABOUT YOU. When a chick I just met asks me where I went to college, I say Compton College. What does this do? First, it makes her laugh. Second, it says, "You're not going to get information out of me very easily." And when she realizes this, believe me, your stock will rise very fast and very far. This is the idea of mystery, and it's very important.
21. Related to the idea of being mysterious, is never talk longer than five minutes on the phone with a chick before you're intimate. Seriously. Just make some good conversation, then ask her out. Once you're intimate, then I think you can talk for ten minutes. Seriously. Time on the phone is strikes against you. 'Cause it's what chicks want, but it's not what you want. You can't bone her over the phone. So in short, if you spend a half hour or, God forfend!, an hour on the phone with some chick you've just met, you're finished. See, I used to do the same thing, and I used to say to myself, "Well, hell! She talked to me for a half hour, she must be into me!" It just doesn't work that way -- because when you talk for an hour on the phone with a chick you've just met, you're saying, "My time is so invaluable that'll I'll spend an hour of it on the phone with someone I've just met. I've got nothing better to do." So, bottom line: use the phone only to set up meetings.
New tips:
22. One other thing. Once you start having sex, make sure she gets off every time -- especially in the beginning. Because a lot of chicks don't get off with guys, and if you are one of the new who can get them off, your stock will rise in an amazing way. She'll tell all her friends (and her sister) about you and your fine touch. But so how do you do this? Well from my experience and from what I've read about other guys' experiences and from what I've read of chicks talking about what they like, I think the best thing to do is cunnilingus. Really. Because through actual intercourse you're a lot less likely to get her to come. And try in the beginning getting her to come before you do. This will amaze her. So go down on her. Take the initiative. And go slow. One thing I've learned from experience is that you just can't go to slow. Because if in a chick's mind you ARE going to slow, she will ASK YOU TO GIVE IT TO HER. And that's an enormous victory. Think about it. She's asking you to get her off. And also, unlike guys, chicks LIKE to be teased. Strange, right? I think the hottest I've seen this brawd I'm boning now is when I teased my finger around her pusss, around her panties, for like three minutes, before actually dipping a finger in. Then when you do finally take the panties off and get your face down to the trough. Try this. LICK THE ALPHABET. Literally. Because that way you are guaranteed of giving her variety and not going exclusively to the cliit, which is painful for a chick unless she's really aroused. Once you get to the like X or Y or Z, then in my experience she's usually aroused enough to start sucking directly on the cliit. And one other thing about cunnilingus. Don't just lie her on the bed. Do this. Turn her sideways on the bed, so her legs are over the edge at the knee. Then KNEEL ON THE FLOOR and pull her pusss so it's right at the edge of the bed, with her feet hanging down toward the floor. This position works amazingly well because you have so much more freedom of movement than if you are lying on the bed on your stomach.
23. If during the throes of passion a chick whispers in your ear that she's not going to sleep with you tonight, STOP THE INTIMACY IMMEDIATELY. Seriously. This might sound f'ed up, but listen to this logic. When a chick says that, she's really pulling a power move. BECAUSE THE SEX ISN'T WHAT DEEP DOWN DRIVES A CHICK, IT'S THE INTIMACY. And when you're teasing her snacktrays and kissing her and getting worked up over her and she tells you she's going to stop this before it comes to consummation, that's a serious offense to a guy. Because guys what the sex, not the intimacy. So the best thing to do is this, check this out: STOP KISSING HER IMMEDIATELY AND PULL AWAY AND THROW YOUR BOXERS ON AND SAY BRIGHTLY, "Hey, let's play checkers!" This will boggle her mind. Because every other guy she's ever been with has let her have it both ways: they've let her dictate no intercourse, but yet they've still given her the intimacy she so desired. Don't let this happen to you. Stick up for yourself. If she doesn't want to have sex, fine. BUT THEN SHE'S NOT GETTING ANY INTIMACY EITHER!
Alright, so those are some things that have been working for me.
Now I actually need your guys' thoughts.
I've got a minor difficulty, or challenge.
I've got an issue with dancing.
For as long as I can remember (back to seventh grade dances), I've felt very insecure about dancing, very self-conscious.
In college, even if I were bombed out of my mind, I would get very insecure.
And I would get insecure because I think I wasn't dancing very well. I had a friend once say, "You've got to loosen up," and a girl once whispered in my ear, "Your rhythm is wrong."
Worse, and this might sound f'ed up, I have this unsettling conviction when I'm dancing that everyone is noticing that I'm not dancing well. When I see people smile, my mind suggests that it's me they are smiling about.
This might or might not be true.
But check this out.
Last night, with my chick's sister and her friend, we went to a swanky party at a bar, and there was dancing.
Well to cut the long story to a short, I went out on the dance floor and again I felt the same kind of bad conviction that people were noticing that I was dancing bad.
And I swear, I saw my chick and my chick's sister kind of chuckling, but also kind of looking at me in a pitiful way. It was like they were saying with their eyes, "God he's perfect in every other way -- but he's making a fool of himself here -- and a fool of me, too."
Well as we left the party, I kind of got confirmation that maybe this was the case because my chick's sister said, "So I didn't know you could cut a rug so good." But she's pretty ironic, so I think she meant it ironically.
Then I said I didn't know you could, etc., and then a few minutes later she repeated it again.
And then my chick asked what "cut a rug" meant, and her sister said to dance. (I knew what it meant.)
Well the thing is, after last night and meeting my chick's sister and friends, I'm starting to like her more.
But I really feel kind of devastated because I'm convinced my stock fell dramatically in her eyes when she saw me dance.
Now the thing is, if I'm alone in my room and listening to music, I'm very comfortable with dancing.
Possibly, but I don't know if probably, I AM a good dancer, but somehow I've got it in my head that I'm not. But then again, maybe not.
If anyone has ever been through this, I'd really appreciate hearing from you.
And if anyone has any suggestions, I'd really appreciate hearing them.
I felt both full of rage last night when I got home and I just kind of felt sad -- and a little humiliated.
I'm thinking of taking something like Salsa lessons because I'm thinking that possibly that could help for the popular nighclub kind of dance floor.
Any thoughts or suggestions or advice anyone could would be greatly appreciated.
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"A life spent making mistakes is not only more honourable but more useful than a life spent in doing nothing."
--George Bernard Shaw
[This message has been edited by BGC (edited 03-11-2001).]
