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Abigail Van Buren is a journalist very well know for her “Dear Abby” column in which she provides solutions to people who write in to her about very specific problems in their relationships, dating and/or love life in general.
It had occurred to me, as I read through and answer many threads here, that many of us have taken on the role of Abigail Van Buren. It would seem to me that many topics these days typically ask how to micro-manage a situation that a person is already deeply mired in; a situation with so many social and personal nuances unearthed.
It is in my own, personal opinion that SoSuave is a site aimed predominantly toward the goal of making men… better men. Improving men. Building men. Stronger men. Giving men an improved sense of direction and purpose for themselves. And, while I agree that asking how to handle a certain situation can sometimes be a learning experience, the greater question will always be why you ended up there to begin with.
In essence, I decided to post this thread with one simple piece of advice that I believe will help a lot of men:
The next time you start a thread, ask yourself a simple question: “Am I posting a Dear Abby kind of question, or am I asking how to become an improved man permanently moving forward”?
You would be very surprised how the answer to that simple question can make a big difference in how you ask for help. That can be the all the difference you need between how to micromanage one problem in a unique situation (which is damage control) vs. finding the means to resolve and avoid such problems from reoccurring in your life with all women forever moving forward (which is true self improvement).
Just my own 2 cents worth. Cheers!
It had occurred to me, as I read through and answer many threads here, that many of us have taken on the role of Abigail Van Buren. It would seem to me that many topics these days typically ask how to micro-manage a situation that a person is already deeply mired in; a situation with so many social and personal nuances unearthed.
It is in my own, personal opinion that SoSuave is a site aimed predominantly toward the goal of making men… better men. Improving men. Building men. Stronger men. Giving men an improved sense of direction and purpose for themselves. And, while I agree that asking how to handle a certain situation can sometimes be a learning experience, the greater question will always be why you ended up there to begin with.
In essence, I decided to post this thread with one simple piece of advice that I believe will help a lot of men:
The next time you start a thread, ask yourself a simple question: “Am I posting a Dear Abby kind of question, or am I asking how to become an improved man permanently moving forward”?
You would be very surprised how the answer to that simple question can make a big difference in how you ask for help. That can be the all the difference you need between how to micromanage one problem in a unique situation (which is damage control) vs. finding the means to resolve and avoid such problems from reoccurring in your life with all women forever moving forward (which is true self improvement).
Just my own 2 cents worth. Cheers!