sangheilios
Master Don Juan
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They peak for different reasons.The problem with the whole “Women peak at X, and men peak at Y” is then logically X aged women would be MOST drawn to men at or close to age Y. After all, we know women don’t date down. Women at the peak would understandably want men at the peak.
So it implies that say 22 yo women would be MOST drawn to and seeking to date say 39-40+yo guys lol. We see that works as an exception with a few guys, but not so much as a general rule.
Women's value when it comes to the dating market is pretty much entirely based around their looks and fertility, which basically is peak between 18-22....maybe up to 25. Women past 25 that are still single are trying to get locked down sooner rather than later, past 30 this is a huge problem if they want a child, as was alluded to earlier.
Men peak very differently though. A young guy really isn't all that high in demand when it comes to going for women around his own age, as they have far more power in the dating market. However, when a man is around 30 and older this power dynamic changes, for reasons I mentioned above. A guy at 30 does not have the biological clock ticking like women around his own age, so they are the ones who are actively trying to get locked down. It's not so much that a guy in his 30s can pull much younger women, it's more to do with the fact that he potentially has more power in the dating market RELATIVE to women around his age.
I think there are many other factors at play here though and it's a bit more complicated than just looks and dating market related stuff. I'm 34, almost 35, and I feel like I've been in my prime the last few years. Physically I'm pretty much the same as I was in my mid to late 20s, but my decision making, wealth and mindset are in a way better spot than back then. 30s and 40s are potentially a great time for men in regards to career, leadership, wealth, lifestyle, etc. Again, guys in this age range that put the effort in can provide things that a much younger version of themselves would not be able to.