Sick of all sh*t

[Ambition Now]

Hi everyone, after being a complete AFC for 25 years of my life and founding this site (that was a huge eye opener to me) i feel that one year later i've achieved a whole new level of self respect in my life and i am starting to see some positive results of it.
But on the other hand i am in a point of my life right now that i am no longer blind to a lot of stuff and i am starting to feel sick and angry with everyone around me, i feel sick of some close friends trying to manipulate me to get my time, energy and attention, i feel sick about after 4 years working on the same company, those assho*** dont give me the value i deserve and give more value to some as*kissing coworkers, i feel sick of all horrible and disgusting sh** that i see girls doing over and over towards me and towards friends of mine, i feel sick of giving love and attention to some people and receiving only their leftovers, i feel sick of some girls stalking me even after i told them im not interested in them, i feel sick of sometimes feel that needy feeling that i need a deeper connection with a woman and so on...
This is not a post about me whinig about how f**ked up the world is, I'm not posting this to get some tips or direction because i know exactly what i should do, i've been reading a lot of "life saving" posts here and i am really gratefull to a lot of intelligent and brave posters on this forum.
I just want know about your personal experiences, have you ever been at the point I am now and how you guys handled with it?
Thank you everyone!

 

[scottfall]

When I start to get in these "the world is wrong" moods I remind myself that this is just how it is. There is no point to being pissed off with the hand youve been delt, you just have to make the best of it. All the inner turmoil you put yourself through isnt going to solve anything, just make things worse.

 

[everywomanshero]

I think I know what you're talking about because I had a good friend who for YEARS went through this pattern of being overly pleasing to people, then he'd get fed up with people and blow up on them at some point or just feel a ton of resentment.

It was a fairly predictable pattern:
Friend->Super Pleasing to people->People would assume this is just how he is->He'd get mad and resentful because he didn't think people considered him->eventually he'd get craby or blow up on them.

That was right after HS and I have no idea what ever happened to that dude. But I really think he needed to be more assertive, to tell people exactly what he wanted from them so that those resentment levels didn't build up. Blowing up ended up being worse for everyone involved than just being straight up with people from the get go.

As far as women being "mean" toward "nice guys", I dunno how I feel about that. I think it can be true to some degree, that a lot of people will take advantage of someone who isn't willing to show any backbone or who is willing to put someone else's needs before his own. However, the problem is not so much with the people who take advantage (unethical though it might be) as it is with the person who isn't willing to to develop a backbone and see that if you don't treat someone as an equal, if you put someone above yourself, that's going to be recipe for disaster.

 

[edu11]

You can't change the wind buddy but you can adjust your sails.

Happy sailing and remember: it's YOUR boat.

 

[Ambition Now]

I think I know what you're talking about because I had a good friend who for YEARS went through this pattern of being overly pleasing to people, then he'd get fed up with people and blow up on them at some point or just feel a ton of resentment.

It was a fairly predictable pattern:
Friend->Super Pleasing to people->People would assume this is just how he is->He'd get mad and resentful because he didn't think people considered him->eventually he'd get craby or blow up on them.

That was right after HS and I have no idea what ever happened to that dude. But I really think he needed to be more assertive, to tell people exactly what he wanted from them so that those resentment levels didn't build up. Blowing up ended up being worse for everyone involved than just being straight up with people from the get go.

As far as women being "mean" toward "nice guys", I dunno how I feel about that. I think it can be true to some degree, that a lot of people will take advantage of someone who isn't willing to show any backbone or who is willing to put someone else's needs before his own. However, the problem is not so much with the people who take advantage (unethical though it might be) as it is with the person who isn't willing to to develop a backbone and see that if you don't treat someone as an equal, if you put someone above yourself, that's going to be recipe for disaster.

Yeah man, i can relate to what you are saying, but it makes me wonder if life in society is all about this, an eternal choice between self respect and not considering your will in favour to connect with other people...
As i am growing and showing my backbone i see more and more loved ones getting distant because of it...
And what you said about women being mean to nice guys, thats not the case i am talking about, my closest friends probably can get any chick who they want to, and I see it happening all the time, girls screwing up and acting like b*tches even if they are having benefits and enjoying the relationship (be it a LTR or not).
I believe this is a result of how things are superficial nowadays, and my friends are more comfort with this then i am, they expect girls for screwing it up and replace them more easily then i do...

 

[Ambition Now]

I had a similar issue. Upon reflection, I believe it stems from the fact that you have grown and become more mature while your old friends and family have not grown and remain immature. You've raised your standards and these people are not meeting it. What you are angry with is the childish behaviors of jealousy and manipulation. They are jealous they can no longer manipulate you so they then start to act passive aggressive and try to imply you are doing something wrong. "How dare you better yourself; How dare you attempt to expect better from me."

I decided to stay strong and assertive; and those that wanted to come with me, fine, otherwise, have a good life.

Once I did this I allowed myself to develop higher quality friends and family members and life is great and it gets better every year.

You are on the right track. Don't look back; you only live once.

Yes DonS, You are right, when people know how you used to be they expect you to be this same way forever, and when you start to act different based on what you want to be, it may affect other peoples opinions about you or what you represent to them.
And the only thing we can do is feel sorry for them being so selfish and improve ourselves to the maximum we can.

 

[Desert Fox]

People are like crabs in a barrel. Once you reach the top, some fvcker is going to try to pull you back down to get on top himself.

Life is:

always watching ur back, even if it is tiring and frustrating sometimes, it's better than getting stabbed in the back or crippled by a "friend"

not giving a damn about what others ahve in mind for you. most of these fvckers dont have your best interests in mind anyways

standing up for yourself even when it is unconventional to do so. you may suffer, but you will show everyone they cannot take away your self respect

you must be a FIGHTER. always fight for what is yours and do not let anyone take that fire away from you. once they do you are a slave and their b1tch for life!

I feel like what you stated in your first post ALL THE GODDAMN TIME.

I constantly feel these people are fvcking tools and immature, a waste of time, and generally not worth an effort to get to know because they are so low quality and don't have drive and are only interested in the short term pleasures in life, when in the long term they are fvcking themselves.

It's cool though. I mean, the path to success is a lonely road, but I don't intend on that stopping me. As long as I have my family, and my own drive and determination, I will beat all these fvckers to the top and sit there laughing at there mediocre lives. And they will look up and stare daggers of hate, jealousy, and hidden envy at me, wondering what could've been.

In the end it will be all worth it. 99% of people you will are fvcking scum and worthless pieces of sh1t. NEVER let you guard down and if someone tries to screw you, remember it, WRITE THAT SH!T DOWN and never trust them again in your life. Put on a fake impression everything is cool, but remember they fvcked you and will not hesitate to do so again so basically PROTECT YOURSELF AND FVCK OTHER PPL IF THEY TRY TO SCREW WITH YOU.