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Should you ever compliment a girl on her looks?

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I've actually talked to a couple women about this, and both of them pretty much told me the same thing. Girls want to be complimented by men they're already attracted to or find physically appealing. If you are unattractive and compliment a women, then you're "creepy".

I can pretty much validate this 100%. I get away with saying a lot of sh!t other guys can't.. because I've gauged the girls interest before and built a sexual rapport with her from the beginning. I've said some wild sh!t to my plates on their FB feeds, and then seen other guys try to hop in the comments and do the same thing and get completely ridiculed. I've seen this in real life as well.. that because a girl acts sexual towards me, other guys just think she is a ho and then end up getting completely embarrassed when she turns him down in front of everyone.

So when is the best time to compliment a girl? I say do it when you think she is mildly attracted to you but not quite sure. Use it as a tool to gauge interest, and don't take it personal if she reacts in a way you didn't expect. I get a ton of pvssy, but I also get turned down a lot as well. You can't win 'um all, nor should you try to.
 

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All the conversation between man and women can be divided vaguely into "give" and "take".
By the act of "gives" you give attention and importance to her.
By the act of "takes" you take attention and importance from her.
While standing in a hallway on the first day of you job or college admission, if a girl asks the way to library, she gives you AI( attention and importance).
If you ask a girl you give her AI.

The point at which you should give "compliment" AI is when she has given you at least 2-3 such "compliment" AI to you. You have to find out yourself. For instance, she tells you that you are confident; she tells you that no can be as disciplined as you; tells you that you are hot. At this point you can give compliment AIs;but, remember always to be on the leading side.
 

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And for girls who are 10/10, not complimenting works more than subtle compliments.
 

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I am serious with this question.... I always have it in my head that when you compliment a girl's appearance you were lowering your value and also basically giving her power by telegraphing too much interest.

I guess this question is more towards the early dating phase.... If you go on a first date or meet with a girl should you ever compliment her appearance?

I never do but I wonder if it could ever be advantageous?
In the early stages of dating never compliment a girl on her looks. Never. You have to leave her wondering what you think of her. This is how you compliment her,

"That is a lovely dress"
"Your shoes are nice."
"I like your out fit."

Stuff like this will draw her in and make her want to draw more out of you.

"You're so beautiful."
"You're so hot."
"You look so gorgeous tonight"

She has heard it all before and now you are just acting like any other thirsty beta guy.

One compliment at the beginning of the date. Compliment an inanimate object such as her dress......not her, and leave her wondering.
 

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In the early stages of dating never compliment a girl on her looks. Never. You have to leave her wondering what you think of her. This is how you compliment her,

"That is a lovely dress"
"Your shoes are nice."
"I like your out fit."

Stuff like this will draw her in and make her want to draw more out of you.

"You're so beautiful."
"You're so hot."
"You look so gorgeous tonight"

She has heard it all before and now you are just acting like any other thirsty beta guy.

One compliment at the beginning of the date. Compliment an inanimate object such as her dress......not her, and leave her wondering.
Agree that a compliment should be made about choices they made (outfit, apparel etc..) and not physical gifts. I rarely even give any compliment to them initially though, maybe I'll try mixing that in.

I've actually talked to a couple women about this, and both of them pretty much told me the same thing. Girls want to be complimented by men they're already attracted to or find physically appealing. If you are unattractive and compliment a women, then you're "creepy".

I can pretty much validate this 100%. I get away with saying a lot of sh!t other guys can't.. because I've gauged the girls interest before and built a sexual rapport with her from the beginning. I've said some wild sh!t to my plates on their FB feeds, and then seen other guys try to hop in the comments and do the same thing and get completely ridiculed. I've seen this in real life as well.. that because a girl acts sexual towards me, other guys just think she is a ho and then end up getting completely embarrassed when she turns him down in front of everyone.

So when is the best time to compliment a girl? I say do it when you think she is mildly attracted to you but not quite sure. Use it as a tool to gauge interest, and don't take it personal if she reacts in a way you didn't expect. I get a ton of pvssy, but I also get turned down a lot as well. You can't win 'um all, nor should you try to.
Sometimes I think a big smile and eye contact could be better than a compliment.
 

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After hundreds of cold approaches, I've learned women respond best to compliments of shoes or hair. But whatever the compliment, it needs to be genuine. I never compliment anymore on the initial approach though, I always just say "hey, I noticed you from over there and I wanted to come and meet you." That in itself is an indirect compliment. Ive never once had a negative reaction from a woman saying that...even if she's not interested.
 

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While its been a while since I read The Art of Seduction, I think there's a reference to creating attraction by being so enthralled with a girl's presence...

Like if you were to hold deep eye contact, smile, and say powerfully "you are f$#& gorgeous...."

I think I tried this once at a club and the girl actually stopped and said thank you... the key thing was that she stopped and might have wanted me to follow up with more game...

Like I said though, I generally shy away from doing this for the reasons I've mentioned above. Still makes me wonder though...
 

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Look at it this way, guys...

Watch any YouTube video by a good looking woman, and you will see tons of simps commenting “You’re so beautiful”. Doesn’t that turn your stomach? They come off as absolute losers, and we feel a revulsion toward these weaklings. These comments sound weak and feminine.

Women are repulsed by physical compliments because it immediately shows her that the guy is “all-in”, and completely smitten by her.

Do you know what women find wildly attractive? Detachment. A man who is unfazed by her physical beauty is a man who will make her work for his affection and attention.

When it comes to attraction, detachment is everything. She already knows she is beautiful, and that is a given. She’s flooded with men who she considers complete simps indicating they are interested in her because of her looks. These guys are “easy” and they appear like spineless jellyfish to her.

Expressing desire for her sexuality in a round-about way is the way to go. Women love hints and cloak & dagger. They hate the obvious. Her sexuality is seen by her as different from her obvious good looks.

In experimenting with my fiancé, I noticed that amy kind of compliment about her looks is the weakest form of compliment I can give her. Most of you know from my humble-bragging that she is absolutely gorgeous physically, in a young, healthy, natural way. She is a stunner, and most people perceive her as a super young-looking thirty-something. I quickly found out that the last thing I should do is compliment her on her looks. The most I’ll say is “You look nice” after she has her hair done.

The rest is all about me teasing how in our relationship, I’m the “cute one”, but she looks ok.

But what really turns her on is not that I’m impressed with her looks, but rather that I desire her sexuality. There is a huge difference. I am indicating that I desire her core, not her exterior facade. How does one express his desire for her sexuality? Basically by expressing hints of what you will do/would like to do to her sexually. If you go out somewhere, take a close-up picture of her ass or top and show her how your camera seems to be "malfunctioning".

I advise every man to go watch any YouTube video by a pretty woman, and read the simp comments of how “beautiful” she is. It will make you want to vomit. Guess what? It makes women want to vomit, too.

Never forget that detachment is a huge turn-on for women. This alone is what separates you from the common simp. Compliment her inner core (personality traits), but never her looks.
 
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