Master Don Juan
- Jan 22, 2005
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5 is just an arbitrary number, there's nothing magical about it. So if she's been with 6 or 7 it doesn't necessarily mean she is damaged...you just have to look at the big picture.Yes perhaps a girl with a history of promiscuity is a worse bet than a virgin... but I'm referring to a girl who isn't say promiscuous but just has had sexual partners in her lifetime. My feeling is that girl with some experience knows what she is looking for and what's most important and thus won't need to experiment as she's experienced the negatives.
Also how do we arrive at this number of 5 partners being the slvt threshold? Listen I don't know how many partners my girlfriend has had.. but let's for the sake of argument say she's had 6 partners...
So she is 25... let's say in high school she lost her virginity to someone sometime between the ages of 14 and 17... Then let's say in college she had sex with 2 more people she was seeing where things didn't work out for whatever reason. This is between the ages of 18 and 22. Then between the ages of 22 and 25 which is about 3 years, she slept with 3 guys... This puts her at 6 total... Then she finally meets me and we both have a great relationship and are happy with each other. Is she a slvt or damaged in your opinion because she had sex before?
Also Reyaj (and others), I hope you take the advice of LiveYourDream and DO NOT ask her directly how many men she has been with. I will reiterate you stand nothing to gain by this.
First, you probably wont get a truthful answer anyway. Most women guard their number very closely and even lie to themselves about it. "Oh he didnt count", and so on. Second, even if you DID get a truthful answer, what are you going to do with that information?? What if it's 8? Or 18? or 28? Sometimes ignorance is bliss. Usually a woman will tell you indirectly through her stories and such. You can read between the lines and get a rough idea.
I wouldn't obsess too much about her number. It's bad for your mental health. If it's really important to you, then I think you should hold out for a virgin...which could be a long, long wait. You may never meet one. And just because a girl is a virgin doesn't mean you'll be automatically compatible, either. I was resigned I'd never meet one. I just figured I'll find a girl who treats me right with the lowest mileage possible. And I think this is a good plan for anyone.