Should I keep persuing this chick?

[ElStud]

Alright, I met this chick at my school. We've talked a few times and we seem to have a lot in common. Whenever we talk to their seems to be a good vibe and I feel like I can be myself around this chick. One time we talked I even said she was attractive and she didn't take offense. I recently even got her number and I gave her mine.

Problem is, even though I really like this chick; I don't see it going anywhere, due to bad logistics. See, I don't really have a car lol old enough to drink, but don't have my license yet. This means, unless I can convince her to pick me up or something; this relationship really can't go anywhere. Which would be a shame.

Even when I try to make plans though she says she's busy with school.

So should I keep pursuing this girl or give it up?

 

[NorwegianDJ]

What seems like the best option?

Trying with the possibility of failing or Giving up before you even started?

 

[PDubb75]

Do you both live on campus? No point in throwing it away. Give it a try, if she says no because you don't drive, you are in no different position than you are if you don't try. Except you know shes highly materialistic.

If you don't mind me asking, why don't you have your license? Is it just because you can't afford a car right now or something?

 

[Pimp-sicle]

First off get your license; there's a difference between not having a car and not having a license.

With that said that sounds like an excuse your making in this situation, where the REAL issue is low interest from her.

If u have tried to make plans a few times and she is constantly giving u the busy card without offering another time and day she's not interested.

Dont overanalyze a simple situation.



PIMP

 

[seek&destroy]

I was in the same position 8 months ago...I kept asking her to do something, but she was ALWAYS busy. I asked her out 3 times...I just didn't want to give up. Take a look at my latest post, it's all in there.

I know it's probably not my place, considering how fvcked up I am, but I'm going to give you some advice anyway. Run for the hills while you can, or else you'll end up in my position, and believe me when I say this, that's not where you want to be!

 

[Iceberg]

With that said that sounds like an excuse your making in this situation, where the REAL issue is low interest from her.

Agreed. ElStud, you are using a logical reason to address an emotional thing. Her level of liking you, and the sexual attraction she might feel for you have nothing to do with your car, or logistics or anything logical.

This is not a business plan. It's attraction. She's not gonna say "El Stud is hot. He f**ks like a porn star. And he's ambitious as hell....BUT, I have to drive to see him, so I don't like him." If you take care of attraction, women will find reasons to define the logic of their feelings towards you.

I also don't like the way you're talking about this situation:

We've talked a few times and we seem to have a lot in common. Whenever we talk to their seems to be a good vibe and I feel like I can be myself around this chick. One time we talked I even said she was attractive and she didn't take offense.

This sounds like me before I became the man I am today. Sitting here evaluating girls like this is some serious decision "We have so much in common!" Like...who says that? It sounds like the female role in a romantic comedy. I don't need anything in common with a girl other than our attraction to each other. We could have similar interests, and that's cool...or we could have different interests, and we learn new stuff from each other.

She "didnt take offense" to you calling her attractive? Ugh. Just ask her out. Stop acting like this is studying for final exams. You are way way way too deep into evaluating a girl who you havent even gone on a date with.

 

[ElStud]

Agreed. ElStud, you are using a logical reason to address an emotional thing. Her level of liking you, and the sexual attraction she might feel for you have nothing to do with your car, or logistics or anything logical.

This is not a business plan. It's attraction. She's not gonna say "El Stud is hot. He f**ks like a porn star. And he's ambitious as hell....BUT, I have to drive to see him, so I don't like him." If you take care of attraction, women will find reasons to define the logic of their feelings towards you.

I also don't like the way you're talking about this situation:



This sounds like me before I became the man I am today. Sitting here evaluating girls like this is some serious decision "We have so much in common!" Like...who says that? It sounds like the female role in a romantic comedy. I don't need anything in common with a girl other than our attraction to each other. We could have similar interests, and that's cool...or we could have different interests, and we learn new stuff from each other.

She "didnt take offense" to you calling her attractive? Ugh. Just ask her out. Stop acting like this is studying for final exams. You are way way way too deep into evaluating a girl who you havent even gone on a date with.

But that's the issue, where would we go? I don't have a car remember. Should I just say something on the lines of, "Where do you like to eat?", "Cool, that's where you're taking me this Friday" or something like that?

I've already tried "psuedo" asking her out, like suggesting we should hang out.

As far as her interest level goes, I don't really know. She could be, maybe. Like I said when I told her she was attractive, she didn't instantly reject me or anything. She also seems to take a genuine interest in me when we're talking.

She also doesn't seem to reject light kino either. Like hugging and such.

But yes, the main issue is; that for this to go anywhere, I'd need to convince her to drive me places.

 

[Iceberg]

But that's the issue, where would we go? I don't have a car remember. Should I just say something on the lines of, "Where do you like to eat?", "Cool, that's where you're taking me this Friday" or something like that?

I've already tried "psuedo" asking her out, like suggesting we should hang out.

Don't "pseudo" do anything. All you'd have to say is, "Theres a (blank) concert on Thursday. We should go. But listen, I don't have a car. So if you drive, I'll get drinks."

I don't think you need Napoleon to strategize this battle plan for you. It's fairly easy, if you're serious about doing it. Which you aren't. Because you're looking for reasons not to.

As far as her interest level goes, I don't really know. She could be, maybe. Like I said when I told her she was attractive, she didn't instantly reject me or anything.

How is that a sign of anything? When you tell a girl she's attractive, what possible negative reaction could she have to that? Was she gonna say "Thanks. But you're really ugly. Stop looking at me."?? I don't see where an instant rejection fits in.....but hey, if the lack of rejection gives you confidence, go for it...

But yes, the main issue is; that for this to go anywhere, I'd need to convince her to drive me places.

Sorry man, but who cares? Do it...or don't talk about it. If this were such a dead end, you wouldn't be asking about it.

 

[Gray The Prince]

I don't have a car and I get girls to drive me around all the time. It's not as big of an issue as you think it is. Just go for it.

 

[blackwolf]

the car thing is not an issue trust me. i don't drive and every girl i've been with has been more than happy to drive me around. although i usually pay for fuel here and there or treat them to something nice so i don't look like i'm using them. or i meet them half way to a date. they don't really care about it in the end. they care more about you.

 

[IamJosan]

Make her pick you up! I've had girls drive me around! I feel like a PIMP!

 

[scribblec]

i dont get why people still entertain this retaards posts

 

[ycomp]

didn't even read the thread but if you are asking this question... the answer is "no"

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Agreed. ElStud, you are using a logical reason to address an emotional thing. Her level of liking you, and the sexual attraction she might feel for you have nothing to do with your car, or logistics or anything logical.

This is not a business plan. It's attraction. She's not gonna say "El Stud is hot. He f**ks like a porn star. And he's ambitious as hell....BUT, I have to drive to see him, so I don't like him." If you take care of attraction, women will find reasons to define the logic of their feelings towards you.

I also don't like the way you're talking about this situation:



This sounds like me before I became the man I am today. Sitting here evaluating girls like this is some serious decision "We have so much in common!" Like...who says that? It sounds like the female role in a romantic comedy. I don't need anything in common with a girl other than our attraction to each other. We could have similar interests, and that's cool...or we could have different interests, and we learn new stuff from each other.

She "didnt take offense" to you calling her attractive? Ugh. Just ask her out. Stop acting like this is studying for final exams. You are way way way too deep into evaluating a girl who you havent even gone on a date with.

Money post!!

Gotta spread rep points b4 i can hook u up again Ice-berg.....:rockon:



PIMP

 

[EvilAgenda]

Casanova would be ashamed.
The question isn't should you pursue. The question is how do you conquer that challenge. The more intriguing the challenge, the more fun you will have conquering it. (But do not dwell on it).

Analyze what she is missing in life. Then seduce.