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Should I go to a legal brothel to get more experience?

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So you’re a no on me going to see this escort for more experience?
You will not get experience. You will get easy sex (because you pay for it) and her job is to lie to you about everything. It will skew your reality in a not good way.

It's like porn on steroids in how bad it is for you. You're 28 dude. If you were 55 I'd say give up and go to a prostitute, but you have time on your side. Even if you're extremely overweight rn (which you aren't) you have the time and youth to drastically turn it around.
 

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my mindset has changed to where she doesn’t have to know that I was with an escort, I could probably play it off that I just got that experience from Tinder girls or something.
Never tell chicks you were with an escort. Why would she question where you got experience? If anything she'll ask you about your relationship past and notch count. Lie... I'm still in this stage.... It's not a problem though, as I already lied to one chick, and she dropped it. 8 months and she didn't bring it back up. That should show you as long as you meet a threshold of competency, it doesn't matter.

One other obstacle is that I still live at home as I already told you, and that makes it hard to leave without them getting suspicious and wondering where I went for a couple days.
Just lie.... You're an adult, they don't need to know every detail about your life... I'm sure they've got skeletons you don't know about...

Cold approaching seems too cringy for me and it doesn’t seem to have much of a success rate
Cold approaching will help thicken your skin for rejection... It may take a few dozen before it thickens... I've been rejected about 50 times in the last year and quarter.... I got rejected about a week ago, after going a few months without approaching. I thought I'd have to thicken my skin again, but the rejection rolled right off me, and didn't phase me. Be prepared to be rejected constantly on OLD sites... By women way beneath you...

It will also help with just socialization.


The escorts will help you with sexual confidence which is more important than experience at this point. They will help you with experience also... That's why I think you should go all three routes, with escortmaxxing being your plan z.
 
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You will not get experience. You will get easy sex (because you pay for it) and her job is to lie to you about everything. It will skew your reality in a not good way.

It's like porn on steroids in how bad it is for you. You're 28 dude. If you were 55 I'd say give up and go to a prostitute, but you have time on your side. Even if you're extremely overweight rn (which you aren't) you have the time and youth to drastically turn it around.
Never tell chicks you were with an escort. Why would she question where you got experience? If anything she'll ask you about your relationship past and notch count. Lie... I'm still in this stage.... It's not a problem though, as I already lied to one chick, and she dropped it. 8 months and she didn't bring it back up. That should show you as long as you meet a threshold of competency, it doesn't matter.


Just lie.... You're an adult, they don't need to know every detail about your life... I'm sure they've got skeletons you don't know about...


Cold approaching will help thicken your skin for rejection... It may take a few dozen before it thickens... I've been rejected about 50 times in the last year and quarter.... I got rejected about a week ago, after going a few months without approaching. I thought I'd have to thicken my skin again, but the rejection rolled right off me, and didn't phase me. Be prepared to be rejected constantly on OLD sites... By women way beneath you...

It will also help with just socialization.


The escorts will help you with sexual confidence which is more important than experience at this point. They will help you with experience also... That's why I think you should go all three routes, with escortmaxxing being your plan z.
Wow I’m getting 2 drastically different opinions right now lol. I can see how being with an escort could be like porn on steroids, since she actually said on her site that the girlfriend experience can be pretty addictive because it’s a judgment free environment, so most of the kinky things you’ve fantasized about you can try with her and I can see how that could get addictive. But I do feel like it would be a big relief to just have a lot of sex with her and learn a few things. But that could turn into a lot of regret afterwards that I actually paid a substantial amount of money for sex. If I could find an effective way to meet a girl that I connect with and wants to have a lot of sex also, I would probably forget all about this idea.
 

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You will not get experience. You will get easy sex (because you pay for it) and her job is to lie to you about everything. It will skew your reality in a not good way.

It's like porn on steroids in how bad it is for you. You're 28 dude. If you were 55 I'd say give up and go to a prostitute, but you have time on your side. Even if you're extremely overweight rn (which you aren't) you have the time and youth to drastically turn it around.
i used them before - mainly when I was high AF on stimulants. this was when young.

One thing I would say is that I always felt shame afterwards. It can be a wee bit seedy.

i would say he has to choose well, as on the rare occasions I’ve been too drunk or whatever then they generally aren’t patient and basically want you to rail them and go. It’s quite rare to find one who wants you to take your time and enjoy it. That would be higher tier who cost tons of money (thousands)

it may be good for a man who just has no idea whatsoever. If so, I’d recommend finding a good one and seeing her many times so he can build confidence. If he’s lacking, the whole “in and out” business like nature of it might be intimidating.

plus it will miss the nuance of real women who are interested. It’s nowhere near as good as real sex with a motivated partner.

the nightmare scenario is getting a taste for being the boss type thing and getting addicted to the fact you don’t need to do sh*t but pay. It can get intoxicating.
 

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You could try an older woman instead. They might be easier + will like to teach stuff. It's still real sex though, not a pay-to-win situation.
 

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I’m not a big fan of hiring professionals. I also think it might be very expensive.

One thing that sucks for a guy trying to get experience is the (time-related performance) pressure involved. You are either “on the clock” for an hour with a pro (due to the cost), or it’s a similar fast paced “put up or shut up” with a ONS with a regular chick.

The only way around this is to date a chick.

I tend to agree with firstbornunicorn. Maybe meet an older chick online and go on a few dates. Just play the “dry spell” card if the topic of your experience (or lack thereof) comes up. You had sex before, but it’s been a few years due to COVID, busy with work, etc. Then destroy some MILF puzzy. She’ll let you stay over and probably do it a few times.
 
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Escortmaxing should be for when you already have experience with women not to make up for it. I’ve gotten to the point of my life where I don’t need some nagging bish on my arse and an escort makes more sense. You haven’t experienced this yet, so I would recommend lowering your standards and go on OLD or something.
 

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Sex god method is a fairly decent book for ideas. My only advice is do whatever it takes to make her ***... usually you get repeat sessions this way... otherwise have fun.
 

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Should I go to a legal brothel to get more experience?
There is a huge difference in winning a Lamborghini at the lottery because you bought a lottery ticket and buying a Lamborghini with the money your earned by yourself through your hard work.

In the first scenario the Lamborghini will tell you every time you see it "Hey loser, you didn't buy me and you cannot afford me you fvcking tw@t!"

While the second scenario the Lamborghini will reaffirm and tell you that:
"Hey, you're awesome and doing great because you made it" which will give you a huge confidence booster every time you see it.

Same thing with girls and prostitutes:
One requires effort and is hard to get, but once you get it you will be boosted to new level while the other will just reaffirm that you're a sore fvcking loser and total wanker because you just paid yourself the easy way out.
 
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There is a huge difference in winning a Lamborghini in the lottery because you bought a lottery ticket and buying a Lamborghini with the money your earned by yourself through your hard work.

In the first scenario the Lamborghini will tell you every time you see it "hey loser, you didn't buy me and you cannot afford me you fvcking loser"; while the second scenario the Lamborghini will reaffirm and tell you that you're awesome and doing great because you made it which will give you a huge confidence booster every time you see it.

Same thing with girls and prostitutes:
One requires effort and is hard, but once you get it you will be boosted to new level while the other will just reaffirm that you're a sore fvcking loser and total wanker because you just paid yourself the easy way out.
I don't disagree, but you have to take it for what it is. You are paying for an attractive girl to drain your balls or impress your bosses at a work dinner event. You are exchanging currency for no wasted time and no risk. Now a normal girl can boost you but also lower you as well. Now you can go and conquer this girl, but this same girl can divorce you, cheat on you, rob you of your time and money, bait and switch you, and etc, so who is the fvcking loser at the end of the day? The guy that paid money for a hot escort or the guy that lost years, money, and his sanity to toxic women lol?
 

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Just go ahead and get it out of your system. Some like it, some dont. Youll never know unless you try.

Never tell chicks you were with an escort.
I dont know what it is about this but women seem to be disgusted and dread at the same time. I guess they know subconsciously that their pvssy is easily replaceable. If the guy's gone one he can go again.
 

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Just go ahead and get it out of your system. Some like it, some dont. Youll never know unless you try.



I dont know what it is about this but women seem to be disgusted and dread at the same time. I guess they know subconsciously that their pvssy is easily replaceable. If the guy's gone one he can go again.
its because they low key see them as unfair competition. Every girl is an escort, either directly or indirectly.
 

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You could try an older woman instead. They might be easier + will like to teach stuff. It's still real sex though, not a pay-to-win situation.

Lower your standards. you aren't looking for a life partner here.
Look for interest signals from women.
Lock in logistics
Locations should be low end meat markets. Not high end clubs. Think dive bars and hotel bars. Think women who are out of town on vacation.
Frame your inexperience as "pursuing passions other than women"
Build your social skills to put HER at ease and carry on conversation with ease..
 

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My recommendation is to solve the problem without paying directly for it. All men do pay for sex, whether directly or indirectly.

Cold approaching seems too cringy for me and it doesn’t seem to have much of a success rate, making the jump and signing up for OLD seems better, but I know its gonna suck and I’ll have to go through a lot of matches before one of them leads to an in person encounter.
Most dates arranged through swipe apps are complete shiit. They aren't worth attending. Most are of the "one date, no sex, no second date" variety.

Cold approaching is not cringe. It is difficult, which is why you need to be testosterone focused. You need to eat healthy foods, lift weights, and not masturbate/watch porn to put yourself in a better position to succeed. Even with doing that, success rates are low. It is a royal pain to be a cold approacher though.
 
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I think I posted this years ago from my old account, I used to have another SS account years ago, but I forgot my login credentials so I abandoned that account and made this one. So I live close by Nevada, where prostitution is legal at state licensed brothels. I occasionally check the brothel websites to see what girls are there and in 2019, I came across an escort who was actually pretty cute and one of her specialties is adult aged guys who are inexperienced. For those of you that haven’t seen my other posts where I’ve mentioned it, I’m almost 29 and have never been in a relationship and my only sexual experience is one hookup 5 years ago and oral with another girl 2 years ago.

After I came across her, I became very tempted to contact her and make an appointment to see her at the brothel. Especially because she said that she has no problem telling inexperienced guys what they’re doing wrong in bed and will give honest feedback and she’ll also go on a practice date with you in order to help teach you how to act on a date since the brothel has a bar and restaurant to do that at. Then the pandemic happened and she left that line of work, but just last night I discovered that she got back into it as the pandemic has eased, so once again I’m tempted.

That’s why I’m interested to hear what you guys think I should do, especially because I’ve always felt self conscious about my inexperience. If I do go through with it, I think I’ll end up doing the girlfriend experience since that’s the service she mentioned is the best for inexperienced guys and I’ll probably book an overnight visit with her since I’ve never spent the night with a girl and it would be nice to do that, even if its with an escort. I might do it if most of you guys think I should. But I’m also wondering if I should just use OLD to get experience instead, especially since that’s free and with regular girls.

Good way to catch HPV, STD or worse. It's really not that hard. Play with her cl!t, kiss and caress her erogenous zones and stick you member in. Bonus if you rub her cl!toral hood while inside.

 
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Good way to catch HPV, STD or worse. It's really not that hard. Play with her cl!t, kiss and caress her erogenous zones and stick you member in. Bonus if you rub her cl!toral hood while inside.

Well since its a legal brothel, the girls are required by law to be STD tested on a constant basis and you’re required to wear a condom for everything, even a BJ. Like I said in my earlier replies, doing this is not my first choice and I’m only even considering it because there’s no effective way to meet a regular girl who’s not a pro.
 
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