Thanks Don.Don the Legend said:Hey ZTime,
Something you may want to consider to do.
Once you feel up to it, I would make a list of qualities you want your next gal to have. You can add age, looks, etc...but the most important thing to think about is what kind of qualities she has to have. As you compile this list, you will be amazed how much your ex didn't have, once you have time to look back and objectively see how much your ex wasn't right for you. Once you have a good working draft, list the core qualities she must have that if she doesn't have a majority on the list then that you have break up and move on.
This will help you focus on finding the right gal for you.
Last Saturday when this girl got into my house for the third time, she searched the entire house. On my bed I keep a journal to write down things about this break up and things I' m looking for (other women's qualities, business goals, etc.)
So whe I left Saturday morning, this journal was under a pillow. When I returned in the evening it was on a night stand. I'm assuming it was read by the ex.
Funny thing is that I had made a pros and cons list about her. If she read it which is almost 100% she would have seen this:
Pros: pretty face, sexual, tells me she loves me.
Cons: stretch marks on flabby stomach, horrid tits, ignores me as a punishment, won't let me hang out with friends, constantly lies about her past, horrid ex boyfriends (drugs,criminals, etc.), financially unstable, feels entitled, has 3 children with no child support??? Never gives gifts, disrespects me by playing on phone constantly. Nothing is ever good enough, never get quality time. To busy with the kids, ruins date nights with weird accusations or drama, won't clean up after her own kids, talks to all of her friends about relationships, thinks she is better or smarter than me, looks older then 31. How's this going to be @ 40, now a cheater, embarrasses me in front of others.
Now I wrote those things and much more in my personal journal for my eyes only. But if I could have seen the look on her face as she read it...I would have laughed!
It's day 21 of NC...headed out of town for the weekend. This should be an adventure!