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I agree - she should pay, but I got the drift from her that she wouldn't even think twice about that. It would be more expected that I would pay.
I don’t like that she booked reservations without specifying that she wants to treat you. That’s masculine energy. She should have hinted that she would like you to take her there. You could nudge her gently and counter offer:

“That’s a nice idea but I’m not in the position to take you there on <date>. Join me for <counteroffer date> instead?”

She should get the hint. If she’s paying, she will speak up and say it. If you really don’t dig this girl though just ghost man. She’s running relationship game. Don’t waste her time if that’s not what you see with her.
 

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I was especially turned off when she texted me a day later saying she booked a reservation for a brunch at another place next weekend.. like that's not cool. That's her steering the frame of the whole relationship.
Yeah it sounds to me that she likes you, but considering she has princess syndrome, she's use to getting everything her way and being in control. This isn't something she does maliciously necessarily but I think just through time and her being spoiled, this is her reality and the way she operates on a subconcious level without giving it too much thought.

Desperate/thirsty/white knight/beta/blue pilled dudes would've been ok being her b1tch but I know you got options and a better brain. ;)
 

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Yeah it sounds to me that she likes you, but considering she has princess syndrome, she's use to getting everything her way and being in control. This isn't something she does maliciously necessarily but I think just through time and her being spoiled, this is her reality and the way she operates on a subconcious level without giving it too much thought.

Desperate/thirsty/white knight/beta/blue pilled dudes would've been ok being her b1tch but I know you got options and a better brain. ;)
Couldn't agree more man. I think inherently she is just used to getting her way. The way she talks about her wealthy parents, friend group, leisure activities, ex BF, etc., just not my vibe. I don't come from that upbringing and it's a huge turn off to me. Even if the sex was great I would maybe only buck her a few more times. I am much more into these other girls I'm talking to right now and would rather fuuck them/enjoy their company than spend another dime on this daddy's girl hahaha.

And both you and @EyeBRollin are right..... she DEFINITELY wants a LTR with me.
 

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Couldn't agree more man. I think inherently she is just used to getting her way. The way she talks about her wealthy parents, friend group, leisure activities, ex BF, etc., just not my vibe. I don't come from that upbringing and it's a huge turn off to me. Even if the sex was great I would maybe only buck her a few more times. I am much more into these other girls I'm talking to right now and would rather fuuck them/enjoy their company than spend another dime on this daddy's girl hahaha.

And both you and @EyeBRollin are right..... she DEFINITELY wants a LTR with me.
I can sense a lot of self-worth in this man. Youre on the right track. Rock on.
 

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hahah thanks man I appreciate it! I am learning since my divorce. I have just met so many other fun girls that are enjoyable to be around and give back - why waste my time with this one?
You will discover that a girl giving back are worthy of your time.. It should be that way since the earlydays of human existence. Dont waste your energy with time sucking hoes just finding yourself to please them more just for their favour on you.. Life is bigger than that.. Get a great partner and someone to grow with.

If you had seen playful, loving interplay between two adults who admired and respected each other, you would surely be seeking that relationship dynamic for yourself, you'd never settle for less
 

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You will discover that a girl giving back are worthy of your time.. It should be that way since the earlydays of human existence. Dont waste your energy with time sucking hoes just finding yourself to please them more just for their favour on you.. Life is bigger than that.. Get a great partner and someone to grow with.

If you had seen playful, loving interplay between two adults who admired and respected each other, you would surely be seeking that relationship dynamic for yourself, you'd never settle for less
That's the tough part for me right now. I am definitely really into this one Brazilian girl I'm seeing. Very sweet, intelligent, loyal, giving, sexy, affectionate, etc. She checks off all of my criteria. But I just wonder if it is too soon to date since I have only been separated 8 months. (she knows this too). I don't want to just settle for someone because I really like them now. I feel like I shoulder figure out more about myself first before entering another LTR leaving a marriage.

If this was two years down the line I wouldn't hesitate to date this girl. I am also in the process of trying to go through a career change in life, and it may take me away from this area.
 

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That's the tough part for me right now. I am definitely really into this one Brazilian girl I'm seeing. Very sweet, intelligent, loyal, giving, sexy, affectionate, etc. She checks off all of my criteria. But I just wonder if it is too soon to date since I have only been separated 8 months. (she knows this too). I don't want to just settle for someone because I really like them now. I feel like I shoulder figure out more about myself first before entering another LTR leaving a marriage.

If this was two years down the line I wouldn't hesitate to date this girl. I am also in the process of trying to go through a career change in life, and it may take me away from this area.
Don’t put a head trip on yourself. If she’s a good girl, date her. Sort your personal demons out with a shrink.
 

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That's the tough part for me right now. I am definitely really into this one Brazilian girl I'm seeing. Very sweet, intelligent, loyal, giving, sexy, affectionate, etc. She checks off all of my criteria. But I just wonder if it is too soon to date since I have only been separated 8 months. (she knows this too). I don't want to just settle for someone because I really like them now. I feel like I shoulder figure out more about myself first before entering another LTR leaving a marriage.

If this was two years down the line I wouldn't hesitate to date this girl. I am also in the process of trying to go through a career change in life, and it may take me away from this area.
IMO don't let a good thing pass you by. That's the mistake that all independent career women make, right?

As for being too soon, as long as you are healed and ready to move forward is all that counts. Don't put an artificial timeframe around when you "think" you're ready. Most people don't really know themselves or have a false sense.

But at the same time, no need to rush it but eventually the longer you two hang out, the question will come up from her end. That's when you need to make sure you have an answer for her.
 

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That's the tough part for me right now. I am definitely really into this one Brazilian girl I'm seeing. Very sweet, intelligent, loyal, giving, sexy, affectionate, etc. She checks off all of my criteria. But I just wonder if it is too soon to date since I have only been separated 8 months. (she knows this too). I don't want to just settle for someone because I really like them now. I feel like I shoulder figure out more about myself first before entering another LTR leaving a marriage.

If this was two years down the line I wouldn't hesitate to date this girl. I am also in the process of trying to go through a career change in life, and it may take me away from this area.
This is funny because im being saperated from my ex Bpd for 4 years now, i never tired enjoy being alone with myself, prior to her ive never stop dating until we parting. 8 month is a good time for heal, if you feel you dont need relationship right now, means youre ready for one.. The right one.. Give this girl a chance. Made she proved she deserve you. Hey if she wants you she would stay going through your changes
 

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This is funny because im being saperated from my ex Bpd for 4 years now, i never tired enjoy being alone with myself, prior to her ive never stop dating until we parting. 8 month is a good time for heal, if you feel you dont need relationship right now, means youre ready for one.. The right one.. Give this girl a chance. Made she proved she deserve you. Hey if she wants you she would stay going through your changes
Thanks guys, this is all really good advice! @EyeBRollin @Lookatu @Focal core
 

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Congrats bro. On the scale of 1-10, how was the quality of the buck?
Oh dude, she was a solid 8/10 buck. VERY submissive and giving and a really nice body. She ended up staying over actually because it was 2AM by the time we looked at the clock and we bucked again in the AM!

Not sure everyone's opinion on letting a girl stay over, but I felt like it would kind of be a diick move to make her drive 35 min home at 2:30 AM after fuucking. Plus I was almost certain I could get the AM sex.
 

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Oh dude, she was a solid 8/10 buck. VERY submissive and giving and a really nice body. She ended up staying over actually because it was 2AM by the time we looked at the clock and we bucked again in the AM!

Not sure everyone's opinion on letting a girl stay over, but I felt like it would kind of be a diick move to make her drive 35 min home at 2:30 AM after fuucking. Plus I was almost certain I could get the AM sex.
You did the right thing bro. You got to be a gentleman first and foremost and forget any rules that might overtake that aspect. I guess this one made up for the last one you had.
 
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