Yeah and the thing is, both can be true. That is, Megan could be a conniving bytch, but his family might also suck.YESSIR. YESSIR! It can be easily that you are more ambitious and driven than the majority of them. They are very good at "holding their spot" and it's their preference. But when you come around them, they want to drag you onto their wavelength, thus being toxic for what you are doing.
All I was saying is sometimes the "validation" your family can provide is no good for you, because they don't understand what your doing.. They aren't into it like you are. As adults we must monitor our own energy and whether various relationships add to or take from it.
I had a gf for a while and my family was just not into her. The truth was, she had some issues and we weren't a good match in retrospect. BUT - that's for me to decide. It pissed me off that they weren't more supportive and acted weird about it, and it created some temporary distance between us. I figured, it's my life, I'll date whom I want, and they can get on board or not but it's not my problem if they don't. There are lots of people whose families don't accept their partners for all sorts of reasons including race and sexual preference. It's a shytty choice to make but everyone's gotta do what's best for himself.