Ponderings on Jealousy

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It's a double bind, and all I can say is that having a single mindset at all times must be the key. Yeah, she's your "girlfriend" but that means jack shyt really.
Women very acutely understand that girlfriend and boyfriend are not husband and wife. They may play up the implications of a "committed"(but entirely revocable at any time for any reason) relationship to you and pursue that but it's really little more than an agreement to not sleep with others until she finds someone better. The difference between marriage and a relationship is that in a relationship you are ALLOWED to look for better options.
 

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Women very acutely understand that girlfriend and boyfriend are not husband and wife. They may play up the implications of a "committed"(but entirely revocable at any time for any reason) relationship to you and pursue that but it's really little more than an agreement to not sleep with others until she finds someone better. The difference between marriage and a relationship is that in a relationship you are ALLOWED to look for better options.
Isn't marriage supposed to be spending ones lives together, relationship not looking elsewhere, and seeing/dating allowed to look elsewhere.

Can you tell your GF you went on a date this week?

Lines are blurry.
 

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To me, cheating is never justified. If you aren't getting something from your spouse or you aren't happy, then just leave the relationship. Cheating solves nothing and is the most damaging action one can to do to another. I've never done it nor will I ever, for the simple fact I don't do others what I don't want done to me. I was cheated on for the first time in my last RS, and it was and still is the worst pain I experienced.
 

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Isn't marriage supposed to be spending ones lives together, relationship not looking elsewhere, and seeing/dating allowed to look elsewhere.

Can you tell your GF you went on a date this week?

Lines are blurry.
They are blurry for a reason. If she entertains a new guy and then dumps you and fcks him that next second she thinks she is fine!
 
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to be honest im meeting tommorow a chick that installed tinder yesterday and im aware as hell that regardless if we enter relationship or sexship, she will still have a lot of offers from there and she will probably meet them
 

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to be honest im meeting tommorow a chick that installed tinder yesterday and im aware as hell that regardless if we enter relationship or sexship, she will still have a lot of offers from there and she will probably meet them
Why would she meet them if your in a relationship?
 

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Women very acutely understand that girlfriend and boyfriend are not husband and wife. They may play up the implications of a "committed"(but entirely revocable at any time for any reason) relationship to you and pursue that but it's really little more than an agreement to not sleep with others until she finds someone better. The difference between marriage and a relationship is that in a relationship you are ALLOWED to look for better options.
Should she "test" all her options out? To me that means the man is propping up her hypergamy lifestyle.
 

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Why would she meet them if your in a relationship?
for more stimulus. for more ego boost. for more emotions. for eventual prince. for someone in better finance situation, etc.

lets be honest. OLD must be good plate fishing place for top 10% men, because all women just want the top 10% there.

of course women then dont get exclusivity
 
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I remember one chick I have meet on Tinder that was new to city and a virgin, totally bad in relations with boys and i was one of the first guys to text her on dating app. we kissed and touched on first date, ****ed on second, she didnt uninstall Tinder and quickly left me for someone with car (I had no car). She then left him as well (I saw on social media) for some other dude, she realised the power of her puss! these generations are sick :) she was 21.

PS i consider myself and her other two boys much higher quality than her, and not because she did all of us in short timespan.
 

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for more stimulus. for more ego boost. for more emotions. for eventual prince. for someone in better finance situation, etc.

lets be honest. OLD must be good plate fishing place for top 10% men, because all women just want the top 10% there.

of course women then dont get exclusivity
Exactly or if you did have exclusitivity you can drop them when they're entertaining suitors. If some one can't be loyal before marriage why would they all of a sudden change it after marriage.
 

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Exactly or if you did have exclusivity you can drop them when they're entertaining suitors. If someone can't be loyal before marriage why would they all of a sudden change it after marriage.
So true. I learned this lesson the hard way in my former marriage naively thinking the rock would shoo away (e)orbiters and ex's away.
 

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im especially afraid of OLD(edating not age) women. they are so flooded with options that they will prob never make a LTR material.
 
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Women very acutely understand that girlfriend and boyfriend are not husband and wife. They may play up the implications of a "committed"(but entirely revocable at any time for any reason) relationship to you and pursue that but it's really little more than an agreement to not sleep with others until she finds someone better. The difference between marriage and a relationship is that in a relationship you are ALLOWED to look for better options.
Is the person you are seeing at the time aware of this and mutually agree? It would just seem easier to call it a FWB type thing. I never really entered a LTR with the intention of passing time. More so another vetting process to see just how far it could go.
 

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Is the person you are seeing at the time aware of this and mutually agree? It would just seem easier to call it a FWB type thing. I never really entered a LTR with the intention of passing time. More so another vetting process to see just how far it could go.
its most efficient if your partner believes you are EXCLUSIVE boyfriend. of course i would never go through the past break up hell so i will never cut my plates off my life.
 

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for more stimulus. for more ego boost. for more emotions. for eventual prince. for someone in better finance situation, etc.
This is red flag like a mofo. These are exactly the type of thirsty individuals you want to avoid seeking out a LTR with. I knew this all to well in the past and would immediately disqualify them for LTR. I'm not big on social media too much. I have a FB and follow a few forums. My last LTR is big on Snapchat and Instagram. I didn't know it until a mutual friend told me to check out her insta, but she had been posting provocative thirst pics nearly the whole relationship. Imo, these type of girls can never be fulfilled and best to avoid LTR at all cost with them. It's an insecurity that has to be fixed within themselves.
 

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Psuedo-related to the topic, yet you guys bring up some good points in this second page.

This helped me detach when my feels took over with the last ex when she posted social media pics of her holding another guy's hand on Insta:

How to Detach, How to Let Go of Attachments, Releasing, Emotional Mastery and Being Carefree


How to Control Your Mind - Mental Strength, Emotional Control and How to Control Yourself


...check out her insta, but she had been posting provocative thirst pics nearly the whole relationship. Imo, these type of girls can never be fulfilled and best to avoid LTR at all cost with them. It's an insecurity that has to be fixed within themselves.
Social media is such a vital screening tool. What they post tells you volumes of what you need to know about them.

Remember actions speak louder than words.

So if she's posting dozens and dozens of selfies or chest shots in skimpy clothes or in front of the mirror so you can see her booty to thirsty guys to validate her with dozens of comments like "OMG! You're so hot. Wow." and "Damn girl, you fine" blah blah she's got low self-esteem and isn't secure enough to hold her own.

If she's just a plate, you give zero fs and keep on hooking up. If you're in an "exclusive" LTR, it's bouncing time. If you're smart you already screened her social media before agreeing to exclusivity.
 

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its most efficient if your partner believes you are EXCLUSIVE boyfriend. of course i would never go through the past break up hell so i will never cut my plates off my life.
I guess I have done this too, but I also let the plates know that I am no longer available as well. Some don't take the rejection well and I've never spoken to again and some respect it. At least they'll know what they will be getting with me if the tables turn and they ever get there chance is what I figure. I may be looking at it wrong though.
 
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