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I’ll spread the word lol.I will be in bold
That’s tiring lol. Oops and then you’re accused of riding the **** carousel oh no.....3 or 4 dates isn't enough time to screen for a$$hole. So you bang on the third or 4th date and realize by the 6th date you have banged an a$$hole and decide to move on. So you start dating someone new, have 2 dates, bang on the third, find out he's unsavory by the 6th, move on, start dating someone new, have 2 dates, bang on the third, find out he's unsavory by the 6th, move on, etc, etc, etc, and continue to spread your legs for strangers hoping that you'll find a decent one....
I’ll spread the word lol. Thanks!
Do what works for you. I’m not saying wait and wait.
Ideally there’s sexual build up on each date that leads to sex. YES That’s A fun part of dating for a lot of women, build up. If she’s not responding to the sexual build up then she’s not into it. YES! If she’s escalating with kisses etc and initiating physical contact that’s a good sign even if it’s past date 3. But you and every guy has the right to cap it off if you feel it is going too long, and every girl has the right not to put out when she’s not ready or not feeling it. YES!! that is why I recommend men don't go more than 3 or 4 dates....as you just said...."she's not feeling it" Fair enough...….but if I am single and dating I am going to spend my time with someone who IS feeling it
Some women need more of a build up and that time may not mesh well with what the guy wants.TRUE If it doesn’t then don’t stick around, but also don’t blame her if she’s not putting out within 5 dates. AGREED. I would never "blame" her, I would just realize she is not that attracted and STOP asking her out. If she contacts ME after that, I know she IS interested and needs a bit of time ….or suddenly "is ready" She either needs more of a build up or she’s not that into you My stance and neither of those are her fault, it’s just how it is. I don't blame her at all. I just look elsewhere. You would be surprised how many women suddenly decide "they ARE ready" if you stop calling and asking them out.Other girls may be a mesh with him. Agreed
I doubt it would matter. Consider "groupies" for example. Rock Stars don't date these women for 7 dates, they open their dressing room door, and that is all.Im not a women but there is only 1 anwser here obv.
Better question would be
scenario 2 . A man asks you on a date, and you CANNOT believe your good luck. This guy is smoking hot! Good looks, great job, works out hard, killer body. All your girlfriends are jealous of you, they have been wishing for months he would ask them out. He is highly desired by women and can have his pick. If you knew he does not want a relationship or its gonna be a ONS
Ok first off I don’t think Sazc nor I are saying we wouldn’t sleep with a man we date lol.I hope to get an honest answer from the ladies here...…..
Scenario 1. A man asks you out. He is NOT overly attractive, say average. He doesn't have an outstanding personality, job, etc, He doesn't seem to be attractive to many of you GF, or other women. Women just kinda pass him by with a shrug. Just "average" He asks you out......since it has been awhile since you have been on a date, you AGREE, event though though you aren't particularly attracted to him.......you figure "what the heck, can't hurt"
Scenario 2 . A man asks you on a date, and you CANNOT believe your good luck. This guy is smoking hot! Good looks, great job, works out hard, killer body. All your girlfriends are jealous of you, they have been wishing for months he would ask them out. He is highly desired by women and can have his pick.
Now, going into this scenario.........be HONEST...………..before you even go on the date !! How likely are you to consider sleeping with the man in scenario 1 vs Scenario 2.
Senario 1 might turn different if the interest level is just a tad bit higher, example someone smart and witty but average at best on looks.Ok first off I don’t think Sazc nor I are saying we wouldn’t sleep with a man we date lol.
Scenario 1. If I was single and dating I would not waste time meeting up with a guy I’m not that interested in, when I could spend that time enjoying a glass of wine and Netflix, a good book, or time out with my friends.
For me, spending time with people (men or women), I’m not interested is mentally draining. So that scenario would not even happen for me and when I did date that’s how it was. I don’t like to waste his time nor mine if I know that I’m not excited about the potential of meeting him in the first place.
Scenario 2. Yes, sex is on the table and hopefully there will be some fun build up to that.
If there’s low interest then sex is less likely to happen regardless so yeah in that scenario 3 or 4 dates later and nothing, means nothing is going to happen. Hopefully the guy can pick up on the signs of low interest before date 2 or 3.Senario 1 might turn different if the interest level is just a tad bit higher, example someone smart and witty but average at best on looks.
Then a man can get either friend zoned or endless dates without anything more, and thats prob why they say no more than 3-4 date before sex.
I didn’t say how many dates before I would have sex lol.AJ84, thanks for your honest reply. This solidifies my stance that if a woman doesn't have sex with you in the first few dates, she is not that attracted to you and you should move on.
That is not to say she is a "bad"person…....but why keep beating your head against the wall, right?
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A good looking young 17 year old guy was at an outdoor party one night, newly single. He had a girl , who knew he was freshly single....holding his hand all night and kissing him, etc . She had to leave the party...……..and within about 5 minutes another girl sidled up (who had been watching all night) and started chatting him up, and making out with him. They made out in his buddies car all the way home. That young man, was me. So no one will ever convince me, that if a woman finds you attractive, you have to wait and wait. Just not true.I didn’t say how many dates before I would have sex lol.
Look, I know what you’re getting at. And I agree that if there is no interest, do not waste time.
Read my last post, I hope that clarifies what I’m trying to say.
Limit on interest level is the way to go i agreeI agree....I don't have rules set in stone. But I do have a limit.....and that won't depend always on a "number" of dates, but of her interest levels, and how good of a fit I feel we are as well. Having said that, I know when to stop calling and asking out. Then she can do 100% of the pursuing, or she can not.