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Of Rabbits And Turtles (An Essay On Merit)

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Gone are times when a pen and a piece of paper could spark a revolution.

Guess we all had a childhood in here, and we all heard the fable of the rabbit and the turtle.

The rabbit, not the rabbit from the Alice in Wonderland, shamelessly copied in the trilogy that my brother moderator loves so much :)p ), the rabbit that runs a lot, and races with the turtle.

It's even embarassing comparing the rabbit with the turtle. The turtle is slow, easy, chilled down, and knows its limitations.
The rabbit is smart, fast, built, "speedy", like we would say here .
The rabbit is a natural. He was born to run.

Now pause the speech for a while. No, I'm not going to use this metaphor to motivate anyone to have the skills of the rabbit, or the persistence of the turtle. No, altough a cool story and a motivational post that would be, I'm not going for that.

I'm talking here as a friend. A friend you'll never see. But a friend who cares about you. A real friend is the one who tells you the truth. The one who cares about you, your life, your health, your future.

There's a trend in my life lately of knowing a lot of rabbits. 95% of the people I met this year, and look, I met over a hundred persons this year, are rabbits. Or, wanna be rabbits.

Rabbits don't give a sh!t about others. They're sole purpose is getting money, getting lady, having pleasure and getting the things they want done no matter the price or what could happen to the others.

Rabbits don't worry about karma. F*ck, rabbits don't give a sh!t to spirituality. They go to church to get women, to smoke a joint at night or to marriage parties, where can get drunk for free.

Rabbits care a lot about their presence. They have a vanity and a concern about other people's opinions, and doing what's cool at the time, forgetting about their individuality and their honesty that is amazing. LaVey smiles from his grave.

Rabbits like to get drunk. Like to use drugs a lot to. Rabbits start smoking really early, and have a general disregard to people who don't share their addictions. You're automatically boring and a loser if you don't smoke , sniff and get f*ck drunk.
Oh wait, at least the turtles serve to drive them home and borrow them money.

Rabbits don't think long term. They spend all their money, all their energy and all their health on short lasting things, just the "enjoy the moment". " You gotta enjoy your life man!" They take Carpe Diem and make it sound like some motherf*cking junkie motto.

And they think they can win the race. They're much better than turtles. "Poor losers. They don't have fun. They don't get laid. They don't feel pleasure. They don't lead a f*cking cool life."

Then there are the turtles. Oh the turtles! Slowly, but firmly, constantly going for their dreams. Sometimes they get too tired, so they stop and they sleep. Sometimes they fall. They don't have the strength, or the skills, or the agility to accomplish a lot of things as the rabbits do.

But they know their limits. They know that if they follow their limits, and accept themselves as they are, they'll eventually reach their goals. For turtles, unlike rabbits, goals aren't matters of luck and probability. No, for turtles, goals are just a matter of time.

Turtles are humble, simple, "ugly", they talk low and slowly... they walk by the sidewalks of the roads they choose to travel. They don't lead... most of the times they follow, or do their own things.

Yet. Turtles are happy. Incredibly happy. They live inside a hard shell with only theirselves for years and years, and they're always comfortable in their hard skin. No winds or even hurricanes can break their hard shell and take the happiness and contentment away from themselves with ease.

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When a person arrives at this place, or at various moments of their lives, they have to choose between being a rabbit or a turtle.

Being a rabbit sounds cool doesn't it? Most people see others getting laid and "having fun", and think that being rabbits are the way. Is that true happiness? Being an addict?

When there are no women, no alcohol, no marijuana, no coke, no pills, they can't fun... they can't even stay still. They have to complain about every f*cking thing, even when things come for them for free... their hearts beat in bursts of joy and discontentment.

Turtles, turtles don't have all that. They don't have bursts. They have a small, but steady flame that is always burning inside their heart, no matter the storm that may come.

Turtles don't throw thrash on the street. Turtles apologise. Turtles do favors to others, and are polites. Turtles know please and thank you.

Rabbits always wanna win. Get things for free. Have others caressing their egos.

I met a lot of rabbits this year. "Naturals", who got laid more in a year than most of the people I know has ever gotten in their entire lives. Yet, they were always drunk. They were always doped. They always f*cked their bodies and gave a sh!t for anyone that wasn't them.

Guys that started to go clubbing when they were 12, banged their first chick at 13, started to smoke when they where 14 and can't leave mary jane since they're 15. Guys that spend all the money their mothers work hard to get in drugs and beer.

Is that cool? Is that being a winner? Is that being a DJ?

If it is, excuse me ladies and gentlemen, but I'd rather be a loser. Call me an AFC. I'd much rather be a turtle.

Yeah. I'd rather be that nice guy that never gets laid. I'd rather spend the weekend playing poker with my parents and j*acking off to porn.

In my reality, in my environment, this is how things are working. There are few "Natural DJs". There are few men "trying to improve theirselves."
A good job, money, roids, dope, only in order to seek everlasting pleasure, more women and more status. And f*ck the poor. F*ck the miserable bastard sleeping under the bridge. Let's just throw a bottle of vodka at them. Let's kick the butts of every homeless beggar just to prove ourselves that we're strong. We're men.

Gone are the times of the natural DJs. If there ever was such a time. Gone are the times when people cared about the others. I try to stay positive, I try to do my part and my best to bring people to the brighter side of life.

My happiness isn't based on them, I can live without them, and I'm very good. But I feel bad not doing anything. I feel like it is my duty to make these people abandon their selfish and self-destructive behaviors and lead a human life. But I fail. And I'm despised. "He's just a loser kid. Leave alone. No one can have fun with him around."

I'll be a turtle then. I'll be a boring fart. A loser, an AFC.

I'm not giving up my health for dangerous and short lasting pleasures. I'm not giving up my ideals for trends. I'm not giving up my dreams for nightmares.

I'm not giving up on MERIT. Cause MERIT, MERIT is what makes us man! MERIT is what built the world we sit upon.
I don't need clutches to walk. I walk slowly but my hands are free.

I don't need no solace, I don't need no chemicals to make me happy. I'm am the master of my own fate.
I don't need a ****ing cigarette to calm me nor a shot of vodka to approach women. I don't need no drug to bring me inspiration or piece of mind. MY F*CKING CONSCIENCE IS NOT FOR SALE!

My head is mine, my dreams aren't for trade. And I'm not going to give up everything I fought so hard to achieve, and won't exchange the dreams I have everyday for cheap pleasures.

I'M NOT GIVING UP ON MERIT! NEVER! AND SO SHOULD YOU!

No, no my friend. Sorry if it pisses you off, but, I'm not grabbing clutches. I'm not conforming. I'm not following the form.

And if you think that that's what I got to do to be a DJ, then sorry. Ban me

BBB
 
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Good post.

People don't realize that being a DJ is not all about getting girls.. and getting laid.

Being a DJ is raising the standards within yourself, becoming the best person you can be.

DJing is not being an *******... If a girl is attracted to a jerk, then let her. Why should I want a girl like that? Because she is the hottest person around? Am I not just lugging around a cute piece of ass to show off to everyone?

I want a girl that respects me, that likes me because of my personality... because, if I have to change my personality to get girls, then, I don't want those girls.

Alot of dating advice coaches say you need to keep playing the "Game" till either you die, or she dies. What type of life is that?

I understand that I won't find any girls like that easily... I also understand that finding girls is not the objective here, the objective is making you feel happy with yourself. Just like money, finding girls will not make you happy forever.. its just a quick fix drug till you're bored and move on.

Flame me, I don't care.
 

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I believe DJism is a double bladed sword. While being an AFC is certainly no good, going around basing your life on laying women isn't much better either. Self-awareness and improvement is key, and that is the essence of DJism.

Merit....such a simple word, but such a difficult practice. Takes balls and cool to truly show merit. I'm showing merit. How? As you know, my oneitis just broke up her bf of 1.5 years. All my senses told me to go for it now that she's finally available...but a little voice stopped me. Made me think about how the bf would feel. Hell, I knew he loved her a sh1tload and put in tons of effort, but it just collapsed. I would be crushed if some guy just picked up my ex 2 days after we broek up.

As the Tall One says, flame me if you want. I'm not a DJ. I'm not an AFC. I'm myself.
 

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great post man. I really needed to hear that. Thank you.
 

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SOMEBODY GIVE THIS GUY AN AWARD

Look at this post. And listen. Unlike this deluded fellow above me ^^^, who I presume is still not mature enough to realise that power and prestige, coupled with a skewed perception of human life is of no use in the long run. I wholly agree. It's WAY better to be downtrodden, but doing the right thing, than to be in a position of power, but accomplishing nothing but an endless supply of self-satisfaction and gratification.


Excellent post, triple B. You've got my vote.
 

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Great one man. But don't tell me that now you are gonna make a "Welcome to Wonderland" series, because the first one didn't get finished. :p
 

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Re: SOMEBODY GIVE THIS GUY AN AWARD

Originally posted by Wacky-1
Look at this post. And listen. Unlike this deluded fellow above me ^^^, who I presume is still not mature enough to realise that power and prestige, coupled with a skewed perception of human life is of no use in the long run. I wholly agree. It's WAY better to be downtrodden, but doing the right thing, than to be in a position of power, but accomplishing nothing but an endless supply of self-satisfaction and gratification.


Excellent post, triple B. You've got my vote.
Life is only what you make of it. What IS of use in the long run? We all end up in the ground. You've got to take advantage of what you have when you still have it, because NOTHING lasts forever.

I'm not saying I share all the characteristics of the rabbit that BBB describes. I'm attending one of the top 12 ranked colleges in the county. I have goals in life. I do have care and respect for others who are deserving of it. I call up my mom and dad at least once a week.

But if I've only got one shot at life, I'm sure as hell not going to "spend my weekends jacking off to porn" and convince myself that it's because of merit.

It's unbelievably ironic how this board constantly glorifies guys like Tyler Durden (fictional) and Richard Branson (real) but then will support a post like this. Did Richard Branson become a self-made billionaire by "slowly, steadily chasing his dream"? Nope, he went out there and fvcking did it. Is Tyler Durden a turtle in any way, shape, or form? I think you can see what I'm getting at.

"You can dream a little dream, or you can live a little dream. I'd rather live it, 'cause dreamers always chase but never get it."
 

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These two extremes are a bit disturbing.

On the one hand, I am not the rabbit. On the other, I'm not quite the turtle. I agree with Interpol.

No BBB, I don't think you stand up completly for what you said. I understand it's for the sake of the post, but you're not like that.

What you describe as the turtle is settling for mediocrity until hopefully one day you will get the greater good. That is simply not true. That is fool's hope.

I would stay here and argue but it doesn't even apply to you. I don't see why you would forsake the truth for an idea.
 

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Like every spectrum, there is a middle ground. It looks like this has just come back to a debate of live for today, or live for tomorrow. Why not live for today and tomorrow.

I don't take drugs, i occasionally drink alcohol, i date alot of girls, i get laid alot, but i also have dreams about the future. More importantly however, i still care about the people around me.

Consider me a rabbit with a turtles shell.
 

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Come on, let's see some responses to this...I want all you fvckers who jumped all over this to defend your response now...Do you still want to be turtles?

By the way, I'm drunk as shyt right now...Come on, let's hear it from the turtles!
 

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I still stand by what I said.

What's the point in contributing to what's already not good by lathering it up with more of the same? Frankly, even if BBB is not like that in real life, I'll vouch for it anyway. Because in my opinion, it's damn hell good to do the right thing. Don't call me noble, instead, call me what you want. There's too much selfishness anyway. I'm fine with anyone who wants to live the way they want to, because, indeed that's the best way to live. But live and learn from others. It's often always better to do the right thing. Interpol, this is not some challenge I pose to the "rabbits". My idea is that it's better to do the right thing, and that's in tune with BBB's message. Lik, Sammo, you wanna find a middle ground, then that's great. I'm just expressing my opinion. That's the beauty of being human. We're all different, and through our differences, we're the all the same.
 

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Originally posted by Interpol
Come on, let's see some responses to this...I want all you fvckers who jumped all over this to defend your response now...Do you still want to be turtles?

By the way, I'm drunk as shyt right now...Come on, let's hear it from the turtles!
Yeah, I do.

Flame away.
 

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Originally posted by Wacky-1
I still stand by what I said.

What's the point in contributing to what's already not good by lathering it up with more of the same? Frankly, even if BBB is not like that in real life, I'll vouch for it anyway. Because in my opinion, it's damn hell good to do the right thing. Don't call me noble, instead, call me what you want. There's too much selfishness anyway. I'm fine with anyone who wants to live the way they want to, because, indeed that's the best way to live. But live and learn from others. It's often always better to do the right thing. Interpol, this is not some challenge I pose to the "rabbits". My idea is that it's better to do the right thing, and that's in tune with BBB's message. Lik, Sammo, you wanna find a middle ground, then that's great. I'm just expressing my opinion. That's the beauty of being human. We're all different, and through our differences, we're the all the same.
Awesome response man.

Interpol, this isn't some kind of competition.
 

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Originally posted by Wacky-1
I'm fine with anyone who wants to live the way they want to, because, indeed that's the best way to live.
Well, that's quite a difference from me being "deluded" and "not mature enough" to understand why your way of life was better.

If that's really how you want to live, I can respect that...But don't act like you were some paragon of tolerance and understanding when your original reply clearly suggested otherwise.
 

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If you read BBB's post, you'd have noticed, that the only good thing about a "rabbit" was his natural ability with girls. You said you'd rather be a rabbit. So I said you were deluded. When you later on suggested that you were a bit of both, and had goals and ambitions - I changed my opinion of you. I was rash in judgement, but your first reply was one that breathed, ate and slept ignorance, so you'll have to excuse me. But again, this is by no means a competition. Have a nice day (no pun intended)...still not convinced? No, seriously, I mean it. :D
 

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Let people be who they are. Who are we to judge what's "right" or "wrong" for others.

Want to be a rabbit? Fine.

Want to be a turtle? No problem.

Want to be somewhere in the middle of these two extremes? Sure.

BBB, I can understand your point of view, but I think your description of a rabbit is a little bit extreme. I do agree with you for the most part, but when you said: "And if you think that that's what I got to do to be a DJ, then sorry. Ban me", it was a bit of an overreaction.

Having said that... GOOD POST. Personally, I agree with you about morality and politeness.
 

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just want to give cred to interpol for quoting aesop rock..good ****
 
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