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For those that are advocates or have tried it, do you notice a legitimate confidence boost like many talk about? Or do you think it’s largely placebo?

Also, I’m curious if you noticed changes in other aspects of your life.

For example, if you go to the Nofap forums, it’s all raving how it’s only beneficial, massive confidence boost, women notice you more, etc. However when I’ve tried to research it elsewhere, it seems more ambiguous and mixed results.

I’m curious what you all think. As a single 27 yearold male, who had had an unfortunate string of rejections in the last couple weeks, I’m thinking it could be beneficial to get myself back on track and back into my confident masculine frame, which I sometimes feel I’ve lost touch with.

Thoughts/opinions?

Much appreciated,
Bjp
 

BJP1991

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Not majic. But a definite slight energy boost. I my be outside the box but for most males excessive amounts can lead to bouts of depression thats a by product of not having that drive. It does have a flooding effect.
Flooding effect in the sense that over-fapping is just a cycle of immediate false-reward, that returns to depression and having low confidence drive?

Anyone have experiences or thoughts on nofap and everyday life/outlook change?
 

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I get more horny and more agressive.
Naturally. I’ve experienced this too when I get around day 5-6 of nofap but then the aggression wanes a bit. Also I do sometimes feel more on edge or quicker to get agitated in those days as well. Meditation seems to help at times
 

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My outcome on nofap was...

more horny, what shows in interactions with girls. So more attention from girls equals ego boost and confidence.

More drive to do sports.

And I‘m going through my workplace like „out of my way, I‘m doing this“ - could be the ego boost.

After some time away from porn I noticed I‘m not so focused on getting sex. Still horny af but it wouldn‘t bother me much when I didn‘t get some.
 

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I think less whacking off isn't a bad thing. If it gives you more energy and testosterone and gives you the motivation to talk to and approach women more then that's a good thing.
 

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Here's something about nofap I've noticed: I usually am doing it by default.

I'm either busy with work, hobbies, or social life. It's not that I don't have the free time to do it, but I'll usually read a book or watch a movie. A number of days, even a couple of weeks, can pass by before the time is right and I'm in the mood. And even then, if I'm planning to go out, I'll abstain. Definitely if I'm planning on a lay I don't fap beforehand.

If all factors fall into place then yeah, I'll indulge.

So maybe instead of trying hard to go nofap, just fill your time so you're not so bored that that's all there is to do. Kind of ties in with the whole "be busy" mantra for being attractive.
 

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If I don't have a woman then why not (apart from religious)? If you can get a woman than don't fap because it is not natural and is a disordered act against nature and is a perversion of the intention of sex. Therefore, this should only be an incel thing (i.e. if God does not care if women are rejecting me then I don't care if I fap and blame it on women for rejecting me on principle, as is the incel mindset), not a normie thing.
 

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If you Don't masturbate, your woman MAY think you are cheating on her (cause you're gettin it elsewhere) assuming you only fvck 2-3 times a week. There are other nuances of masturbating that may prove beneficial to you as far as procreation. You imagine fvcking a business associate you're in the same hotel with for an expo or show or conference whatever, so the day before you may masturbate before you plan to actually get her under the influence to fvck her (of course, she has a boyfriend/husband). Not masturbating will cause your testes to created more blocking sperm and less egg-getting sperm or killers. 300 million sperm is the average, but when you forgo mb then you could wet dream or create double the average which the males body gets confused by and thereby doesn't create the ideal "load" or sperm makeup to give the best chance to fertilizing the egg.

Personally, I experience the same as you all who forgo. I feel more normal or able to interact with women, I can read them better and give them how I feel or what I'm thinking by body language or voice inflection. I've done this last week with a girl (in a profession that is conducive to being loose - think apartment assistant manager - showing apartments - usually quite promiscuous) in the office (lights off thus dark) and her telling me she's only had 2 people walk in that day and that she was bored and making all these subliminal suggestions to me, but ONE I had to go, and TWO she is a slvtty tattooed no-t!t kinda waif. She's DEFINITELY rode the CC. Too bad for her (probably late 20s early 30s), she'd have to rape me to get me to fvck her. I'm not taking any bait. This was on Friday so she probably didn't have anything going on that evening and just want SOME kind of action. She was telling me about her company and how the owners were coming by next week (this week) to check up on things and she was worried or nervous about it. I dug deeper to find out more about properties they own and then I told her that I understood Why she should be/may be "nervous" now. I said it makes sense that she'd be uneasy about it as most of their properties are in good areas (cities or towns across the country).

She was probably Angry that I didn't take her bait, that I just only briefly struck a wavelength with her to where I started to change my voice slower and drawy as I'd picked up on her sexual overtones and her wanting me. I felt it. We were alone. She could be more direct. She could say anything she wants. And I can't deny that I somewhat popped a woody as I caught her drift. I mean, she's a salesperson so she knows how to turn on people for sure and she used that salesmanship on me, but for sex. She seemed scatterbrained or Craving or just you know, hands spread out across the desk neck down but looking up at me. I wasn't fallin for it. I'm not in to tattoos on both arms. I've been there, done that. As the economy gets worse, women begin to squirm more, especially those that've made mistakes flippantly during the good times just party party partying.
 

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I just look at it like this Mike Tyson and many other boxers abstain when in training camp for a fight. David Haye was talking about it he said it makes him more agressive, focused and sharper.

I think orgasming does make men more docile and placid and even lethargic.

So i say be brutally honest with yourself and do the maths, are you a bit lazy with low energy and lack drive, if so are you watching a lot of porn and jerking off daily?

If so then theres no harm in cutting it out and seeing if it makes a difference. Worst case scenario it makes no difference and you improved your self control a bit.
 

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For those that are advocates or have tried it, do you notice a legitimate confidence boost like many talk about? Or do you think it’s largely placebo?
Even if it were to be just placebo, you wouldn't be able to feel the difference.
I'm honestly busy enough to not need masturbation.
Like everyone said before me, confidence, agression, need to play sports, libido all go up.
I can even relate to what Poonani Maker said, you seem to have a more clear image of how women and people in general behave. You are focused. Your testosterone level is high. It's good.
 

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Interesting to see the stories in the comments here: https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/de...tense-shame-and-self-hatred-when-i-masturbate

I relate to many of their experiences. Basically, I feel like sh!t for 2 days after masturbating. By the end of the week without masturbation I feel pretty fantastic and talk with women the best, At my best. In the comments, I relate to what some say about SEX with a woman lifts you up and makes you Feel high and better, whereas masturbation drains you and alters your voice and dims your eyes, sags your mouth and face.

I'm trying my damnedest to hookup tomorrow (was trying tonight after work but no dice) because I do not want to masturbate, at ALL costs, even going with a fatty or women my age and not even my type. Times, for me at least, are tragic. These are terrible times for good pvssy. I can get with undesirable women right now, but the hot ones seem to be all taken. There's just too much "good times" going on. I need to get in a church or something. I've been out of it for years or just off and on at different ones. Times are flush for women right now, thus all I get are the lowest especially in these winter months.
 

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Interesting to see the stories in the comments here: https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/de...tense-shame-and-self-hatred-when-i-masturbate

I relate to many of their experiences. Basically, I feel like sh!t for 2 days after masturbating. By the end of the week without masturbation I feel pretty fantastic and talk with women the best, At my best. In the comments, I relate to what some say about SEX with a woman lifts you up and makes you Feel high and better, whereas masturbation drains you and alters your voice and dims your eyes, sags your mouth and face.

I'm trying my damnedest to hookup tomorrow (was trying tonight after work but no dice) because I do not want to masturbate, at ALL costs, even going with a fatty or women my age and not even my type. Times, for me at least, are tragic. These are terrible times for good pvssy. I can get with undesirable women right now, but the hot ones seem to be all taken. There's just too much "good times" going on. I need to get in a church or something. I've been out of it for years or just off and on at different ones. Times are flush for women right now, thus all I get are the lowest especially in these winter months.
That's not been my experience. I masturbate and 1-2 days later I'm horny again and need to do it again.
If I don't masturbate I end up obsessing about sex all day.
 

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I think no-fap is best used when you break up with a chick...
if you are on the 90day no-contact challenge, dont fap.
she dont deserve yur fap
dont fap to what just hurt you

fap is positive, if you are having dates, sex, and multiple women interested in you
fap is negative if you havent had a date or sex in MONTHS
 
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