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I'm not picky, I know what I want, there is a difference. I have no interest in having sex with a girl I'm not attracted to.
Fair enough. I was just saying to the guys if you have a drought with no end in sight sometimes you have to take what you can get easier.
 

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Day 12

I approached a girl at school this morning, got the number and text her, so far she replies it's going ok. She is a solid 8.5.

Tomorrow I'm suppose to have a date during the day, almost sure she's gonna flake. In the evening I am meeting with friends, a girl I had sekc with 3 years ago (when I came as a tourist) will be there. we'll see. If she's still hot, it might happen.

I will write more tomorrow, going to bed.
 

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Day 13

I had date this afternoon, it was a total disaster. We went for a walk, the weather was nice. The girl was really hot (Asian Russian, super tight), I dressed up sharp and she noticed, it's a good thing I did because she dressed up, almost overdressed but she told me she had a birthday party later on (YSL belt, Chanel scarf...) Physically she was my type but I didn't really like her personality, she was a bit pretentious and was not really fun to be with.

Anyway it was not a good date, I'm surprised it lasted that long, I should have left but I stayed and I dont know why, things got worse. She looked interested and at the same she looks like she was super bored. When we left each other, I tried to kiss her, I didn't have anything to lose at that point and I really didn't care. She rejected me big time, I smiled and I left. I don't think we are going to see each other, unless she texts me but its very unlikely. Later today I went to see some friends, there was a girl I had sekc with a few year ago, she was there, long time no see. She was still hot but I was so tired, that date sucked all my energy. I had a beer and left.

I learned a few things today
-no date during daytime (my preference)
-no more walk, during summer it's ok if it's a short walk but when it's too long and it's a bit cold outside I get tired and loose focus, frame...
-if I feel there is no connection, I have to leave, I don't have time to waste, even if she's hot.
-Style & grooming. I always dress nice, but today I made an extra effort (I had new clothes) and I got so many choosing signals.
-Girls are always late, always. It's annoying. I'm always on time. In the future I will insist that she arrives on time, being late its really disrespectful, if shes late I'm gonna leave.

I'm still a bit frustrated, why is it so difficult, No wonder why most guys become incels or mgtow. Im tall, good looking, nice style, interesting, I have game and Im not afraid to approach and still, it's super difficult to date girls and have sekc with them, imagine the average guy with no look and no game... I'm a bit discouraged to be honest. I get choosing signals all the times, like when I was at the bar with my friends, there was a girl on her own, we looked at each other all the time, then a guy joined her, maybe it was a date or a guy shes seeing, maybe her boyfriend i dont know, but even if she was with him she was constantly looking at me, strong eye contacts. They eventually left. I don't understand why so many hot girls date very beta average guys here it just blows my minds. Sometimes I think that knowing all this game stuff play against me, I just dont understand why it's so complicated. At first I looked at myself and I tried to find someting that I'm was doing wrong, but even I make mistakes, in terms of game, look and skill I'm wayyyy beyond the average. Looks like girls prefer to date an average Russian to a hot foreigner. I dont know what to think.

It was not like that back home, when I dated girls I used to close the same night or the second at max, here it's a different story. From going to point A (number close) to point B (f-close), it's like climbing the Everest. I'm gonna keep cold approaching and try to date, but I feel like I'm wasting my time, I get numbers easily but I have to trouble to convert them into dates. Maybe cold approach doesnt work anymore, I mean you have to approach tons of women in order to get a lay, I dont have that much time. I don't want to admit it, but Tinder worked fine so far, of course there is a lot of bulsh!t but looks like I get more success on Tinder.

That was day 13. So far so good.
 

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Day 14!

2 weeks already, I haven't felt any urges so far but I'm constantly ON. I need to fix some issues in my life, although I'm doing pretty good right now from an external standpoint, I'm not satisfied at all. University is extremely demanding, it's difficult to find time to work part time, it's one of the reason why I don't have a job right now, but the main reason why I don't have a part time job is because if afraid that I might find one, it will be very uncomfortable, it's really out of my comfort zone. Work in Russian. To fail or to look stupid would affect my self esteem and confidence.
I thought I could work in a bar or teach French in a private school. If I want my situation to change, I need to work and have some money. It means going out there and hustle: meet people, get rejected, fail and try again. It's gonna be really difficult, but I think I'm gonna step up my game if I just do what's needed. Plus it's a good way to build a social circle and meet women, especially as a bartender. I feel more and more confident since I started my streak, I have to do this. I have to conquer my fears, especially my social anxiety which is a never ending battle.

I go to the gym 3x a week, I gained 5-6 lbs, mostly muscles but I still have that little belly I want to get rid of, I'm skinny and athletic but I don't have a 6pack, I mean, we see some abs but there is room for improvement, gotta watch what I eat. I have so many things to do, I feel completely overwhelmed. One thing at the time. I got a high last week, now I'm a bit down, it's ok it's not gonna last. I have to keep doing my things. Gotta stay busy, keep approaching and do my best, keep working on myself and stay focused.

I guess a lot of guys here expected me to write a journal about my new super powers, it's not like that. NoFap is a slow process, it's a mental process. I wish I could write amazing stories like yesterday I fvcked two hot twins in a club bathroom or I got svcked by 2 instagram models during a photoshoot, but it's not like that unfortunately. The good thing about noFap is that it clears your mind from the junk, you have a better view, it's easier to find your way. It forces you to have self control and to stay out of your comfort zone. But it takes times. You guys must think mannn his journal is boring, it's not the purpose of this journal. It's self discipline to write this journal everyday, I don't really have time for that, but I do it because it helps me to go forward with noFap and it helps me to understand what happened during the day.

that was day 14, 2 weeks done.

sorry for all the mistakes and typos.
 

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Day 15

I think I setup a date on Friday night with one of the girl I met at school. Man, I'm hornyyyy, but I'm in control I'm surprised. I sqw a girl at school today, we glanced at each other, I thought my pants would burst, she was hot. That university is paradise, it's a endless stream of hot young hot chicks. There is only a few guy is the university, most of them are hardcore betas/incels. the girls are so fvcking hot.
I get really strong choosing signals everyday.

Improvements:
-Strong eye contact, girls can't hold it for too long.
-Swagger x 10, body language, the way I carry myself..
-Less brain fog
-I'm gaining weight (gym), getting in shape
-Less AA
-Sharp approaches
-Better sleep
-Girls send choosing signals, strong IOIs non stop.
-Style on point, it has nothing to do with noFap but still, thank to @Hank Mood, like he always says, style matters. It help a lot. I've always dressed well, but bought some nice boots, shirts.. Girls love it.

things to work on
-I'm still nervous and I don't know why (sweating, shaking) but it has improved
-I feel tired during the day
-need to have a better diet (don't have enough time to eat well)
-I still bite my nails a bit
-I wish I had more time, too many homework.

Day 15 done.
 

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I've been studying into supercells and how they have an updraft - where it sucks up air into the clouds, where wall clouds, funnel clouds and tornadoes can form, and a downdraft where all the wind and rain just come gushing down with speed.

I feel I just had a mental storm of the same function. A lady from the past emailed me. I made sure that I would not fap or watch any porn. This was for a while, but now even doubly sure because now I felt that some woman was taking me on or something and I have a policy not to fap or watch porn if there is any real women in my life. It was hard, I felt so horny. Then when I didn't see any reply to her email and figured she probably rejected me or something then I've never seen such a gush of fapping and binge watching escort pics like that in a while. It reminded me of these supercell thunderstorms. Wind going up and wind going down. Updraft abstaining from fapping and escort pics, fapping at escort pics like a downdraft because of unstable conditions. Now that I've achieved a new state of equilibrium I don't think I'll be fapping again because the storm is gone. Now I really don't care if there is a reply to any email or not. What a storm though.
 

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I've been studying into supercells and how they have an updraft - where it sucks up air into the clouds, where wall clouds, funnel clouds and tornadoes can form, and a downdraft where all the wind and rain just come gushing down with speed.

I feel I just had a mental storm of the same function. A lady from the past emailed me. I made sure that I would not fap or watch any porn. This was for a while, but now even doubly sure because now I felt that some woman was taking me on or something and I have a policy not to fap or watch porn if there is any real women in my life. It was hard, I felt so horny. Then when I didn't see any reply to her email and figured she probably rejected me or something then I've never seen such a gush of fapping and binge watching escort pics like that in a while. It reminded me of these supercell thunderstorms. Wind going up and wind going down. Updraft abstaining from fapping and escort pics, fapping at escort pics like a downdraft because of unstable conditions. Now that I've achieved a new state of equilibrium I don't think I'll be fapping again because the storm is gone. Now I really don't care if there is a reply to any email or not. What a storm though.
Yes I can relate. When I relapse it's usually because something happened with a girl (she ghosted me, she disrespected me, she flaked...), i know that feeling very well. You feel like sh*t, so you fap, and then you feel like sh*t because you fapped, so you fap again and you feel like sh*t again. The next day you feel better.
 

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Day 17

I have a date tomorrow with one of the two girls I met at school last week, she is really hot. One guy I know opened a bar recently, I'm gonna go there on Saturday, hope there will be hot chicks. I feel confident my vibe is good. I cant remember the last time I went out of my own. There is a girl I've seen a few times at the university, we always glance at each other. I saw her in my dorm today, it means she lives there. Next time I see her I'm gonna go talk to her. She's a solid 8.5, I think she's down with me.
 

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Day 18 (yesterday)

I went on a date with the girl I met at school. I knew she was really hot (that's why I've approached her), but when she showed up yesterday, my heart skipped a beat. I think she was the most beautiful girl I've ever dated. She was a solid 10.
The date went well, she is going to be 20yo in two weeks, she didn't mind at all about the fact that I'm in my mid thirties. She asked a lot of difficult questions, she was interested to know more about me but the questions she asked were not easy to answer, question about my past relationships, about girls in Russia, about the fact that I approached cold approach style, the difference between dating in north america vs russia, what I like and don't like. It was not an interview, it was very smooth but she knew exactly where she was going with that. I answered the questions the best I could, I tried no to give her to much information about me but the conversation was flowing. She too gave told me a lot about her. She looked like a girl that has no time to waste, she did looked at her phone, she arrived on time and she said thank you for the drinks and the evening. After the in the metro she told me that she really appreciate the evening and that she was glad that we had met. I tried to kiss (not agressively) her but it ended up with 2 kisses on the cheek, she didn't rejected me I think, but she just was not ready yet (no kiss on the first date is very common in Russia, actually kissing on the first date is unusual)
The way we left each other was a bit awkward, maybe it's it my head.

To be honest, I want her. She told me that she was not looking for anything in particular but that when I approached she got curious and wanted to meet me, the approach was difficult, she is not an easy girl. In her words she said that she is not interested in dating a cool guy for fun, if she dates a guy it's because she wants a relationship with him. And I think I would stop dating other girls to have a relationship with her, it's not a oneitis but I really liked her and physically she is my type 100%, when she got up to go to the WC I couldn't believe it, omg she was tight.. I'm used to be very hot girls but she was another level. Long Red hair, green eyes, 175cm, skinny, nice style, perfect face and very intelligent. She could model, I'm surprised that she doesn't. The date lasted 4.5 hours. She enjoyed being with me, a bit of kino, touching hands, arms..

Now I'm anxious I don't want to **** up. I woke up a bit depressed, I really wanted to fap. I'm not sure if I passed the test yesterday, I think so but I'm not 100% sure, but she passed the test. When we left the bar, she looked at her cellphone for the 1st time, she had 2589598249857 notifications. I'm sure she has options. She is working tonight (she work as a hostess in a restaurant), I will text her on Sunday evening or on Monday.

This is her, she is way better in person. Like I said, when I saw in the metro I couldn't breathe. Wish me good luck.

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Tonight I'm going out alone.
 
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Long Red hair, green eyes, 175cm, skinny, nice style, perfect face and very intelligent.
Red hair is a weakness of mine. I think you're overselling her a bit, not that she isn't attractive, but there are a lot of attractive 19 year olds. I don't like the frame of thinking a girl is a 10 (I don't believe in 10s anyway). Also didn't like the frame of saying "she didn't mind that I was in my mid thirties". She should be flattered to have the interest of a sophisticated older man, and be worried if you mind that she is 19.

Anyway, just sharing some thoughts, not that I think you need them, sounds like you're doing great. You keep doing you.
 

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Red hair is a weakness of mine. I think you're overselling her a bit, not that she isn't attractive, but there are a lot of attractive 19 year olds. I don't like the frame of thinking a girl is a 10 (I don't believe in 10s anyway). Also didn't like the frame of saying "she didn't mind that I was in my mid thirties". She should be flattered to have the interest of a sophisticated older man, and be worried if you mind that she is 19.

Anyway, just sharing some thoughts, not that I think you need them, sounds like you're doing great. You keep doing you.
Hey Zekko thanks for reading! Yes I was a bit excited this morning, she is not a 10 but a solid 9 (for my tastes of course), on the picture she's hot but in reality she's is just wow. But we all have different tastes, all good!
You're absolutely right, I must admit that I am a bit insecure about my age, it should be the opposite like you said, thanks for the reminder.

Great thoughts, keep sharing them,
 

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Day 19

I went out on my own tonight. Like I said, I know a guy who has opened a bar recently, I went there to support him and to see the place. When I arrived, there was 2-3 customers, it's a small speakeasy type bar, I was of course the only foreigner, I was really uncomfortable. I started to sweat and feel anxious, I went to the WC and outside to relax/calm down. when I came back I slowly got better. I had a discussion with the woman next to me and the bartender, it was cool, I felt more comfortable. There is still a lot of work to fix my anxiety.

A bit later, 4 girls came in, 4 hots girls in their late 20s early 30s, not really my type but still hot. Immediately one of them went to the bar, she stood next to me and order and started to talk to me, we chatted for 20mins, she was into me. She asked if she could write me on instagram I said that it's better on whatsapp and she gave me her number, and we kinda made plan to see each other next week. She is 31, she is hot but she can't compete with the 19-20-21yo girls I'm usually dating, if she texts me mayyyybe I'll meet her but to be honest I don't really care I have better options.

I get so many choosing signals I can approach any girl I want. I have a really good vibe and my swag is on point, girls can feel it. When I was at the bar yesterday with the young redhair beauty, it was true DHV. I've never received so many IOI and choosing signals, sometimes it's really intense, it's like COME TALK TO ME, NOW! I'm not joking.

I strongly encourage you guys to go on a noFap streak. Now I have the abundance mindset. It's only the beginning..
 

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Very nasty relapse. Looked at escort pics again AFTER talking about escorts and escort pics on other threads on this same board. The problem is even TALKING about this is too triggering. I tried to stop THREE TIMES, and was slammed the FOURTH time. Was looking at Black escorts because a Black girl that was 18 years old rejected me in 2008 or something like that and I figured its not a big deal because I can always get a Black escort around the same age when I get older. I looked at 19 year old Black escorts, especially ads that called potential older clients "daddy" and just fapped.

Arrghhh!!! That's it, I can't take it, no more discussions on here about escorts. It keeps making me relapse badly.

This is Easter for crying out loud. Supposed to be repenting and stopping this nonsense. Not good.
 

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Very nasty relapse. Looked at escort pics again AFTER talking about escorts and escort pics on other threads on this same board. The problem is even TALKING about this is too triggering. I tried to stop THREE TIMES, and was slammed the FOURTH time. Was looking at Black escorts because a Black girl that was 18 years old rejected me in 2008 or something like that and I figured its not a big deal because I can always get a Black escort around the same age when I get older. I looked at 19 year old Black escorts, especially ads that called potential older clients "daddy" and just fapped.

Arrghhh!!! That's it, I can't take it, no more discussions on here about escorts. It keeps making me relapse badly.

This is Easter for crying out loud. Supposed to be repenting and stopping this nonsense. Not good.
Yeah browsing escort websites is not a good idea. The thing with noFap is that you have to stay away from triggers all the time. But as your noFap streak goes on, just going to the mall is a trigger.
 

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Day 20

Today was interesting. I went to the mall, in the metro I saw a really hot girl, I was not in the mood to approach but I told myself that I had too, I didn't approach when I realized she was with a friend. I find very difficult to cold approach a girl when she is with a friend. At the mall,
I felt nervous, a kind of performance anxiety, lot of super hot chicks. Finally I decide to approach a girl, it took me time, I hesitated for at least 15mins, surprisingly when I approached her it was not bad, the girl didn't rejected me, she smiled and everything but she finally told me that she was married, I hadn't seen the ring. It was ok, not awkward, I think she appreciated the approach, if she had been single she would have given me her number I'm 100% sure.

The approach got me in the mood, I approached another girl, this time it worked. the approach was tight, we chatted for 10-15mins, she asked questions, I knew she was turned on by my confidence, look, body language and vibe, I was "not" nervous, not sweating and no shaking hands. I told her that I'd like to date her, she agreed to give me her phone number, we kept chatting for 1-2 minutes then I said I had to go and left. I might see her next week on Sunday. We'll see, she **** tested me by asking if I approached girls this way all the time, I said that yes it happened sometimes, nothing more, she kept talking with me like nothing had happened. She told me that she usually dont meet with random guys like that.

Tips
-don't wait to approach, the 3 second rule is good, not always possible but the longer you wait the more anxious you will be when you you will approach, I have enough experience I can't wait for a few minutes to approach but it's better to approach immediatly.

-Style: dress sharp+grooming it's really important, it makes a big difference.

-Try to approach when there is less people around her or when people are moving, less social pressure on both of you.

-Body language++

-Let the girl know your intentions, dont take the number and leave, make her understand you want to date her, try as much as possible to stay a few minutes with her, it's not always possible I know but she will remember you better if you do. I can tell you that if I text her in a week she will remember me (of course I'm a foreigner it helps but you get the point)

-Girls dont get approached, and if they do get approached it's usually by super beta males who take the only bit of courage they have and will be destroyed by the rejection, not a pleasant experience for the girl, it's usually really awkward. But if you do it well, it's on.

-Don't fap, just don't. 3 weeks tomorrow, I have the abundance mindset, although I really want to see the Friday girl again (redhair), I know that if I don't I can meet another one anytime i want. Look at the one I met today.

-If you get rejected, don't take it personally, try to understand what happened, learn from your mistake and move on. Be proud that you have approached, 99% of guys sh!t in their pants and would NEVER approach. You got balls and you did the approach, be proud that you acted like a man

-Once you start getting numbers easily, you don't see dating app as a good alternative. You don't feel the need to use them anymore. If your approach is tight there are good chances that you are going to date the girl, less BS. She knows you now, you not a Tinder guy, you're the hot guy who approached her like a man. She knows you, you have already met.

There is still room for improvements, I still have AA but it's manageable. So far it's going well.

that was day 20
 
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Yeah browsing escort websites is not a good idea. The thing with noFap is that you have to stay away from triggers all the time. But as your noFap streak goes on, just going to the mall is a trigger.
Sometimes I just find myself there if I'm feeling stressed out, having a bad day, or feel mentally overwhelmed. Since you can just access it anywhere, smartphone, tablet, all you do is go on incognito and bingo. However, the biggest triggers are indirect things that LEAD to wanting to go there. Like I've said, those triggers include 1) UFO documentaries especially where abductions are involved or hybrid experimentations where the human genome is spliced together with alien genes to create a hybrid between two races, 2) talking about escorts on this board. It's like these things create a mental vortex that I find myself having a very strong desire to look at these images.

The question I don't get is why would UFO documentaries be triggering that way? What do UFOs have to do with porn? There is no relationship at all right?
 

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Day 21

3 weeks already! today was boring but I approached a girl on my way home from the gym. The approach was tight but I was dressed like a bum (sweat pants, large sweatshirt, dirty vans shoes), she said that she was not interested, but I didn't left immediately. She told me she was Muslim (probably Chechen or Dagestan..), then she asked where I was from, she got a bit interested. I said it's not important where I'm from since you don't want to meet and I left with a smile. She was hot, but Muslim. I wouldn't date a Muslim here, a good plan to get your ass kicked by his brother who's into MMA. I did the approach though.
 

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Fair enough. I was just saying to the guys if you have a drought with no end in sight sometimes you have to take what you can get easier.
I'd rather fap to something good than stick it into something I'm disgusted by. :rolleyes: Of course, I have no problem sticking it into something nice at a decent price when I EscortMax. :cool:
 
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