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Day 7 in ending, a week already.

Feeling good today, last night was horrible I couldn't fall asleep I was really anxious. I had my hair cut today, I noticed strong choosing signals in the metro (the importance of look and grooming). I deleted Tinder and Bumble, I'm not wasting my time on swiping. It's funny because as soon as I deleted Tinder/Bumble I started to feel better.

I'm working on a girl, we are suppose to meet on sat, we had a match 3 weeks ago but it was going nowhere, but now we text each other and she is more invested, we'll see. She is busy because she is starting a language school, and I'm busy at the university. If I meet her on saturday, cool, if not, all good. She's hot though.

I really need to go buy some clothes spring is coming I want to look sharp and sexy, I've been hitting the gym for 3 month and I see results, I gained weight (6,2, 195 lbs). There is a girl from my dorm who workout at my gym, I tried to have small talk with her once or twice, she barely replied, looked like she was not interested. She was a the gym today, we saw each other and i think she was expecting me to go talk to her or say hi, I kept doing my things and didnt say anything, maybe it's in my head, but saw her looking at me a couple of time, before she would ignore me. Plus, there is a girl in my class, it's just a matter of time. we get closer and closer. I think it's gonna happen soon. No rush. And there is this girl I'm dating (the friday girl), it's still on I think.

I feel better today, less brain fog. My masculine frame is coming back, it wasn't gone, but it was a bit weak for a week or two. I hope I will have enough time to go shopping this week, I feel for approaching. I noticed I get more choosing signals when I'm shaved and short hair hair (I look more like a "bad boy", more stylish. and younger), instead of when I grow a beard (lazyness) and longer hair.

So that's it for day 7
 

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The journal approach is interesting, I'm going to follow. Seems very honest, as opposed to something like "Day 9, and I've been changed like Steve Rodgers transformed into Captain America".
 

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Day 6

It was difficult today, I drank a few beers last night, I was a bit depressed today and wanted to fap but I resisted, I'm proud of this. Not my best day, tomorrow will be better.
Getting drunk is better than fapping.
 

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Hey guys what's up

I do noFap streaks on a regular basis, my longest streak is 55 days.
It has helped me a lot, but to see a difference, you have to be patient. No, It doesn't give superpowers, but it can help you to become a better man.
NoFap "monk style" includes: no porn, no instagram chicks or any kind of sub-porn, Tinder is a sub-porn... No edging, it's really important.
NoFap is not only physical, it's psychological. I have nothing against fapping, I can fap 5-6 times a day easy. It's just that I prefer the person I am when I don't fap.

This is what I've noticed from my personal experience, usually you start noticing a difference after 6-7 days. After the flatline, you see a real difference.

-increased energy
-better mood, less depressed
-deeper voice
-less social anxiety
-positive mind
-better body language
-better overall look
-better game/less neediness
-girls are more attracted, they can feel it
-more testosterone
-increase in strength and muscles
-better eye contact
-increased focus/discipline
-less approach anxiety, razor sharp approaches

I'm starting a new streak, day 1 is almost over. I got lazy since I installed Tinder a month ago. I saw a girl I was really attracted to at school today, I didn't approach, I freezed and I regretted it. Later, I approached a girl I find really hot that I had seen before, she was with 3 friends, I did the approach but it was weak. I had a bad day today, my mood was ****ty.

I will use this thread as a journal (thoughts, approaches, dates...). Guys who don't believe in noFap, please keep my thread clean. For others, don't be shy to comment or ask questions. Let's see if I can reach 60 days. If I get laid, it's not a reset since it's not a semen retention challenge.

Today's thoughts
-I feel old
-I have no time
-I doubt I will reach my goals
-I will never fvck my dream girls, the girls I really want.


Day 1
So are you going to create a plan consisting of actionable items so that you my make those thoughts for today turn into a better reality? I noticed that all four where "feelings", at least how you feel in this moment.
 

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People do all the time. An "addiction" doesn't gave to be tied to a vice or a negative action. It can tie to something good for you. Like addicted to bettering yourself.
Addiction by definition is a disorder in which a behaviour is repeated over and over again despite causing harm to the person engaging in the behaviour or others around that person.

If bettering yourself in one area negatively impacts other aspects of your life, it could be technically classified as an addiction. Otherwise, it’s just a good habit you developed.

When I first started regularly exercising almost 10 years ago, it became an addiction for me. I went through a little bodybuilding phase where I spent too much $$$ on supplements I couldn’t afford, and I also sacrificed relationships and a social life, missing important events so I could make sure I didn’t miss a workout. Yes, my physical health was optimal, but I caused harm elsewhere.

Today my relationship with exercise is different. I still workout to some degree almost everyday, but I don’t waste money on supplements and I can miss or reschedule a workout session if I need to prioritize something else at that moment.

It’s still a repeated behaviour but it’s transformed from an addiction into a good habit.
 

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Addiction by definition is a disorder in which a behaviour is repeated over and over again despite causing harm to the person engaging in the behaviour or others around that person.

If bettering yourself in one area negatively impacts other aspects of your life, it could be technically classified as an addiction. Otherwise, it’s just a good habit you developed.

When I first started regularly exercising almost 10 years ago, it became an addiction for me. I went through a little bodybuilding phase where I spent too much $$$ on supplements I couldn’t afford, and I also sacrificed relationships and a social life, missing important events so I could make sure I didn’t miss a workout. Yes, my physical health was optimal, but I caused harm elsewhere.

Today my relationship with exercise is different. I still workout to some degree almost everyday, but I don’t waste money on supplements and I can miss or reschedule a workout session if I need to prioritize something else at that moment.

It’s still a repeated behaviour but it’s transformed from an addiction into a good habit.
Yes. That addictive force is tied to your level of passion and obsession. It can be harnessed for good habits.
 

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So are you going to create a plan consisting of actionable items so that you my make those thoughts for today turn into a better reality? I noticed that all four where "feelings", at least how you feel in this moment.
I'm not sure to understand, can you explain?
 

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Day 8

Nothing interesting happened today. I felt really tired in the afternoon I don't know why. One of the benefits of NoFap (for me) is that it "fixes/controls" my social anxiety. My body over reacts to stress in social situations, when I feel uncomfortable I sweat (forehead, back, chest, neck) and it shows, and my hands shake too. I hate that. Because sometimes the situation is not stressful at all, I don't feel anxious, but my body does. For example, I ask a girl to enter his number in my phone, my hand shakes and she notices it, not good. I'm on a date and I'm sweaty, not good. I noticed that after a month of noFap I was not sweating and shaking anymore it was under control. Today I felt a bit nervous and I started to sweat a bit and I didn't like it. i hope it's gonna disappear.

One thing I don't like about noFap is that after a few days, you get a boner easily and your underwears are a mess at the end of the day. You're not that horny but your body sends you the message that it's time to evacuate. At the same time it's cool because you feel the testosterone increases. you're doing good!

I wish it was easier with girls, I consider myself really lucky in terms of relationship/dating but it's still a struggle, for me and for many of us. I must admit that I often feel frustrated (no I'm not an AFC), I don't like how things changed in the last few years, men and women interactions are not the same anymore. It's not going to improve. I wonder what it's going to be in 10 years, 20 years, 50 years..? I'm a bit worried to be honest. The best think a man can do his work on himself and stay focused on his purpose. But it's difficult, girls are a distraction. I see a lot of guys on this forum, they are like: "i dont care about girls, Im high value, they dont affect me bla bla". Lets be real, it's really hard to ignore girls, we all have that common weakness: pvssy. What I like about noFap is the fact that for a period of time, you are above that, you feel that you are in control. Everyday is like a little victory. Fapping for me is like double texting, seeking for validation, being needy.. it's being controlled by your sexual pulsions. When you resist, it's like nexting a girl that has no interests, it's having an abundance mindset, it's focusing on yourself, it's discipline. I feel so proud when I have an urge to fap, and I resist. It's a good feeling.

Today was a little victory.
 

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American guys go NoFap in order to improve their situation with women. Mikedee is doing NoFap to achieve Zen because he's surrounded by so much pvssy. You guys can't imagine how easy it is for this guy to get laid.
 

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American guys go NoFap in order to improve their situation with women. Mikedee is doing NoFap to achieve Zen because he's surrounded by so much pvssy. You guys can't imagine how easy it is for this guy to get laid.
Ehh, not 100% true.
I have no problem meeting hot girls (9-10s), I mean if a see a Victoria Secret model on the street, I will go talk to her, no problem with that. Not intimidated by hot girls. Yes I will have AA, but I will go talk to her and I might get her number.
But getting laid is a different story (I have a logistic problem+ more money would help). If I hadn't that logistic problem, I would get laid on a regular basis.

I do noFap to improve my situation with girls, and to be in control of my state, I like to feel like a man, not a guy who spend all day fapping in front of screen. You know when you fap 3-4 times in a row, you're not gonna conquer the world...

Today was a good day and I'm gonna explain you why, things start to change, I will write later tonight about it.
 
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Day 9

I approached a girl at the university today. When I saw her with her long blond hair, her tight black skirt and black boots I had no choise but to go talk to her. She was alone, I took my shot. She was looking for her class, I said hi and we began to talk. We chatted for 3-4 minutes, I was a bit sweaty but it didn't show, my hands were shaking but found her way to hide it. She gave me her phone and entered it herself in my phone, I told her I had to leave and left, she had to go to her class too. She sent choosing signals, played with her hair, asked questions .. I was a bit all over the place but I did well. I looked badass today. When I entered class, my classmates (mostly girls) looked at me like oh shot and said "bad boyyy". I think it was a solid # close. Here is the girl, sorry for the picture, it's her instagram avatar. She is my type, young, tall, long hair, skinny. She must be 20-21-22. The approach was all in Russian (my third language), I think she got wet, because even if I made mistakes, I was tight. It's just the beginning... more girls to come.

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It felt good man, my vibe is coming back slowly. I was nervous but I didn't think twice, there was an opportunity, I wanted to meet that girl and thats it. I don't know if it's gonna work with her, but now I know that I can approach almost any girls and it's gonna be fine, confidence has increased. I don't know what you think of her, it doesn't really matter but for me she is a 9. I must be honest with you. I'm physically gifted, I'm tall, fit, and everything.. I'm often referred as the tall dark handsome guy. I'm not a male model but I have no problem to attract really hot girls. Dont want to brag, just want to explain that it's not noFap that gets me girls like that (noFap is good though), my look helps a lot. But I get rejected often, really often. Look only is not enough, game is important. I see some guys at school, they are surround with girls like that, and they dont brush their teeth or make an effort to look good (grooming, clothes). It blow my minds. Girls send me choosing signals all the time, it's a joke. the problem is that they are always in group, 2-3-4+. really difficult to approach (social pressure from peers), when they are alone it's a lot easier.

At the same time, I feel a bit insecure, the girl I was dating didn't answer my text yesterday, first time in a month. I know she is leaving on vacation on saturday morning + she's really busy at work, but I have the feeling that her attraction is fading away, she is gonna ghost me. Maybe not, maybe it's in my head but she usually is the one chasing and now she is more distant. I'm not gonna text her, if she texts cool, if not, next. Now I know I can meet hot girls like the one I met today. It's strange because I have an abundance mindset but at the same time I'm a bit insecure. It's going to adjust by itself as the NoFap goes on.

I feel better, definitely. I feel for approaching girl, I feel attractive. I can't wait to go buy new clothes, and see and approach hot girls at the mall this weekend. Spring is coming, snow is melting, there wont be covid here this summer. i think it's gonna be a cool summer. Plus, Im focused on my projects. There is nothing more I can do except to keep doing what I do right now. The only thing that kills my fun is the feeling that I'm getting older, I'm in my mid-thirties, when shaved and groomed I look like 26-27, some girls tell me I look like 24. Nice, but the reality is that I'm getting older and I'm not where I want to be. I have a logistic problem taht complicates things with the girls I date (no place to have sex), that's a real problem and for now there is no way to fix it really. It svcks big time. I have to find a way.

Wish my good luck, still some things to fix but overall, I'm going the right way.

That was day 9
 

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I happened on this video, which is related to this topic. I thought it was interesting because it has a somewhat different approach. This guy states that giving in to fapping is essentially giving in to the feminine voice. I'm not sure I fully agree with that, but there's a good point in there somewhere. He also makes some Biblical references, which you don't see a lot of in manosphere videos. So, if anyone finds it useful, great.

 

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The irony isn't lost on me that this nofap thing is literally the opposite approach to mine. I try and
avoid getting physical with women. Steaming towards a 2 year streak now!!
I'm aroused by the female form but I am also a walking intimacy/interpersonal car crash so prefer to
fap any urges away which might make me act out of character and do something regrettable.
 
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