I agree with this assessment. I also see plenty of attractive women with average looking dudes....its not hard to get a girlfriend if you come off genuinely interested in her as a person.JdelaSilviera said:DonGorgon, please leave your room.... there are plenty, of nice, available, down to earth women out there, that just want a guy that makes them laugh and make them feel good.
Your view is totally unrealistic, and only represents a small percentage of women!
This is why they only stick to guys in their social circle. If a guy tries to "hit it and quit it," he will get blackballed, just like what happened to the guy posting earlier. In women's eyes, social circles are a way to keep out potential "sleaze-bags"
A lot of you guys (TIC, DonGordon, Sattellite) need to just focus on getting and keeping one girl around for a few months before worrying about sh*t like "oneitis" or "spinning plates"
Being a master at cold approaching is akin to being a successful day trader. It requires a substantial amount of time and energy to just become competent. Most guys still fail to meet their goal despite approaching 1000s of women. The best PUAs have spent their entire lives perfecting their craft and still can only boast a 10-15% max success rate.
I've done my fair share of cold approaches and half the battle is just finding good opportunities.....attractive in-shape single women aren't teeming everywhere(unless you live in South Beach or Sunset Blvd), so a lot of time for me was spent looking for a girl to approach that wasn't engaged or married. Then when I did find them, assuming they were interested, it was always implied that I would not be able to get close to them unless I was willing to spend time "courting" and "dating" them.
At the end of the day, you have to ask yourself whether its worth all that trouble to dedicate your time to this when you could doing something more enjoyable to you. You can always approach if you run into someone while grocery shopping/running errands or maybe designate one night out of the week to go out to the club and just run game for sh*ts and giggles. The rest of time you should focus on improving yourself through education, career, gym, and making friends. Keep this sh*t on the backburner and don't let it consume all your energy.
You will be far more grounded and be able to mentally withstand the wild up and down swings inherent in cold approaching.
Just because I don't care to be an amazing casanova like you guys does not make me any lesser of a man or a p*ssy. I'm perfectly content having one cool chick to kick it with on the weekends. Some of us have actual lives to tend to, we're not all broke college kids with all the time in the world to burn. Live and let live.
Giving up is not the answer.....but neither is trying to impress random guys on the internet with your "Diary of 1000 Approaches".