This is coming from someone in a very happy marriage whose wife treats him like a king.Reyaj said:Problem is I want to have the marriage to come home to, but I am also attracted to having superficial sex with hot girls I see out everyday....
1 minute I feel 1 way, the next I feel the other. I know superficial sex won't enhance my life like starting a family would. I still crave it......
See how frustrated I am in?
Having the marriage to come home to is overrated. It sounds great. And again - I am very happy with what I come home to and how I'm treated. But if you're pining for that single guy's life, think it over.
Because you're not just coming home to a well-cooked meal and easy sex. It's not just a foot rub and a clean bathroom. Those are the good things if you have a good wife.
You're coming home to "how was your day?" every single day. And "can I talk to you about something" when it's 4th and 10 with :36 to play. And "don't forget to call" if you decide to go out with your buddies. And "is it all right if we visit my parents this weekend" when you just wanted to park your bottom on the couch, have a few cold ones, watch Goodfellas for the three thousandth time, and maybe indulge in a bad frozen pizza and a quiet jerk off.
I'm not trying to sound like one of those "marriage is hell" guys. It's not if you do it right. But these are the little things you will give up. Personally I think they're more important than the "big" sacrifices. Of course you're going to visit in-laws and drive kids to school and stuff if you're a good family man. And yeah the scary specter of the cost of divorce is a never-ending discussion around here. But day to day, the little sacrifices are what will add up for you and make you wonder. You'll walk down the street and see a bar filled with tail and think "I could probably get that." Sure a lot of it is fantasy but when you're single, you just waltz on in and talk to a lady. Nobody calls to check in on you and ask who you're with.
For me, these sacrifices are fine because my wife sexes me like a porn star and is happy to keep a clean house and serve a happy husband. We have a great time and our ships sail in the same direction. Very few disagreements and no fights. Sometimes I see the grass as greener, sometimes not. But I will admit I was also a very happy man when I was single and living alone. Some nights I'd smoke a J/have some beers and watch flicks and not care if a woman was around. Other nights I'd go out alone and hound for poon. That's the kind of stuff you say goodbye to in marriage, and like I said it means more than any divorce settlement in my opinion. So the woman you're marrying better be worth it. Just some food for thought.