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My life - Part 2: giving up dating/women, filling the void, getting older

mikedee

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What relationship was meaningful? Did you have a great short term relationship with someone that you remember their birthdate and had some standout memories? I dont get idiots on here who are obsessed about notch counts.

I had some nice times including a wedding.
I've had short term and long term relationships, fwb, ons...
 

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To be honest the only downside is the lack of privacy/intimacy (depending on the type of room).
I'm in Europe, the apartments are super expensive so most people live with roommates, pretty much the same thing as living in a dorm.
Living in a dorm is way cheaper, my dorm is clean, hot water heating electricity highspeed internet, no problem with the landlord, a pub downstairs, lot of young girls.. Next semester I will try to have a single room. I've lived alone for several years, I had my own flat. I just cant live with roommates (flat or dorm, same thing), I mean I can but I don't like it.
Having roommates in an apartment or townhouse is immensely better than a dorm. You get your own room, maybe a room with a bathroom, it looks nicer and it's overall better logistics. I guess I just can't live without privacy
 

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That is the short 5-6 guy fantasy who thinks that if yiu have the look you fck like a pornstar, lol. Doesnt work like that, It helps of course but it doesnt garanty anything.
And yes they do care, complicated logistic, show lower status, etc. The girls that live in the dorm dont care, but they are too young. The girls 25+ care. Trust me.
it does work like that. I can attest. Girls will make the effort. though I agree, looks alone aren’t a garuanty. need at least some game not to fvck it up. and girls will happily bang in a car or even in your room (even if you live with Mom). even older 25+ don’t care. but ultimately, everyone’s experience is different.
 

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it does work like that. I can attest. Girls will make the effort. though I agree, looks alone aren’t a garuanty. need at least some game not to fvck it up. and girls will happily bang in a car or even in your room (even if you live with Mom). even older 25+ don’t care. but ultimately, everyone’s experience is different.
He said short 5-6 normie guy not chadlite.
 

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I've dated a lot of 20-something (18-22) during the last 2-3 years

Thanks!
I’d bet almost every dollar I own that the low success rate is due to the fact you’re dating women who are basically children (not literally, but mentally and emotionally). Screw that, man - I know women go downhill at a point but I’ve had awesome success lately with older women, 27-35. I’m 32 myself, and I feel these women are actually that “women” (not all but most), whereas those 18-22 year olds are little babies emotionally and mentally. Total waste of time with them IMO.
 

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it seems younger women are adventurous and will want the experience of sleeping with an older man.
Disagree - that would probably be like 10-20% of girls out there. Why would you put your eggs in that basket with such low odds. Also aside physical intimacy, you get nothing in return. They’ll never take you as a serious option in their lives - unless you only want that which I understand many do.
 

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Mikedee, don’t take this post the wrong way but we are men and men don’t sugar coat. So I’ll tell you what I honestly think of your situation. In a way, you sound a bit like a male version of a past-the-wall woman complaining that there are no good men left. What I mean by that is that your expectations are somewhat detached from reality.

You may be above average in terms of physical appearance and look younger than your age but I’m guessing that the women you go after are also significantly above average. Those types of girls are not going to date a MUCH older man unless he has money and status. Why? Because they don’t have to. And by the sounds of it, you have neither money nor status. In fact, your money/status situation is significantly worse than average. Not many men your age go to college and live in a dorm.

Then there is the fact that you are a westerner living in Eastern Europe. Your situation confuses local women. They expect a westerner of your age to be well off (especially compared to them). They don’t expect a westerner in his mid-30’s to be a broke-ass college student. There is a fundamental incongruence between where they expect you to be and where you currently are. And this can be disorienting and off-putting.

You need to do whatever you can to get your act together before it’s too late. You are not going to be able to continue dating the caliber of women you are accustomed to unless your financial situation/status improve dramatically.
 

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Mikedee, don’t take this post the wrong way but we are men and men don’t sugar coat. So I’ll tell you what I honestly think of your situation. In a way, you sound a bit like a male version of a past-the-wall woman complaining that there are no good men left. What I mean by that is that your expectations are somewhat detached from reality.

You may be above average in terms of physical appearance and look younger than your age but I’m guessing that the women you go after are also significantly above average. Those types of girls are not going to date a MUCH older man unless he has money and status. Why? Because they don’t have to. And by the sounds of it, you have neither money nor status. In fact, your money/status situation is significantly worse than average. Not many men your age go to college and live in a dorm.

Then there is the fact that you are a westerner living in Eastern Europe. Your situation confuses local women. They expect a westerner of your age to be well off (especially compared to them). They don’t expect a westerner in his mid-30’s to be a broke-ass college student. There is a fundamental incongruence between where they expect you to be and where you currently are. And this can be disorienting and off-putting.

You need to do whatever you can to get your act together before it’s too late. You are not going to be able to continue dating the caliber of women you are accustomed to unless your financial situation/status improve dramatically.
Yeah, just go to the corner store and get a six figure income job. He is already in school trying to better himself and you advice is for him to better himself and get his act together.
 

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Disagree - that would probably be like 10-20% of girls out there. Why would you put your eggs in that basket with such low odds. Also aside physical intimacy, you get nothing in return. They’ll never take you as a serious option in their lives - unless you only want that which I understand many do.
Uh...this is a ****ing forum about picking up women where people push daygame cold approaches. Why would you put eggs in THAT basket? 10-20% seems like pretty high odds to me, actually. Also I said that from experience. Later tonight I am going to see a girl that just turned 21 a couple weeks ago.
 

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I've had playboy friends who banged college students until they were about 40 then it all went away almost overnight. At some point you're just too old for most 18-22 year olds to want to hook up with and let's be honest, no normal 35+ male would ever want to do anything with girls that age other than have sex because they are insufferable to be around most of the time. Meanwhile my female friends who are are in their 40s and 50s have much younger men throwing themselves at them constantly. Just a couple of the reasons that people who buy into this whole "wall" concept for women being a real thing are in for a huge disappointment. Its going to be hard for you to meet women your age when you live in a college dorm. I'd suggest completing your studies and then focus on finding someone once you've moved on to the real world. I can assure you there are plenty of hot thirty somethings out there.
Yes, but those “much younger men” are losers who can’t get laid so they would throw themselves at any two-legged creature with t!ts out of sheer desperation. If your female friends wanted a serious relationship, their choices would be very limited. The wall is real.
 

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Yeah, just go to the corner store and get a six figure income job. He is already in school trying to better himself and you advice is for him to better himself and get his act together.
One doesn’t get prizes for trying. He has to do the opposite of what you’re doing with your life.
 

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Uh...this is a ****ing forum about picking up women where people push daygame cold approaches. Why would you put eggs in THAT basket? 10-20% seems like pretty high odds to me, actually. Also I said that from experience. Later tonight I am going to see a girl that just turned 21 a couple weeks ago.
I guess not every guy wants to be the 30+ year old creep according her friends? But if that’s what you like, then sounds like you’re doing ok at it. I just don’t see 21 year olds as a high value woman, but that’s my personal opinion.
 

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One doesn’t get prizes for trying. He has to do the opposite of what you’re doing with your life.
That was harsh and mean spirited. This is what you have to say for someone who travelled overseas to enroll in a University to better their lives. Like you never got any unearned breaks or priviledges you hypocrite. Fine for you to lord it over others.
 

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That was harsh and mean spirited. This is what you have to say for someone who travelled overseas to enroll in a University to better their lives. Like you never got any unearned breaks or priviledges you hypocrite. Fine for you to lord it over others.
Why are you getting offended on OP’s behalf? I’m pretty sure he isn’t offended. Don’t you have your own problems to worry about (i.e. how to get your mom to pay for your onlyfans subscription)?
 

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Why are you getting offended on OP’s behalf? I’m pretty sure he isn’t offended. Don’t you have your own problems to worry about (i.e. how to get your mom to pay for your onlyfans subscription)?
Who said I was offended. I'm merely talking in fact. You disagree with something I've said then you are more than welcome to dispute it? By deflecting you are admitting you received unearned breaks and priviledges. If you look at it, you say a whole lot of nothing with just some cheap shots which means you have no solid contribution to this discussion.
 

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Who said I was offended. I'm merely talking in fact. You disagree with something I've said then you are more than welcome to dispute it? By deflecting you are admitting you received unearned breaks and priviledges. If you look at it, you say a whole lot of nothing with just some cheap shots which means you have no solid contribution to this discussion.
@Bokanovsky told the OP what he needed to hear, That's a solid contribution.
 

mikedee

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Mikedee, don’t take this post the wrong way but we are men and men don’t sugar coat. So I’ll tell you what I honestly think of your situation. In a way, you sound a bit like a male version of a past-the-wall woman complaining that there are no good men left. What I mean by that is that your expectations are somewhat detached from reality.

You may be above average in terms of physical appearance and look younger than your age but I’m guessing that the women you go after are also significantly above average. Those types of girls are not going to date a MUCH older man unless he has money and status. Why? Because they don’t have to. And by the sounds of it, you have neither money nor status. In fact, your money/status situation is significantly worse than average. Not many men your age go to college and live in a dorm.

Then there is the fact that you are a westerner living in Eastern Europe. Your situation confuses local women. They expect a westerner of your age to be well off (especially compared to them). They don’t expect a westerner in his mid-30’s to be a broke-ass college student. There is a fundamental incongruence between where they expect you to be and where you currently are. And this can be disorienting and off-putting.

You need to do whatever you can to get your act together before it’s too late. You are not going to be able to continue dating the caliber of women you are accustomed to unless your financial situation/status improve dramatically.
That's my situation, reality check. I'm not o
What that he needs more money? Will you send some to him so he can raise his SMV?
Bokanovsky is right, I don't think he said that to put me down, but to wake me up, reality check.
The good thing is, like you said I'm doing something to change to situation, I take my education seriously, not for women but for myself.
The bad thing is that I be pissed off for a while.
I accept my situation and I'm already in school enrolled in a program that might gave a great return in 3 years. That's a good start I think.

The funny thing is that a lot of 30something men would like to be in my shoes right now, I'm free as a bird, no children, very little debt, no responsibilities, look on point. But with women it could be better.
 
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