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My girlfriend thought meeting up with her ex was a good idea

Mister_Skinny_Jeanz

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What I'm trying to say is, it's fine to feel jealous in the moment, but are you going to carry that with you? Or remind yourself that you'll be fine, and if you have to dump her, well, she had her chance and now she doesn't get to enjoy the new you?
fvck no ima drop the bich like you and others have said , its very likely she is telling me upfront with her behavior who she is , there will likely be warning signs EVERYWHERE before you are cucked
9 times out of 10 my jealousy or insecurity is a message something is wrong.
im a man i dont like feelings of insecurity nor do i get off on it sexually (cuck) therefore if we are exclusive and you are doing things to make me feel insecure guess what? you're gone.
because you're showing me that behavior purposely to see if im going to go along with it, i wont.
if u dont have plates , dont cut her off completely if u still need puzzy, just see her once or twice a week and no kissing, no cuddling no BF sh!te. the plan is to eventually replace her period tho. she is not a forever plate.
 

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I think you did the right thing OP also I wouldn’t look at this as a completely red flag. She was open and honest with you but you do need to put the boots to this.

She shouldn’t be entertaining other men since your in a relationship. My rule has always been to cut of your life previously relationships and anyone she been intimate with.

My baby mommy tried this one time with me and I didn’t even flinch and told her to block some old high school friend she ONS 10 years ago. This was just her texting once a week to him. She put her foot down and was willing to fight over this so I decided to fight fire with fire.

I made plans to hang out with my EX for a weekend just me and her. Started talking to my ex and a bunch of other women that day. She got pissed and told me I couldn’t see my ex for the weekend. I threw it back up her in face we are just friends.

That guy and 4 others she blocked that I didn’t even know about but she showed me. Haven’t had an issue with it since.

Kind of feel bad for using an EX as a tool but James Bond would too.
 

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why would u want to talk to your ex?
Truthfully, there was some unresolved closure since our breakup. I think she was looking for forgiveness from me to her or to “start over”. I don’t want to derail a thread over it. Though I would really enjoy delving more into the female psyche.

Op you should really set some hard boundaries and really focus on self improvement because like others have for her to suggest this you must be slipping. Time to work out more, increase that education and make that money. Hope it works out for you man and if not so suave still be here.
 

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Man, Valheim is now in VR and you want to spend time with an Ex? You guys must have a lot of free time on your hands.
 

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fvck no ima drop the bich like you and others have said , its very likely she is telling me upfront with her behavior who she is , there will likely be warning signs EVERYWHERE before you are cucked
9 times out of 10 my jealousy or insecurity is a message something is wrong.
im a man i dont like feelings of insecurity nor do i get off on it sexually (cuck) therefore if we are exclusive and you are doing things to make me feel insecure guess what? you're gone.
because you're showing me that behavior purposely to see if im going to go along with it, i wont.
if u dont have plates , dont cut her off completely if u still need puzzy, just see her once or twice a week and no kissing, no cuddling no BF sh!te. the plan is to eventually replace her period tho. she is not a forever plate.
Brilliant.. Most people willing to settledown being less from fullfilling relationship.. Most idiots thinks isn't it lovely this person is being so open and honest with me, and surely he/she is trustworthy" but they're actually cautioning you about what lies ahead. If you stick around, they presume you've made a well-informed choice, they're off the hook for any emotional responsibility, and You're at fault for thinking this could work out!

Cant think of anything dumb than this. Most men were clowns anyway. They are not men.. (Cough) ..
 

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People usually tell you what you need to know about 'em, right up front. Maybe it's not in the words they say--but if you're paying close attention to their behaviors, there are warning signs you definitely shouldn't ignore.

Your girl straight up spit it on your face about getting ****s 100 miles away.

I said no more.. I shall retire this thread now.
Even though I didn't advise an immediate breakup, you are right about this one...there's something to be said for taking advantage of such a clear signal
 

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Right, she sounds a bit of a dopey cvnt. Is she? A lot of women are dopey cvnts and you have to take this into consideration. If she is a dopey cvnt then she did a dopey cvnt thing, but then listened to you when you told her it was a crossing the line dopey cvnt thing to do...

Who's idea was it to go exclusive?

At what point (from first hook up to...) did you go exclusive?

On a scale of 1-10 (ten being top) how would you rate her integrity? What would you base this on? granted it's still early to fully gather enough reference points here...

How would you rate her interest level (as a percentage 100% being insanely interested)? what actions of hers brings you to this conclusion?

How many times do you see her during the week? has her behavior been consistent?

What do you normally do together? level/frequency of intimacy?
I agree. It was a dopey cvnt move. It was her idea to go exclusive and that happened about two months after our first hookup.
I'm not sure at this stage I'd be able to rate her integrity level but if I'm going on what I know I'll say 6?
I think I'll say she is insanely interested as I'm about to move city due to taking a new job and she agreed to quit her job and move with me.
Also, I see her about 4 times or so a week and her behaviour has been pretty consistent.
 

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As you may see, I am new here so I'm ready for the full treatment.
I have been with my girlfriend for the past 6 months and things were going great.
Until I found out that there was this guy she had a one night stand with 2 years ago. They were still keeping in touch and she was planning to go and visit him (he lives a 100 miles away) after lockdown because she says they are friends.
I put my foot down and said that's highly suspicious behaviour and that I was not having it. She now says she is sorry and wants us to move on.
My question is, is this just straight up grounds to dump her or should I continue the relationship because she listened to me?
You put that b!tch on notice that if she does something that disrespectful again, don't bother contacting you again.
 
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