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Serial vs. Parallel...

Everyone has a preference. There are pro's and con's to both.

Determine which one you prefer and roll with it.
 

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Serial vs. Parallel...

Everyone has a preference. There are pro's and con's to both.

Determine which one you prefer and roll with it.
Can't decide. I do like a relationship. Something about the stability and homelyness I like about it.

I haven't long broke up with my ex (with her 7 years) and planned to use my new found freedom to have a bit of fun.


Short term: I wanted to have sex with different women. Most women (not all) tend to annoy me and are a distraction. So casual dating phase would be short term And about sex.

Long term: I wanted to find a women for a relationship.

Problem: I found the relationship women before I was ready to do the relationship thing. So I'm basically considering keeping her in the background while mess about with other women OR just say **** it and do the relationship thing.

I don't get oneits or anything. I'm pretty realistic about what I want from a relationship, and I'm in a good place. So whatever choice I make is going to be just fine.
 
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I do wonder where they find the time, lets say your dating 3 women. You have a full time job,hobbies and friends to hang out with. Where would you find the time to date these girls 1-2 times a week?

I would say 4+ women would be a full time job in itself.
 
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Yeah this makes a lot of sense and is basically where I'm at. The new women is getting quite attached to me and I like her back.

Although I do want to try some other women on for size. I've not indicated to her this and she's basically treating me as if I'm her her boyfriend.

So not in a relationship with her but it would feel like cheating. So mabye I'm struggling with the empathy part just as much as the logistics.

It's inevitable that I would have to lie , and put in effort to get the story straight/not mix up girls.

There are a few other potential girls. Although it's mainly just one other I'm interested in seeing and possibly having sex with.
Why would it feel like cheating? Why are you so desperate to be in a one on one relationship with a woman? This is validation and approval seeking behavior by you. This will turn women off faster than just about anything else.
 

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No. None of them I know are married other than two. In most RP "gathering places" the population is half my age, so not older men by my standard. Married men are automatically considered Blue Pill till they prove themselves otherwise. The "preachers" of it get laid,...too much,...practically Sociopaths about it. With the Rule Zero crowd the only married ones are Tomassi & Stone. The rest's problem is that they are incapable of forming any kind of real relationship. Their only creative skill is in how creative they can drop the chick and move to the next one,...endlessly,...which MLD-John & Myron from F&F come immediately to mind on that one.
The loudest guys don't pull or approach but buy my new rubbish program. insert some call out of rsd or somebody with receipts. Again, if guys get value from it, be my guest. Atm I only see Troy and Tusk out their approaching live but I can find multi hour posts by marriage coaches. I have seen the roasts man. It's not impressive from a pull perspective never mind playing house but I digress. To then shill rubbish after is comical at best. To each their own.

F&F is funny. It's entertaining but that's not Game. I respect their hustle. the kick outs are hilarious. The overall lack of receipts in the space is beyond boring. It sounds more like a echo chamber of fellas regurgitating the same thing as a blogger who hasn't pulled in decades. Beyond Troy I don't see anybody bringing any actual game value.
 

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Why would it feel like cheating? Why are you so desperate to be in a one on one relationship with a woman? This is validation and approval seeking behavior by you. This will turn women off faster than just about anything else.
+1

It's comical given this isn't a global perspective. it's only a western world view. men are getting girls and it's just the norm elsewhere. monogamy is the path men take who cannot get it any other way. no man with options would be needy for an ltr. it's the reason why I pushback on the premise here by Op. I respectfully disagree with OPS stance. men are lazy. too much puss or a lack thereof followed by 1 girl and he gives us the farm. it's pathetic. it's the same thing as married coaches on YouTube not infield but got some rubbish to shill. it's lazy at best. disingenuous to the max.
 

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Same here. Survival mode, watch it burn, dodge the debris,...say "I told you so".
F&F is hilarious and the kick puts are funny. it's not productive to argument with morons like the kid from roommates did to only fans sloot. The best approach was Aaron Clarey who got up frank castled himself and went to sleep. Enjoy the decline. Pillage what you can. not GAME is bringing back skanks from only fans after they disrespect you and your platform. This is what you see live. Imagine behind closed doors.

@OP mate it's work. No denying it. Approach a handful of times daily on the regular. Marathon not a sprint. Trip to the gym. Grocery store or doing errands. Make it routine. Cultivate the lifestyle. Wtf is the alternative? Just wait? Single mom's? The girl off the carousel ? Most of the coaches on YouTube are marrying the girl off the CC. Not early 20s or late teens top form smv. Not shocking the outcomes fellas get following geeks and dweebz .
 

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Why would it feel like cheating? Why are you so desperate to be in a one on one relationship with a woman? This is validation and approval seeking behavior by you. This will turn women off faster than just about anything else.
I think it stems from laziness on my part. Just slot a women I like into my life and just chill and consentrate on other things.

I enjoy having a women in my life, If I'm honest with myself. I think the main reasons
are companionship, someone to enjoy regular sex with, share interests, go on holidays and trips with, share chores with and to do the more mundane aspects of daily life with such as cooking , shopping e.t.c. .

I'm perfectly capable and enjoy being on my own though. I just find life when in a relationship my life isn't as hectic and is more relaxing.

I'm not even sure if it is approval or validation seeking behaviour (it is hard to view ones self subjectivity) on my part. I guess my main justification for slotting a women in is to fill a specific role in my life.
 

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I think it stems from laziness on my part. Just slot a women I like into my life and just chill and consentrate on other things.

I enjoy having a women in my life, If I'm honest with myself. I think the main reasons
are companionship, someone to enjoy regular sex with, share interests, go on holidays and trips with, share chores with and to do the more mundane aspects of daily life with such as cooking , shopping e.t.c. .

I'm perfectly capable and enjoy being on my own though. I just find life when in a relationship more relaxing and not so hectic.

I'm not even sure if it is approval or validation seeking behaviour although it is hard to view ones self subjectivity.
You suffer from fear of lack. And when you have a fear of lack, you cannot have abundance. And this is true in any area of your life.
 

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You suffer from fear of lack. And when you have a fear of lack, you cannot have abundance. And this is true in any area of your life.
Fear of lack? Why do you say that ?

I struggle with this analysis because I know I could have an abundance of women in my life if I wanted too.

I'm definitely not latching onto women in the fear that they are a rare commodity. I think my mindset is more of you seem compatible , let's slot you in and forget about the dating scene and get on with other stuff. If it doesn't work out that's fine as there are lots of compatible women out there in abundance.

I do genuinely enjoy having a women around. They fill a role and add something to my life.

So I don't mind jumping in a relationship because it doesn't seem like a big deal. Also if it doesn't work out then it doesn't work out. It's hardly life changing, I kinda of see it a bit like having an employee and just nice to have around.

I'm just not seeing w relationship as a big thing.

Although I could be wrong? And deep down there could be a deeper understanding to be had.
 
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Fear of lack? Why do you say that ?

I struggle with this analysis because I know I could have an abundance of women in my life if I wanted too.

I'm definitely not latching onto women in the fear that they are a rare commodity. I think my mindset is more of you seem compatible , let's slot you in and forget about the dating scene and get on with other stuff. If it doesn't work out that's fine as there are lots of compatible women out there in abundance.

I do genuinely enjoy having a women around. They fill a role and add something to my life.

So I don't mind jumping in a relationship because it doesn't seem like a big deal. Also if it doesn't work out then it doesn't work out. It's hardly life changing, I kinda of see it a bit like having an employee and just nice to have around.

I'm just not seeing w relationship as a big thing.

Although I could be wrong? And deep down there could be a deeper understanding to be had.
Because you are afraid of being alone. And that comes through loud and clear even reading your posts...imagine how it must come through to the women you are dating.
 

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Because you are afraid of being alone. And that comes through loud and clear even reading your posts...imagine how it must come through to the women you are dating.
I suppose that is actually a genuine fear. You know like being old and alone, the situation you see some old people in when that persons relatives, friends die off, they eventually can't go out to do stuff and their home becomes like a prison.

It's quite common. It's something I would never want and I think it would be hell.
 

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Required a lot of free time and an unquenchable desire to do it. I have no free time and no desire to lol.
 

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If you are seeing multiple women AND THEY KNOW ABOUT IT, then it becomes much easier then even one. The best possible case is when they actually see you with another or several more attractive woman. They will do all the work for quite a while. I don't think it works if you are sneaking around their backs. That's actually weak, feminine behavior, and they can sense it.
 

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