BeExcellent
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Advice from the old lady:
I think the list is pretty accurate. Self destructivd behaviors (over indulgence in vices) is not an attractive quality. The article skews toward women who are going to be more relationship oriented and equipped, why would such a woman seriously consider a man who exhibits self destructive behavior for a LTR?
She would not want such a man to father her children. He's irresponsible, self destructive & selfish.
Not good husband/father contenders.
I routinely turned down men with bad habits in my 20s. I realized old habits die hard.....I knew if you married that guy you married the bad habit too....and I dated with a LTR mindset so those self destructive habits were instant DQ.....no matter how hot or cool the guy was..... I can remember when hanging out with a great friend & total playboy & partier (he never had a chance to date me because of his bad habits but he was fun to be buddies with) had a good friend who had married a hot girl. She complained constantly and loudly about him being stoned or drunk, and having trouble with work & not wanting a family.
I was like Wow. She's pretty dum b to have married a guy with those habits. Those habits were on display when they were dating.
Hobbies that are not self destructive should be for you, not for purpose of meeting women. Gaming can be a little tiresome. But its cool. When my husband is wanting to spend time gaming I take that opportunity to go do stuff by myself or with friends.
I think the list is pretty accurate. Self destructivd behaviors (over indulgence in vices) is not an attractive quality. The article skews toward women who are going to be more relationship oriented and equipped, why would such a woman seriously consider a man who exhibits self destructive behavior for a LTR?
She would not want such a man to father her children. He's irresponsible, self destructive & selfish.
Not good husband/father contenders.
I routinely turned down men with bad habits in my 20s. I realized old habits die hard.....I knew if you married that guy you married the bad habit too....and I dated with a LTR mindset so those self destructive habits were instant DQ.....no matter how hot or cool the guy was..... I can remember when hanging out with a great friend & total playboy & partier (he never had a chance to date me because of his bad habits but he was fun to be buddies with) had a good friend who had married a hot girl. She complained constantly and loudly about him being stoned or drunk, and having trouble with work & not wanting a family.
I was like Wow. She's pretty dum b to have married a guy with those habits. Those habits were on display when they were dating.
Hobbies that are not self destructive should be for you, not for purpose of meeting women. Gaming can be a little tiresome. But its cool. When my husband is wanting to spend time gaming I take that opportunity to go do stuff by myself or with friends.