Messed up one of my leads

[coachD]

I'm doing boot camp. Went to the mall and had a mostly successful night. Went to a couple of bars to increase my "hello" count.

Ended up at a dive and started flirting with a ****tail waitress who was making eye contact and hanging around in my area even though she wasn't my waitress. I make chit chat and things are going well. However, eventually she gets a little more distant and I'm fine with that. She's very average and I was more interested in learning the game.

So I go by this froyo place where a high school senior (I know...) has been giving me definite IOIs for a couple of months. Teaching at a high school in the same district, but not her's, I keep stuff friendly and flirty but never make any move to progress the situation. I'd be fine legally, but I don't know the district policy I am playing it safe.

So tonight I pull up and go in. She's not working, but she's there...with a freaking ENTOURAGE! I play it cool and walk right past her like I didn't see her. Get my **** and make eye contact and talk to the girl who IS working. On the way out the girl I've been talking to for a while says hi. Somewhere between flirty and friendly. I say what's up and hit the road. I'm pretty sure I ran out of there. As I'm backing out she's in my eye line but not looking my direction. One of her friends is and sarcastically waves at me from inside the shop. I do nothing but pull out and head home thinking I've completely screwed up.

Understand, I don't expect anything from this girl and it's really more of a fun/flirty type of deal. But I can't help think I've screwed even that up beyond repair. I seriously think I ran out the damn door when she said hi.

Should I just eject and never go back? She's obviously somewhat interested since she remembers details about me (like my home state) and has asked about the sushi place next door and if I've tried it. And I'm pretty sure her entourage knew about me since it seemed like I was being watched in addition to the wave.

I know I'm coming off creeper, but it's more of an ego thing than anything. Did I "F" this up beyond recognition? FUBAR?

 

[Interceptor]

Well,yes, you did screw up. If someone waves at you , and youre interested in them wave back, acknowledge them. And if theyre inviting you to them, go ahead. You seemed so worried and in your head about appearing Alpha and disinterested that you ended up shooting yourself in the foot.

Be confident in what you do. Going to a woman who is calling you is not subservient or Beta or afc , or chumpish, etc etc
Just go over and say hello, ask her how she'd doing, how is her day going.
Make it worth her while to have asked you to be by her.

If you are acting so indifferent and unapproachable, then you look weird, creepy, and anti social.
Acting anti social in a social setting does change how females perceive you.


Now unfortunately youve lost an edge, because she invited you first. If you see her again, she will not wave you over eagerly. She will be reserved and cautious.

If you want any contact with her youre going to have to cold approach her.
Youre going to have to go in with confidence, and out of your head, without expectations. Just be fun. Be willing to be fun and social. Ask her questions and hang out with her. When youre feeling be firtatious. Be charming.
Be fun to be around. Thats why youre there. In the club, a social meeting place, youre there to be social meet new people . All that stuff. Let it sink in, and let go of the posturing, planning, analyzing.

Work in real time.
Not in your head.

Good luck.

 

[coachD]

Thanks Interceptor. I keep replaying it in my head. I'm thinking I'll just drop by on the way to the grocery store and say hi. Should I reference the blow off at all? Just pretend it didn't happen?