I have just relocated to a new city, I consider myself to be a recovering AFC. Because I do not have many connections here, I have started to flirt with and meet women online. I have a tendency to get one-itis with chicks and I am trying to break that. I have two situations where I am wondering if I should put in more effort or "next" the women as some would say. The first is this woman I met on match. Whe was really into me, and wrote these long e-mails, and we talked on the phone a couple of times and she seemed almost ready to marry me. We agreed to meet for coffee, but her enthusiasm didn't seem quite as high anymore. I tried some kino and the reactions were mixed. She did not pull away with revulsion, but she did not enthusiastically return the kino either. Admittedly I am still a little shy about this, but it did try to use it. We did talk for two hours and it seemed we had a lot in common that we could talk about together. I had to finish moving that weekend so was kinds flaky and did not call her or anything until monday. On monday I sent a note to her that read like this-
"Hi xxxx,
I sent a message a few days ago through the Match mail, asking how you were and stuff. I am not sure if you got it because you no longer have your profile up there. I am finally done with the moving and am looking forward to relaxing and doing things around here now. Anyway, just saying hi and I hope all is well with you. I enjoyed our meeting last week.
Take care,
Bryan"
and she sent me this-
Hi Bryan,
Happy St. Patti's Day. Sorry I didn't get your last letter. I am taking a break from Match because I just don't have the time or energy for it right now, although I did enjoy our correspondence. I enjoyed chatting with you too and am always open to making new friends. I really don't work a lot, but lately I feel like a workaholic. I've worked 30 hours in the last two days...we've been very busy and short-staffed. I'm amazed I feel as good as I do. Anyways, congrats on finishing your big move. I'm sure you must feel relieved. Take care and talk to ya later. Ciao Ciao.
xxxx"
Sounds like she is giving me the friends speech. Should I try something more or just write her off?
The second woman I was exchanging IM's with, adn I thought things were going well. She is out of state now but will be back in a week. I was realy starting to get into her, and we were joking and teasing. She has no kids, my body type, similar interest, and good rapport. A couple days ago she was online and she did not start instantly talking like she usually does. I sent her a hello and never got anything in return. I should probably write her off as well but I am sad and dissappointed she no longer seems interested. I figure I have nothing to lose if I try to re-establish something, but am not sure how to go about doing it without coming across as a total AFC.
One thing I did with this gal is that I always ended it first, not for any game play but because I had to get to bed about 9:30. She even sent a kissing smiley to me. She was always the last to say goodbye as well, perhaps she thought I wasn't into her?
"Hi xxxx,
I sent a message a few days ago through the Match mail, asking how you were and stuff. I am not sure if you got it because you no longer have your profile up there. I am finally done with the moving and am looking forward to relaxing and doing things around here now. Anyway, just saying hi and I hope all is well with you. I enjoyed our meeting last week.
Take care,
Bryan"
and she sent me this-
Hi Bryan,
Happy St. Patti's Day. Sorry I didn't get your last letter. I am taking a break from Match because I just don't have the time or energy for it right now, although I did enjoy our correspondence. I enjoyed chatting with you too and am always open to making new friends. I really don't work a lot, but lately I feel like a workaholic. I've worked 30 hours in the last two days...we've been very busy and short-staffed. I'm amazed I feel as good as I do. Anyways, congrats on finishing your big move. I'm sure you must feel relieved. Take care and talk to ya later. Ciao Ciao.
xxxx"
Sounds like she is giving me the friends speech. Should I try something more or just write her off?
The second woman I was exchanging IM's with, adn I thought things were going well. She is out of state now but will be back in a week. I was realy starting to get into her, and we were joking and teasing. She has no kids, my body type, similar interest, and good rapport. A couple days ago she was online and she did not start instantly talking like she usually does. I sent her a hello and never got anything in return. I should probably write her off as well but I am sad and dissappointed she no longer seems interested. I figure I have nothing to lose if I try to re-establish something, but am not sure how to go about doing it without coming across as a total AFC.
One thing I did with this gal is that I always ended it first, not for any game play but because I had to get to bed about 9:30. She even sent a kissing smiley to me. She was always the last to say goodbye as well, perhaps she thought I wasn't into her?