So true.People here often say that you have to date young, because any older and the women get jaded, entitled, alpha widowed, and have trouble pair bonding. The problem is that what you say is also true. Getting seriously involved in a very young woman is a big risk because they are likely to change at some point, become dissatisfied, and start wondering what they've been missing. Unfortunately in today's culture, there aren't many good options when it comes to LTRs, it's always a roll of the dice.
One of my divorced cousins who I just finished a post about built his life around a relationship with a substantially younger woman. They started when he was 25 and she was 18 and a high school senior. He really pushed his social circle to put the two of them together. While there is big appeal in building around an 18 year old with an essentially blank slate, the relationship ultimately failed. This was a 10+ year long relationship and a 5 year marriage. The relationship was childless. My cousin wanted kids, but she kept postponing the issue because ultimately I think she knew it wasn't going to last. She was wise not to bring a child into the world in an unhealthy relationship between the parents. She ended the relationship when she was 29. My cousin got her absolute prime years. I think she felt the pressure of turning 30 and being in a mediocre to subpar relationship with a guy who was a bad fit for her.
I've made to 37, never married, no kids, and engaged in short to medium term relationships. I've experienced trauma. In my 30s, I've dated women close to my own age who are jaded and have trouble pair bonding. I never had a great opportunity like my cousin to build around an 18-21 year old though that doesn't always work out as was the case with my cousin.
Agree.I think there can be a sweet spot in your thirties (and perhaps forties I don't know: I'm 38) where most younger girls don't automatically screen you out and you have a much better game/a stronger frame than when you were in your twenties.
From 30-36, it's possible to date a fairly wide range of women. A 35 year old with a 25 year old isn't that unusual though it is more difficult to achieve.2019 was my best year in the game since I first got into it way back in 2005. Average age of the 29 girls I hooked up with was about 25; I dated 2 girls for more than a month, one 22yo and one 32yo. There's just more range now.
A certain magic can happen with the first interaction being in-person. I know I've gotten more women to pay attention to me in-person. It is likely that many of these women would have filtered me on a swipe app.Yes, some younger girls will screen you out - so a social circle 20 yo asked me out for a drink online last year and then backed off when she found out my age. But this is more about the online barrier imo: had we been interacting in person I highly doubt she would have given a ****. When you have game things like that still matter, but you can short circuit them to an extent 'in the field'. This is what makes me sad about everything moving online: it institutionalizes arbitrary selection criteria.
I've not experienced women in their 30s chasing me while I've been in my 30s. The so-called SMV bump of the 30s never arrived for me, just like the so-called reduction in rates on car insurance when you turn 25 also wasn't something I noticed.On the plus side though, I actually now get chased by 30-something women (during the pandemic I've been asked out I think 4 times by social circle women through dms). I'm by no means super-chad or anything: I'm like a 7.5-8 if I've been hitting the gym hard and everything is on-point). However the average late 30s male - i.e. my competition - is basically a trash fire.
You're right about white collar, corporate work ruining people's spirits. A lot of white collar work is mind numbingly dull and not at all exciting or sexy. Since most women don't work in a blue collar field, they have to deal with the nonsense of a white collar environment. More men have moved into white collar roles in the last 4-5 decades as factory work moved overseas and more women entered the workforce. I recall thinking at one of my jobs in the mid-2010s how decidedly non-sexual the office was. Additionally, since I do not shiit where I eat, that probably also contributed to my perception of that place. I've had similar perceptions of workplaces where I've worked since that one. In the jobs I've had, I've had zero "hot" female co-workers. A few women I'd deem as "cute" but not worth the hassles of an office romance.A lot of my peers - both male and female - have a leaden, heavy vibe about them. Everything is serious; it's like they've forgotten how to be loose and carefree (I think the corporate environment does this to people as they get older). And so when you roll up with the so-called 'seducer's aura', you give people a flash of light. I think this is part of what's often called charisma or 'state' or whatever.
A younger, tighter, sexier body is the main benefit. A side benefit would include a woman with a better attitude in life after not getting beaten down by failed relationships and the soul killing experiences of some white collar working environment.What do you see as a benefit in this besides looks?