This is not as different from men as you think. We just don't backwards-rationalize or reverse engineer it. We don't blame our desire to seek other people out on our partner(as often). If you are able to fall in and out of love then you are not so different than men. Certainly in practice, mindreading aside.For me, I receive quite a bit of attention and get hit on as well, but the difference for me is that when . . . in love with my SO, I have absolutely NO desire to cheat. Unlike men, I am a naturally monogamous person, it's my nature to be monogamous.