Making moves with a movie star

BeExcellent

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Advice from the old lady:

Just in case this isn’t a troll....very high status women get lots of attention/publicity and must be image conscious. Reputation is everything.

They will expect men to behave in a masculine manner. The fact that you texted is fine. She isn’t going to chase you. Why would she? Be a man and make a move, but be cool about it. She may be involved with someone already...she may have an overwhelming amount of admirers or handlers. You need to calm down and understand that her life is busy. Even if she liked you & remembers you, she is pulled in 60 different directions...so patience is key.

My advice is this:

Wait until this Sunday afternoon to contact her. Have something you are already doing that you can invite her to join you at. Include her friends. The idea is twofold: 1. To see if she is responsive at all...and 2. To see if she shows up or expresses interest at all.

Ideally you’d have a gig you’re playing that you could invite her group to so she can see you in your element.

Something like this:

“Hey (Name), it’s Voavoavoa. Next Friday after your performance drop by the XYZ venue. My band is playing and I’d be happy to include you and your friends on the guest list.”

It’s low pressure, not beta, something you are doing anyway and shows interest but isn’t supplication at all.

You have to have patience on this one. And you have to win the favor of her handlers at first in addition to just her.
 

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Advice from the old lady:

Just in case this isn’t a troll....very high status women get lots of attention/publicity and must be image conscious. Reputation is everything.

They will expect men to behave in a masculine manner. The fact that you texted is fine. She isn’t going to chase you. Why would she? Be a man and make a move, but be cool about it. She may be involved with someone already...she may have an overwhelming amount of admirers or handlers. You need to calm down and understand that her life is busy. Even if she liked you & remembers you, she is pulled in 60 different directions...so patience is key.

My advice is this:

Wait until this Sunday afternoon to contact her. Have something you are already doing that you can invite her to join you at. Include her friends. The idea is twofold: 1. To see if she is responsive at all...and 2. To see if she shows up or expresses interest at all.

Ideally you’d have a gig you’re playing that you could invite her group to so she can see you in your element.

Something like this:

“Hey (Name), it’s Voavoavoa. Next Friday after your performance drop by the XYZ venue. My band is playing and I’d be happy to include you and your friends on the guest list.”

It’s low pressure, not beta, something you are doing anyway and shows interest but isn’t supplication at all.

You have to have patience on this one. And you have to win the favor of her handlers at first in addition to just her.
Thanks for this in-depth reply! My plan was very much that, to be bold and make a strong move - I already had been as much as I could on the night we met. She mentioned to my friend, who is in a play with her atm, that she totally wants to come and see me play a gig, however I'm currently doing a lot of recording and am only in the early stages with a project that I am gigging with, so I wouldn't want to invite her to a gig that isn't absolutely booming.

I know that she was seeing an older guy before but has mentioned to my friend that she wants to be with an artist/musician and live more adventurously. So I was thinking to call her and say 'listen we're going on an adventure!' - She also plays music, so was thinking I could say about hanging out and playing music together but still making my sexual/romantic imperative clear - if I get to her/mine with a guitar in my hands then she's mine without a shadow of a doubt! - Also she finishes a play run Saturday night so was thinking to wait until the weekend after so that she is back in her hometown and to not seem too keen - however do you think that is too long a gap? Also my friend is going to surreptitiously play one of my songs in warm up tomorrow to pique her curiosity further.

What do you reckon ? ^^
 

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Advice from the old lady:

Just in case this isn’t a troll....very high status women get lots of attention/publicity and must be image conscious. Reputation is everything.

They will expect men to behave in a masculine manner. The fact that you texted is fine. She isn’t going to chase you. Why would she? Be a man and make a move, but be cool about it. She may be involved with someone already...she may have an overwhelming amount of admirers or handlers. You need to calm down and understand that her life is busy. Even if she liked you & remembers you, she is pulled in 60 different directions...so patience is key.

My advice is this:

Wait until this Sunday afternoon to contact her. Have something you are already doing that you can invite her to join you at. Include her friends. The idea is twofold: 1. To see if she is responsive at all...and 2. To see if she shows up or expresses interest at all.

Ideally you’d have a gig you’re playing that you could invite her group to so she can see you in your element.

Something like this:

“Hey (Name), it’s Voavoavoa. Next Friday after your performance drop by the XYZ venue. My band is playing and I’d be happy to include you and your friends on the guest list.”

It’s low pressure, not beta, something you are doing anyway and shows interest but isn’t supplication at all.

You have to have patience on this one. And you have to win the favor of her handlers at first in addition to just her.
From the male viewpoint we are not trying to add to her throng. After he makes her aware of him its up to her for her to desire and choose him. Trying to outdate everyone else is bullshyt. Thats something most men are trying to do. The difference with him will be his confidence, the fact hetm doesnt need her and he will not pursue her. Wonen are always aware if the guy they want and hungry for him. That out dating and fitting in her timetable bullshyt is a SCAM.
 

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she was seemed shy and very concerned about other people seeing her romancing
She's not interested in you. Number she gave you could be someone else's. Bottom line you two did nothing that evening, and her scheduling for sometime later down the road when she maybe comes into city or whatever, it's all sht. Pursue it and you will become an arbiter.
 

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Just because a woman is in a play doesnt mean she is a movie star.

Had she been a movie star, you would have recognized her immediately.

April 25th registered date for OP- I smell Troll.
 

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Just because a woman is in a play doesnt mean she is a movie star.

Had she been a movie star, you would have recognized her immediately.

April 25th registered date for OP- I smell
She's not interested in you. Number she gave you could be someone else's. Bottom line you two did nothing that evening, and her scheduling for sometime later down the road when she maybe comes into city or whatever, it's all sht. Pursue it and you will become an arbiter.
Very optimistic pal - tha
From the male viewpoint we are not trying to add to her throng. After he makes her aware of him its up to her for her to desire and choose him. Trying to outdate everyone else is bullshyt. Thats something most men are trying to do. The difference with him will be his confidence, the fact hetm doesnt need her and he will not pursue her. Wonen are always aware if the guy they want and hungry for him. That out dating and fitting in her timetable bullshyt is a SCAM.
So according to this logic you can only be with girls that come to you? That's doesn't seem very Alpha - taking what you can get rather than pursuing what you want?

How then do you get the high level babes choosing you?
 

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1 fish has swallowed the whole troll bait - hook line and sinker and seems oblivious to it even when I posted the hint earlier.

OP, you did a favor for that fish, he now knows he needs more training.
 

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So according to this logic you can only be with girls that come to you? That's doesn't seem very Alpha - taking what you can get rather than pursuing what you want?

How then do you get the high level babes choosing you?
She will provide a choosing signal. You will approach and she will show a huge interest. She will want to be around you.
 

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But I wanna be with this woman and due to her circumstances if I don't chase she just may never contact me - which although I appreciate the logic that there are so many women in the world, this one is particularly interesting to me.
Then to paraphrase Yoda, lost you have already.
 

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yo everybody,

I would greatly appreciate some of your wisdom as I am a bit stuck.

I went to see a play that a good friend of mine was in on Saturday night and went for a night out with the cast afterwards. There was a girl there, an actress in the play, whom I could feel there was a vibe going. We went dancing and I moved in, however she was seemed shy and very concerned about other people seeing her romancing. During the night people came up to her I assumed because they had seen her in the play. The night went on and we were holding hands and having a real nice connection however there were too many of her cast mates around for me to be able to isolate her and get anywhere further. I left with her number and we agreed to meet back in the city in a few weeks when she's back.

I found out when I left from my friend who is in the play that she is actually a really famous actress and the people coming up to her were engaging with her because of the films she's been in not the play.

So now I have this super high status girl that I want to engage with but am not really sure how. I'm a rockstar myself and am incredibly talented but don't have anywhere near as much money/social status as her (yet!)

I text her the day after saying that it was a real delight dancing and chatting with her and that it felt quite cosmic - she hasn't replied. I recognise now this may have been a bit beta but its what I felt to do.

What should I do next? how should I approach this now? - she seemed really into me on the night but also seemed somewhat reluctant to engage, I think due to her fame.

Peace people
You're not going after Chrissy Metz... Are you?
 

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1 fish has swallowed the whole troll bait - hook line and sinker and seems oblivious to it even when I posted the hint earlier.

OP, you did a favor for that fish, he now knows he needs more training.
Quite suprisingly I am not trolling and actually only signed up to seek advice as I really like this girl - I understand it sounds outrageous but its where I am
and have been fretting about it because I don't wanna **** it up
 

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He knew hed get some of us riled up.
Spaz said:
1 fish has swallowed the whole troll bait - hook line and sinker and seems oblivious to it even when I posted the hint earlier.

OP, you did a favor for that fish, he now knows he needs more training.
Quite suprisingly I am not trolling and actually only signed up to seek advice as I really like this girl - I understand it sounds outrageous but its where I am
and have been fretting about it because I don't wanna **** it up
 
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